Brokenheartedgirl234 Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 My now ex boyfriend and I of five years had a rocky two weeks but normally we don't really argue. We have been looking at buying a house which he was happy about. He then found out his job might be at risk and switched on me completely. He went all moody and down and told me he can't say he loves me anymore and has no feelings. We then didn't speak for two weeks as he cut me off after a tense conversation as he just wouldn't speak to me. Last night i turned up to his house. He purchased a new play station a tablet and some more DVDs. Said that he just wants to be on his own and wouldn't look at me at all, wouldn't look at my face was starring out the window clenching his fists. If I tried to look him his eyes started watering. He said he can't tell me he loves me back and can't be bothered to continue. Said he would rather be on his own and will be on constant business travel due to the job change and he thinks of himself as a loner now. Said he has had a clear mind for the last two weeks and is really happy as he hasn't got to worry about anyone but himself. His parents were worried about him as we were communicating and he looked miserable and just wasn't himself. I feel really bad for walking away from him but he literally didn't give me a choice as he had no interest in being near me. If I touched him he would move away. I can't get my head around how much he has changed so quickly. I am heart broken but also worried about him.
pteromom Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 Sounds pretty over to me. And you didn't walk away from HIM. He walked away from you. I'm sorry. 1
bummer Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 Just my guess, but perhaps a friend or mutual friend told him you were cheating? Maybe he read some texts or something online behind your back? It does seem sudden and the body language shows anger and resentment not sadness guilt or true distance. Any truth? Any chance he's cheated?
Author Brokenheartedgirl234 Posted June 30, 2016 Author Posted June 30, 2016 Nah no cheating. We just aren't those types of people.
bummer Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 I understand. But even the rumour that you are that type of person? There's a gap in the information you're providing from looking at houses together to him running away angry.
Author Brokenheartedgirl234 Posted June 30, 2016 Author Posted June 30, 2016 As far as I am aware that is everything I know. when I spoke to him he couldn't pin point to me what had changed, just said he didn't feel the same but wouldn't say why. He was quite stressed as I was trying to figure out what changed and he just couldn't say. It's bugging me what has changed as I would like to learn from the experience obviously. When I left I said I wish I never met him as I was upset but I regretted it so I emailed him Monday saying I didn't mean it obviously and I would give him space. No reply which I was expecting him not to as he has just gone all quiet on me. Last night above should be Saturday (I copied this from another site)
bummer Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 (edited) Fact is he's pretty cold now. I'd respect that. It's very over. Read the no contact (NC) rules. If you want to speculate on reasons, you could read 20 posts here and make some up. or tell us more about your ages, habits, work situations, and other things from the 5 years. I'll start the game, he thought you were needy and he's young and got promoted with his work so thinks he can do better and is mad you keep hounding him. Or he got demoted, is depressed, can't bear the shame with you, and now has a ps4 gf replacement and is angry you came over. 2 weeks is sudden. Any signs from before? Ask his friends why? Edited June 30, 2016 by bummer
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