Vado Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 How do you end a date? Girls expect guys to end a date. That's easy in a bar, you ask for the bill and there you go. But I invited a woman for my first date at my place, cause I'm gonna cook for her. (we already know each other from college for a year, but before there was no interest from my site or hers - as far as I know -) Tomorrow she comes to me, when do I have to end the evening or do I have to wait untill she says I have to go? I'm confused. It would be rude to kick her out of the door. Maybe she expects to sleep at my place, because she lives like 10 miles from my home, could be done by bike and car, though bike is a bit far. She has a car, but then again she told me she brings the wine. I'm not letting her drive after drinking. Not gonna have sex with her because it's a first date. I think I let her sleep on my bed and than I sleep on the couch. But is a bit strange to ask, isn't it? ,,Hey, wanna sleep on my bed without having sex with me or my body close to you, while I dive in the couch?''
xUnknown Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 Just let things happen. Maybe you guys watch tv and she falls asleep. Maybe she doesn't. If she was drinking a lot, then I would assume she had intentions of staying. If you're with her and she says something like "ohh its getting late" then you can either invite her to stay over since its already late or let her leave.
DreamP Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 She will end the date when she says she has to leave. If it starts getting really late and she makes no indication of leaving, ask her if she would like to stay over, on the couch, so she doesn't have to drive/bike back home. If things start getting physical, you either take it to the bedroom or you stop, talk about sex/not wanting to jump in too early, etc. But you still make the offer to stay over on the couch. 1
iServe Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 Thanks for sharing your situation. Don't assume to much over you date. Focus and invest your all in what is in front of you. Cook the best meal you can, provide good conversation, be mindful and respectful of her time and if she is to intoxicated to drive, plan to drive her home or call for a cab to take her there. Relax, have fun, listen & laugh a lot, and go with your discernment. It'll be great. Take care & enjoy the weekend!
Versacehottie Posted July 2, 2016 Posted July 2, 2016 In your situation for the date at your place, it's the same as normal guest in your home: she will decide when to leave. What you could do as the others suggested, if you have been drinking too much or it gets really late or sleepy, then ask her if she would like to stay over--IMO, you offer her your bed and you sleep on the couch if you want to be a gentleman and because she is your guest. Obviously it would be nice if there is some kissing but I think your instinct is right not to take it much further since it's a first date (and it sounds like you care about her! yay!). But yeah sometimes a bit more happens, let her set the pace on that, just enjoy it. Good luck!
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