Lovelypearl Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 There was this guy that had very strong feelings for me, I could feel it and tell from his actions. I didn't just assume this actually, he told me himself. During that period I was dating someone else and so when he asked me to be his girlfriend I made it very clear to him that I was taken. He was really unhappy about it and went on and on with trying to have me. I refused and then he stopped trying. After sometime, I broke with my bf and I still don't understand how this came about but I found myself developing feelings for this guy. Somehow he found out from someone how i felt about him but before he could say anything or reject me, i told him to forget about me and he doesn't deserve to be someone's second choice. A year has passed and now he is dating another girl. I am not hurt or anything, I just keep my life going and those feelings are fading away. What confuses me is that we catch ourselves staring at each other a lot. I catch him staring at me but then he looks he away immediately and it's also the same for me. We don't talk anymore though. He has his life and I have mine. So staring at me all the time, does it mean he still has some feelings for me? 2
preraph Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 You shouldn't have made the "second choice" comment. I mean, you were faithful to your bf at the time. That SHOULD be way more important to an interested guy than that you wouldn't dump him for you. You don't even know if you like this guy because you haven't dated him. You should contact him, ask if he's seeing anyone and if not, would he like to go do something together. Don't apologize for being faithful to your bf or for having one! And don't go in thinking he'll turn into your bf since you don't know him really. Don't give him false hopes. Just ask if he'd like to go out. OR have a little party and invite him as one of the people. And keep uppermost in your mind that he did NOT respect that you were in a relationship and didn't let that stop him from "going on and on," as you say trying to get you. So he may have some bad boundaries and ethics. 2
JewelD Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 Does it honestly matter since he has a gf? If he would entertain you while he's in a relationship, he would entertain other girls while in a relationship with you.
Noproblem Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 It's one of these unsatisfying love stories where the two people still love each other but they pretend other wise go on with their lives, fall in love, marry, have kids, but there is always something missing and the sad reality of the "what if" question that cross their minds once or while, they will never know the truth as they never tried. Happens everyday! Missed opportunities. 1
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