Having me on?

[Claire84]

I met a guy 3 years ago, at the time he kept touching me and we had only just met which he made me feel uncomfortable - so I rejected his advances. As time went on he apologised and we became acquaintances as we had mutual friends. I became to like him so a few months later I told him I liked him and he rejected me in a nasty way telling me I only had my looks and that I am not serious for a relationship. I think he was getting his own back for being initially rejected even though we both spoke about it after it happened.

 

I have seen him out and about when I have been out and tried avoiding him. 2 years after he rejected me he requested to follow me on social media, I don't know why I accepted him but I think I wanted to show him what he missed out on. Plus I thought why is he interested in my life now. For the past year I have avoided social gatherings which he would be at so I can forget my feelings.

 

Why is it now 3 years after this has happened he wants to go for a drink with me? I feel so angry that he thinks he can turn me down in a nasty way and spend 3 years on 3 other dating websites. If I wasn't so good enough why didn't he settle with someone off match.com? Is this guy using me as a back up plan after he played the field? I don't know if he should have a second chance or I am being stupid. What can I do as I need to move on.

[Redhead14]

I met a guy 3 years ago, at the time he kept touching me and we had only just met which he made me feel uncomfortable - so I rejected his advances. As time went on he apologised and we became acquaintances as we had mutual friends. I became to like him so a few months later I told him I liked him and he rejected me in a nasty way telling me I only had my looks and that I am not serious for a relationship. I think he was getting his own back for being initially rejected even though we both spoke about it after it happened.

 

I have seen him out and about when I have been out and tried avoiding him. 2 years after he rejected me he requested to follow me on social media, I don't know why I accepted him but I think I wanted to show him what he missed out on. Plus I thought why is he interested in my life now. For the past year I have avoided social gatherings which he would be at so I can forget my feelings.

 

Why is it now 3 years after this has happened he wants to go for a drink with me? I feel so angry that he thinks he can turn me down in a nasty way and spend 3 years on 3 other dating websites. If I wasn't so good enough why didn't he settle with someone off match.com? Is this guy using me as a back up plan after he played the field? I don't know if he should have a second chance or I am being stupid. What can I do as I need to move on.

 

He's hit a dry spell and grabbing at straws. Keep moving.

 

For the past year I have avoided social gatherings -- For one year you've been avoiding and not doing things you want to do because of 'feelings" left over from some guy you dated for a short time and who pissed you off????????? I don't get that at all. I woulda been all over that scene and seen with other people and having a great time. I might avoid situations for a brief time if I had dated someone for a longer period of time, but not this guy.

 

Don't respond to this guy. No contact and stay that way. Go wherever you feel like going even if you think he might be there. There was nothing between you two and you shouldn't be altering your life for anyone.