84838530 Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 Background: I recently met a lovely bloke aged 20 and I am 25. He was the one showing all the interest- asked for my number, and I typed it in his phone wrong so the next time I went to my local he asked for it again - so I thought he must be interested. Anyway we ended up having a few dates, and after each of them, he kept saying he really had a good time. What I like about this bloke was that he wasn't trying to get me into bed from the word go. We really enjoyed each others company and he kept telling me I was gorgeous - which made me feel special. We saw each other for 4 weeks but never slept together. I was getting to the stage where I would have liked to as well - well never mind i suppose. I did notice though that he kept wondering why i liked him, and seemed really insecure. But I could not see why, because he was extremely sexy, and had a sweet personality to match. What happened to end it all: He went to Escape in the park - (huge dance event in Swansea.) At 3-ish he texted to say he really liked me a lot, wished I was there, and could not wait to see me again. Anyway, the next time we met he ended it, saying he had messed up and had taken too many pills, and his head was in the shed. He said that I was the nicest girl he had met and that I had my head screwed on, and did not want to mess me around, which apparently he knew he would. I had told him in the past that i did not agree with drugs. Anyway he said he wanted to stop doing daft stuff like that, and maybe in a few weeks down the line when he is sorted and if I am still around we could see what happens. I cant hang on though. He has also been involved in a car accident where a motor-cyclist was killed. He was the passenger of the work van, but at the moment he is a witness in court and has to go through all the detail. He described it to me when we were breaking up. He said the bloke landed on the wind screen and it was horrific. He suffers from flash backs. I did ask him if he had taken drugs when he text me the nice message, but he hadn't at that stage only in the night. He actually described where he was when he text me. What I cant understand: If he really liked me why did he have to end it? I would have been a huge support to him. Do you think it was because I was 5 years older than him that he ended it and that he just wanted to let me down gently? He knew my age from the start though. I will be going up the local pub soon, how do you lot think I should approach this issue. I am really confused, because just as he had began to get close to me, he ended it abruptly, there was absolutely no warning sign. In fact I never pushed myself on him, I just responded to his texts, telling him i liked him as well, stuff like that. Should I pin my hopes on this bloke, or am I just a deluded fool? I feel down about this one because, It was such an unexpected shock. Any feedback would be appreciated.
moimeme Posted June 28, 2005 Posted June 28, 2005 I'd move on. Between the drugs and the accident, he sounds like a bad deal. Plus, he's brushing you off. So go.
mental_traveller Posted June 28, 2005 Posted June 28, 2005 It sounds like either a polite brushoff, or he is genuine and really does want to sort himself out first. In either case, the best thing you can do is forget about him for now. Perhaps just tell him to contact you in a month's time if he is still interested - that way you leave it open for him to return if he still likes you. And if you hear nothing in 1 month's time, you know he's not up for anything. Sometimes things just don't work out, so don't get all worried about the reasons why he pulled back.
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