single8259 Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 History: Met guy on dating site, had a fantastic first date that lasted until two in the morning. Dated weekly/twice a week for a month and a half. Ultimately we had the talk about where things were going, I said I didn't want to see other people, he said he did not see a serious relationship happening with me. He then asked if I didn't want us to see each other anymore, I said since we wanted different things we shouldn't see each other anymore. A couple weeks later, I was missing the sex. If I'm being honest I really think I was just missing him. I proposed a friends with benefits situation, thinking that we would both date other people. We had sex once, then his brother moved in with him, I have roommates so that stopped any meet ups for a month. Fast forward to last week. I texted him to see how he's doing, he asked if I wanted to come over today. I've been dating other people, but I'm head over heels for this guy and wanted to see him. We were hanging out today (had sex), having a great time. I felt a little blindsided when he asked me if I was seeing anyone. I said I had been dating. Then he told me he hasn't been dating, hasn't seen anyone since we last saw each other, that he hasn't even been trying and that the women that he sees he's not interested in. He asked personal questions about my life, was supportive about an interview I had the day before, brushed my hair out of my face at one point. He made a comment about how I thought he was a piece of meat, which he's done before. That's the agreement right???? Obviously I don't because I've expressed feelings in the past. So none of that means anything right? Because I would desperately love for it to mean something. I've been going on dates and they're nice but I haven't found the connection I felt with him or anyone I like as much as him. Be brutally honest, I'm ready.
basil67 Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 Being FWB with a guy who isn't interested in you is a one way ticket to heartbreak. That said, perhaps he's changing his mind? It's hard to know how he feels since you've established a casual sex thing. My best advice is to tell him that you made a mistake asking for FWB because in your heart of hearts want more. If he does want more with you, this will be his cue to speak up. If he doesn't want more, then you will have the ending you need to enable you to move on. 2
Micks14 Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 That's a tricky situation to be in. To me, it seems as though he may be having second thoughts about the entire thing. Perhaps he is developing feelings, but is afraid to admit them. If you're really into him, I would continue hanging out with him, but try to date other people as well. However, if you don't see this heading anywhere after a little while and your feelings for him are incredibly strong, you should probably cut your ties. You don't want to end up with a broken heart.
bummer Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 He made a comment about how I thought he was a piece of meat, which he's done before. That's the agreement right???? Obviously I don't because I've expressed feelings in the past. So none of that means anything right? Because I would desperately love for it to mean something. I've been going on dates and they're nice but I haven't found the connection I felt with him or anyone I like as much as him. Hold the phone. Dating 1 mo ? Fwb loosely for 2 mo? He says he's not seeing anyone and trying to play it cool by saying "oh but I'm just the meat man." And you blow that off? Lady. Set up another hookup and mention you'd still be interested if he is. There is no obvious to him if you weeks later say you are dating other guys. No obviously! I got lost in that story and I'm sure he is too.
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