Heartbreak89 Posted July 2, 2016 Posted July 2, 2016 (edited) Hey, this is my first post here on Loveshack. Well i really wanted to share my story with you guys, it is actually 3 month old story. I met a girl on Facebook for about 2 years ago. We both used to talked to each other whole day and used to skype as well. We fell in love with each other, i know we had not met in person but we were from some family and religious background and knew each other from mutual friends. We both were Pakistanis, she used to live in Australia and i live in Europe. We had our difficulties in meeting, as we both were pursuing our masters degree. We made plan to meet each other at different times but our other commitments came in between. Then we decided to meet with her in India in May, as i had submitted my masters thesis. I heard some news on then net that it is not appropriate to go to Pakistan because of some political tensions going on in the country. I was discussing it with her about this 31st May 2016. She suddenly started getting very angry, even though i was just discussing it with her. Then we did not talk for next 3-4 days, i was waiting for her to call me, as she can't even stay without talking for more then 24 hrs. I called her on the 4th day and i just couldn't recognize her. She talked very rudely and started saying if she could she would have blocked me from all places. I started crying, as i just couldnt believe it was her. I called after sometime again as i just couldnt lose her. She just refused to come on phone and everytime gave the phone to her friend. On the 6th day she called me and started threatening me that if i every contact her again she will call the police and when i said what have i done, i was just discussing with you to move our meeting for time being, because of fear. She was if she could, she would have come to europe and have slapped me. It was really bad, i broke as i went out of home to talk to her. One month later i saw on facebook she got engaged to someone else. After i saw her pictures on facebook, i messaged her twice on email and once on whatsapp to tell her my final feelings. I told her that i truly loved her, we had our fights, but i never expected her to do what she did. Today i have got a good job and completed my masters degree. But even today after 3 months, i feel the pain. In the start i used to break down on small things, i couldnt focus on anything as i was missing her badly. It hurts less today, as i have learned to live without anyones presence and she was my first love. I dont know if you guys will call it love without meeting. But i feel that love doesn't need to have someone by your side, you can love longdistance as well. But yeah the pain is not someone i am able to bear, i loved her but she betrayed me..... Edited July 2, 2016 by Heartbreak89
ExpatInItaly Posted July 2, 2016 Posted July 2, 2016 I would venture to say she had been with another man all along and she was actually betraying him by getting close to you. It would explain why she suddenly cut all contact with you - she was afraid of getting caught or maybe he found out what she was doing and threatened to leave her if she didn't block all contact with you. The truth is that you don't really know someone until you have spent time together in person. Before that, all you know is what they tell you, which is often not the full story. Moving forward, my advice is to not form such an attachment to someone you have never met. It's just not wise, no matter how great the other person might seem. 1
Sunkissedpatio Posted July 2, 2016 Posted July 2, 2016 I would venture to say she had been with another man all along and she was actually betraying him by getting close to you. It would explain why she suddenly cut all contact with you - she was afraid of getting caught or maybe he found out what she was doing and threatened to leave her if she didn't block all contact with you. The truth is that you don't really know someone until you have spent time together in person. Before that, all you know is what they tell you, which is often not the full story. Moving forward, my advice is to not form such an attachment to someone you have never met. It's just not wise, no matter how great the other person might seem. These are my thoughts exactly! I also feel she was already attached when she met you online. I'm sorry you must feeling quite shocked right now. An online connection can be very powerful and the fantasies we create in our minds of what it will be like to be with someone once we meet them in person can also be a very dangerous thing because the reality rarely meets fantasy. Like ExpatInItaly said, you only really get to know someone when you are with them in person day-in day-out. And even then sometimes we don't really know someone but in the least we can gauge for the most part if they are available, it sounds like your woman wasn't. Im sorry...
Author Heartbreak89 Posted July 2, 2016 Author Posted July 2, 2016 Thanks for the reply. Well maybe that is true. But the strange thing is that my mom and her mom used to talk after we both started loving each other. I even sent her Valentine gift because i really loved her. Maybe she was dating someone on my back or maybe her mother found someone suddenly for her that i dont know. But the only thing i know is that i truly loved her, after she broke with me, i used to cry a lot and used to go long walks alone with deep thoughts. I messaged her quite few times after she broke, but strangely not even one reply could she do. After her engagement i sent har a last message and i wished her best of luck, as i dont want to ruin anyones relationship. I have learned it feels terrible myself. But..... Even today after 3 months i feel this strange emptiness and i miss her.
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