sweetie7 Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 I am seriously getting soo annoyed with myself- I want to know how I can stop acting like this. Okay, so I definitely trust my bf (we've been together over a year). But I get soo jealous when we're not together. Or if we're hanging out with other people and he doesn't pay enough attention to me. He's extremely outgoing and friendly and just a social butterfly. I am more reserved and calm I guess. He works away every week so I really only see him on the weekends and if he wants to hang out with other people I get upset. Also, when we're with his friends and I see him acting differently I get mad. Like he doesn't drink much at all and is pretty much against it, but when he's with his drinker friends he acts like drinking is the best thing ever and it annoys me soo much. Also, he wants to go to canada with his friend later this summer. Obviously I wouldn't stop him but his friend drinks like crazy, cheats on his gf, and loves strip clubs so obvisouly that's what he'd be doing there (besides the cheating part). Anyway, I always tell myself to relax and now get mad (or at least not let him know I am) but I can't help it. I know I'm being ridiculous and insecure and annoying but my blood just boils and I cannot control my emotions. Anyone have any advice for me?? I really want to change!
westernxer Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 Put a chain around him... isn't this what you want?
ImaManDammit Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 Well its seems that you are judging him by the the company he keeps, or are realizing that he can be a different person that what you see him as. This is all part of growing a relationship. So this is actually healthy, since you need to decide if the two of you are compatible. What's not healthy is your emotions behind it. Talk it out instead of getting upset. ASK him why he acts that way when around friends and not around you, without a confortational tone. Most importantly LISTEN to what he has to say.
Marshbear Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 The very things that attract you to him are the very things you are jealous of. His outgoing personality and friendliness. You like this because it makes you want to hang around him but the thought of him being this way when you are not around causes fears in you. You don't trust him. Jealousy is very damaging in a relationship. If you can't control it I fear you will lose him. You have to realize he is with you for a reason. Keep this fact in mind when the green monster rears. If you can't do it by yourself then you might need to seek counseling. Peace...
griftymcgriff Posted June 28, 2005 Posted June 28, 2005 Wow, you sound like me...but im a guy :S so that makes me a wuss! bwahaha. Oh down i go! My solution to getting around it...dont think about it, do something fun. Danger is always a good thing
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