joseb Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 If you stew about it, you'll end up breaking up because he's tired of your paranoia, regardless of whether it's justified or not. Your energy is better spent having fun with him when you're together to build a good foundation so he'll want to stay. I agree. It is hard for some people to do though. Honestly, it sounds like he is a young guy, a musician, who is probably a free spirit and wants to enjoy himself. Not saying that he is seeing other girls necessarily. I think he probably cares about you, but is just too young or immature to really commit to someone the way you want. I'd try to focus on other stuff while he is away, and when he gets back have an honest conversation about where you two want to go. Personally, I think you are too young (or he is). One of my few regrets in life is getting into a serious LTR at that age.
Author chebell Posted June 29, 2016 Author Posted June 29, 2016 and do their partners go on tour with them? Most likely, no. Actually two of them go and they also live together.
frus69 Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 Few things OP, this is what I get from what I read so far: you are too insecure, you are too afraid of losing him, then you nag too much, because you are afraid to stand up for yourself and you are losing yourself in the relationship. So far I don't see any tale-tell signs that he has another agenda. Facebook thing, ok not ideal but again I'm not even FB friends with my BF. I'm fine with it.He doesn't have his relationship status up, I don't either. I'm fine with it. I've met all his family and friends, so I'm not worried. And so did you. He shouldn't list himself as single, hell no. And you shouldn't be so scared to ask! If he wants to make it invisible, I understand it. OP you need to be secure and trust him, unless things prove you wrong but if not, let him do whatever he likes without nagging him. Find your own life besides him and, be assertive about what you want! Don't be afraid to ask for what you want! In that way you will stop nagging 1
pteromom Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 I'm sure you can tell that I'm head over heels in love with him and I'm willing to work on our relationship. Your definition of love seems to need a little refinement. When you LOVE someone, you can trust being all of yourself with them. You can tell them your fears and insecurities without worrying that they will freak out or bolt. He has told me before that I'm a girl who is every guy's dream, but sometimes it just seems that I'm not his. Because you just keep your mouth closed and let him do what he wants? Maybe that could be part of it? It's time to have a little trust in your relationship and tell him how you feel.
elaine567 Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 He plans a trip to Spain for two years and despite you being his gf for one year he fails to mention it until he is about to step on the plane... He didn't tell you till the last minute, as he didn't want you to come with him. Why he did that, I do not know, but it doesn't really say a lot about your relationship. Sorry! 1
DevotedBaker54 Posted July 6, 2016 Posted July 6, 2016 I'm sorry you're finding it hard to cope! Are you able to speak to him while he's in Spain? I'm sure his friend will try to keep him out of trouble. Relationships are built on communication and trust so after these three weeks your relationship will be stronger than ever!
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