nerdlingZA Posted July 3, 2016 Posted July 3, 2016 Unless you have money for a lot of babysitters and/or daycare or relatives who'd like to keep your kids about three times a week, you don't have time for dating. No man wants to be put after the kids. All men want alone time and priority time and to feel like they're a couple, not just a side dish with the kids being the main dish. (And yes, of course, the kids ARE the main dish -- not saying they shouldn't be). If you get a man with his own kids, then you will just quadruple the logistics problems, but yet a man without kids will likely have no patience for this. And a man who has kids but doesn't have any custody -- well, there's a reason for that, so you don't want him around your kids or your kids getting attached. You can't just find a guy you like and have him move right in, which would be the thing that would make things easier for you logistically. You can't do that to the kids because he probably won't stay and you don't know him well enough. So again, unless you have relatives sharing child responsibilities regularly so you can actually spend time on a relationship, I don't see it happening, but I wish you luck. If you do date, however, time to use birth control. Once most of your kids are out of the house is probably when things will loosen up for you to date again, realistically. But there are always exceptions. the only sensible poster here! this is wht I greatly dislike seeking advices online sometimes, 80% of posters in this thread are all giving the OP false hope, im not saying she cant find a decent man or what not. but 6 is a HUGE number seriously people, when is she going to find the time ? if alk these kids were teens or college age thingd would be better, but she has toddlers who need her to be there at all times. put yourself in a guy that would date you OP, if I wanted to spend time with you during the weekend and your kids needed, do u think I would put up with dat ? Thats how conflict among children and parents begins. 1
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