RecentChange Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 Exactly what I said: You don't understand what a right is. Perhaps he does not have a RIGHT to know, she isn't obligated to tell, and he isn't obligated to take her back. She sure has a right to secrets, but she has no right to demand to keep secrets from someone she wants to have a relationship with. She can keep her right to secrecy, and remain single. 2
phineas Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 Perhaps he does not have a RIGHT to know, she isn't obligated to tell, and he isn't obligated to take her back. She sure has a right to secrets, but she has no right to demand to keep secrets from someone she wants to have a relationship with. She can keep her right to secrecy, and remain single. If she is a danger to herself or others he has every right to know. If op spent a yr in prison i guess his GF doesn't have the right to know? If that's how we are playing it right? 1
Chief Wiggum Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 Exactly what I said: You don't understand what a right is. Well, if by 'right' we're talking about a God-given right to be told everything we want to know, then no, he probably doesn't. But if in the context of a relationship where SHE wants a commitment from him, then he kinda' does.
Chief Wiggum Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 She either ended up in a mental institution or she was with another man. She contacted you because she was either released or the other man dropped her. I personally would not take the next step with a woman like this. Hell, I would never of taken back a chick that fell off the face of the earth for a yr. Finally. I'm glad someone said it. I mean, think about it. Two pretty big things have happened: She unexpectedly dumps and cuts you off.....without explaining whyShe experiences something which leads to he depression.....without explaining what that incident was There's a reason why she's conveniently forgetting things. Maybe, just MAYBE, she found another guy and is too ashamed to tell you she dumped you for him. And then that guy used and dumped her to send her crashing into depression. Simply put, these empty, unexplained patches of her past that you mention, are cowardice acts that girls/guys commit. Instead of providing closure and/or admit to their wrongdoings, they find it easier pretend the other person doesn't exist and leave them to pick up the pieces. They're selfish. SHE'S selfish. As evident by her asking you to commit to very big move, without respecting your feelings/thoughts on the past - which you have every RIGHT to be aware of.
Chief Wiggum Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 Perhaps he does not have a RIGHT to know, she isn't obligated to tell, and he isn't obligated to take her back. She sure has a right to secrets, but she has no right to demand to keep secrets from someone she wants to have a relationship with. She can keep her right to secrecy, and remain single. THank you.
Author Nights King Posted July 1, 2016 Author Posted July 1, 2016 In response to Chief Wiggum... I've not ruled out that possibility. However, there's no way of confirming if that's even true. I wish it was - as it'll make my decision that much easier and not make me out to be an a-hole if I dump her.
Poutrew Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 What happened is not hard to figure out. She left you the first time because she found another man, one that made her vagina tingle. When it didn't work out, she knew she could sucker you into taking her back - good old Nights King. Mr. dependable. The nice beta male who will take care of her and provide a roof over her head, and sperm for the babies. A guy who'll pay the bills, and will stay home and mind the fort while she is out working her thaang with another player who makes her vag tingle. Don't be that man. Show this gal the door, and then find a woman who'll dream about you at night, and wake up each morning with the thought: What can I do today to make my man happy...They're out there, but you have to get rid of this one before you start looking.
smackie9 Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 OK so what you are really looking for is for her to come out and say she found someone more appealing and dumped you....grass is greener syndrome. And you want to know why she has come back. Just ask her. If she refuses then enough is enough dump her and move on.
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