Rozzermundi Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 (edited) Years ago I met a guy and we had a most passionate affair for about a year. He had someone else and so did I. We fell for each other. We were crazy about each other and he urged me to say I loved him. I never could. Soon my boyfriend moved abroad to the Middle East and my lover left his girlfriend and moved away hoping that I would follow. We linked up and spent time together completely wrapped up although he wasn't living nearby. I left him to visit my boyfriend in the Middle East and never went back. He sent a few letters and so did I but I got pregnant and that was that. I never forgot my lover and years went by with no contact. I heard that he'd come looking for me but failed to find me. I lived abroad for years and came back to UK and twenty seven years later I was staggered to get an email through friends reunited. The marriage had not been very good and I was initially started to email my previous lover about all the stuff in the interim years. Slowly we built up a very fond connection and told each other a lot about our lives. I learned that he was moving abroad indefinitely. Recently my marriage has been breaking up and I finally plucked up courage to meet my ex lover thinking that it would be good to meet. It was a highly charged and emotional meeting. He told me he had loved me all these years and he shed tears about missed opportunities.We kissed and hugged swore eternal love and made plans to meet again which we did. Several times andbecoming very close. He messaged me 24/7 and I fell for him again. It's gone cold since he's been away and slowly my messages are largely ignored. I feel perhaps he is teaching me a lesson and I am keeping my distance a s he is due back soon and I am so heartbroken like he must have been or told me he was when I left. I know he's had loads of affairs and has a Thai mistress and child which is hardly good news although apparently things are not good. All the stuff I was told before he went..I could go on for ages. I'm such a fool to fall for it and my marriage is finished too. What an idiot. I Edited June 29, 2016 by Rozzermundi
Toodaloo Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 Blimey that is all a bit Mills and Boon. However you have a choice here. You can; a. fall all over him when he gets back in touch and go all flopsey again until he goes again and leaves you heart broken... again... b. accept that you screwed up. Get tough with yourself and block him. Sort out the mess that is your marriage however that needs to be dealt with. Hurt like heck, cry, mourn and grieve then get over it and start a fresh in better control of your emotions and actions so you don't screw up next time. Personally while harder work I would go for option b. at least then in the long run the hurt is less.
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