Mjm1014 Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 (edited) Just wondering.. Let's say you see a short dude 5'4-5'8 that's built as ****, rock solid, how would you compare him to a tall guy that's 6+ft and average build? I always hear from girls "I like height because it means he can protect me" but what about build? Lots of short dudes can take on tall dudes. Just wondering...I'm by no means tall and by no means "built" but got in a friendly conversation with a friend about it tonight. Girls what are your thoughts? Would you pick the taller dude that was average in athletics (so you can wear heals) or pick the dude that can kick someone's *** if need be and has a body of a warrior? Always hear height is a huge deal but it makes little sense if the guy is built. Just wondering. -----FYI my friend is in ufc-----he's an intimidating dude but girls still dismiss him at times due to height (female logic) hahahah Edited July 1, 2016 by Mjm1014 1
Buddhist Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 Neither. I tend to go for short guys with petite builds. If I want someone to protect me I'll hire a bodyguard. I don't need to date one. In any case being protected from what exactly? The modern world is mostly safe, it's not as if I need a vanguard of sell swords to attend local market. I rather think the 'protect me' stuff is just female BS for I prefer my guys tall and he's some pseudo reason for my preference. Pseudo here being the operative word. 5
Scarlett.O'hara Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 I don't have a height or build preference. I am attracted to individual men for numerous reasons, personality being a huge factor so I could go either way. However, one thing that is a huge turn off for me is aggressive men. If a guy uses his size to intimidate others or get into fights, he wont be attractive to me at all. Some guys just look intimidating, Brock Lesnar, for example. He might be a sweet guy behind that all that aggression, but if he approached me for my number, I would be terrified. Now I'm not saying your friend is like that, but it is possible that your friend is being overlooked not because of his height, but because he comes across as aggressive or intimidating? Just a thought. 2
lana-banana Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 Yeah, I can deadlift almost double my body weight; I don't need a defender, thanks! I'm also 5'1 so I can wear heels any time. Seriously though, I don't have a preference. I've never cared about being taller than my boyfriend and I don't think most women do, at least not once you hit your mid-20s. Right around then is when most people realize their physical "checklists" don't mean much and real chemistry cam happen with anyone at any time. There is a stereotype about extremely short, extremely jacked guys---namely that they're aggressive, competitive and overcompensating. I've only known two guys who fit the stereotype. The others were just guys who got into heavy weight lifting as young teenagers and didn't realize it'd stunt their growth. Oops. 1
Els Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 A 5'8" guy isn't even short IMO, he's got more than 6 inches on me! 5
Lois_Griffin Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 5'8" and muscular is EXACTLY my type. Tall guys do nothing for me. Nothing. Being only 5' tall, I don't need to be with a giant. 1
Emilia Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 I like guys around my height, I've dated them predominantly, in fact I can only think of two exceptions over the last 25 years. I find similar height much more intimate, I've never really been into handholding but I like walking really close to my mate, feeling the length of his body and his arms touching mine. It makes me feel close. I like standing behind him when he is ordering drinks in a bar knowing it's turning him on that he can feel my body and I'm whispering in his ear . It's hot. I like not straining my neck looking up but just quietly talking really close. It works well in bed too and I get more room to sleep!!! oh and I don't need protecting.
xxoo Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 -----FYI my friend is in ufc-----he's an intimidating dude but girls still dismiss him at times due to height (female logic) hahahah I'm attracted to a shorter, built guy. I'm repelled by comments like "female logic". 7
tinkerbell16 Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 Just wondering.. Let's say you see a short dude 5'4-5'8 that's built as ****, rock solid, how would you compare him to a tall guy that's 6+ft and average build? I always hear from girls "I like height because it means he can protect me" but what about build? Lots of short dudes can take on tall dudes. Just wondering...I'm by no means tall and by no means "built" but got in a friendly conversation with a friend about it tonight. Girls what are your thoughts? Would you pick the taller dude that was average in athletics (so you can wear heals) or pick the dude that can kick someone's *** if need be and has a body of a warrior? Always hear height is a huge deal but it makes little sense if the guy is built. Just wondering. -----FYI my friend is in ufc-----he's an intimidating dude but girls still dismiss him at times due to height (female logic) hahahah I prefer tall ish and lean. It's nice to be able to rest my head on their chest when we hug
Emilia Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 -----FYI my friend is in ufc-----he's an intimidating dude but girls still dismiss him at times due to height (female logic) hahahah Ah missed this first time round. I have no time for intimidating muscle heads
stillafool Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 Neither. I tend to go for short guys with petite builds. If I want someone to protect me I'll hire a bodyguard. I don't need to date one. In any case being protected from what exactly? The modern world is mostly safe, it's not as if I need a vanguard of sell swords to attend local market. I rather think the 'protect me' stuff is just female BS for I prefer my guys tall and he's some pseudo reason for my preference. Pseudo here being the operative word. I agree. What's with all this "protection" women speak of? Where do they live and what are they involved in that they need so much "protection". OP, even though my husband is 6'4 I'm a woman who goes for faces.
joseb Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 I agree. What's with all this "protection" women speak of? Where do they live and what are they involved in that they need so much "protection". OP, even though my husband is 6'4 I'm a woman who goes for faces. Haha, when I read this first I though you meant like you eye gouge as a means of protection!! 2
stillafool Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 Haha, when I read this first I though you meant like you eye gouge as a means of protection!! LOL, no but that is a good idea!
Toodaloo Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 I used to take on large farm animals and wayward horses... I can throw a punch and take a kick better than most muscle heads... Instead of either I would go for the guy that actually gives a damn about me nd makes me feel special... Thats the one I would go for. 3
Lorenza Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 Umm... Tall AND well built? Don't blame me, I'm a 5'8 girl who's into fitness! 1
RecentChange Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 Like others, I don't really feel that I need a man to protect me. That said, I am not going to pretend that I do not find certain body types more sexy than others. I am 5'6" solid and pretty strong / muscular (I have heard quote "your legs are ridiculous") - I like a guy to be bigger physical presence than I am. I joke that I don't want to be left feeling like Xena the warrior princess. So a bit taller than me at least, a 5'8" better be pretty damn solid / wide shouldered otherwise he feels small to me. Thinking back, I was more physically attracted to the 6'2" altheltic guy than I was the 5'9" gym rat / triathlete. And back to protection. Yeah yeah I can hold my own, but its nice to not have to. My guy isn't huge, 5'10" strong / built/ wide - but even more, if you are looking for protection, it's about attitude, courage. "Agressive" isn't protective, that causes problems. I appreciate the ways my guy has protected me. He is absolutely brave in the face of any threat, does a great job of sheltering me from danger (be it a lunatic on the streets of SF, or a sudden rowdy bar fight), and his physical presence plus his attitude are intimidating when they need to be. I have been the "tougher" one in relationships before. Not a role I prefer - no thanks.
thefooloftheyear Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 (edited) Most male higher level bodybuilders are pretty short...I'm pretty short at 5'6ish, but very well built, classic mesomorph physique type, and packed with muscle..Thing is at my size (220+ ) there is nothing small, and I "dwarf" a typical 5'11" 180 lb guy.. Never had any issue attracting women...*shrug* Its pretty rare to see guys as tall as Dwayne Johnson with a good physique like he has.....That's probably the ultimate in male desirability...most tall guys look awkward as hell, are either skinny/fat or look like Shrek.... TFY Edited July 1, 2016 by thefooloftheyear
RecentChange Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 Its pretty rare to see guys as tall as Dwayne Johnson with a good physique like he has.....That's probably the ultimate in male desirability...most tall guys look awkward as hell, are either skinny/fat or look like Shrek.... TFY The Rock? Naw, I know at least I, and my female friends (who discuss such things).... too bulky / muscular. Now soccer players? Swimmers? 2
No_Go Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 I'm 5'7 and when I was dating, I was looking for guys at least a little bit taller than me... I just find it visually more appealing, not for 'protection'.. tall and lean is cool. Having said that - 5'8-5'9 would have been ok. BUT real 5'8. Because in dating sites I have noticed guys consistently overstate their height. I.e. 5'8 in OLD is actually 5'5-5'6... I was wildly attracted in the past to guy that was about my height and very lean... I lost like 20 pounds and was looking borderline anorexic to look better next to him haha. And he still picked someone else. He just liked super short petite women I think :|
stillafool Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 The Rock? Naw, I know at least I, and my female friends (who discuss such things).... too bulky / muscular. Now soccer players? Swimmers? I agree. The rock doesn't turn me on at all. I too like men that are more slender with toned muscles. Too much bulk looks nasty to me. 3
jen1447 Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 oh and I don't need protecting. Yes, I'll kick the ass, thank you. 2
thefooloftheyear Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 (edited) I agree. The rock doesn't turn me on at all. I too like men that are more slender with toned muscles. Too much bulk looks nasty to me. I wont say this is true of any poster, but when I hear these comments, its kinda the same as the guys who say they prefer flat chested women over women that are stacked.. And just like the analogy above, where the women with the rockin' body is going to be getting a lot of male attention, so perhaps is the same with the well built guy as far as getting attention from women....Some people(men and women)just don't want and aren't prepared to deal with that emotionally...so they avoid it... Like I said, it could be merely a choice, but its hard for me to accept that a woman could call a guy like DJ, "nasty"....he's actually not even that bulky, really..6'5" and 250 is about average for an athletically built male...... TFY Edited July 1, 2016 by thefooloftheyear
Toodaloo Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 I do like a bit of a Dad Bod going on. I don't like too skinny or too muscly. I just like someone who can go out and have fun with me, walks, bike rides, dancing, lazer quest... and not have to worry that he is going to keel over in the middle of it. I do struggle to keep the drool in my mouth at rugby games... and I know of several men over 6ft 6ins who are the proverbial, built like a brick **** house... I think the reason why I like rugger players is because they have a bit of meat on them with out it being over the top. Some of my friends go for really skinny guys. Some go for shorter some go for taller... I don't think there is any such thing as the perfect male physique... we vary so much in our tastes so much. Personally I have always thought it a good thing.
GorillaTheater Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 be it a lunatic on the streets of SF And Jesus, there didn't seem to be a lack of them. There were times when I wish I had an even bigger guy to protect me. 3
Emilia Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 I don't find the Rock attractive at all, I tried to talk guys out of that look before Please please please don't overdo it. It's really not attractive. He pulls women because he is rich and famous. 2
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