Seeking Inspiration - What's your tick-list after a breakup?

[sportygirl]

Hi,

 

Okay - so I've been pretty heartbroken, and I"m trying to focus my energy on things I'd like to achieve in the year following my breakup. I've admitted defeat that I'll probably not be dating anytime soon (as I"m still a shell).... I have the fear that I've wasted months already, and that I'll get to that year milestone and realise I've not moved anything else in my life forward.

 

So.... from the small things to going on a picnic by myself (to the place I always wanted to go with my ex, which we never made it to), to going on an adventure holiday on my own. I have a good list... however, I'm seeking some more inspiration.

 

What things would you have on your list of things you'd want to do?

[jen1447]

Start and complete some creative project.

[Charlie99909]

When my ex left me the first time, I did a few things and in the process (I'm not saying to do this) it drew her back. But I:

 

Got a new job.

 

Went to LA for my first business trip, partied, and met a lot of amazing people.

 

Got my motorcycle license.

 

Completed my education for state licensing.

 

Became a published photographer with pictures from a concert I covered of a singer that I had a bit of a crush on. Funny story, had a chance to meet her this time last year, same ex wanted to go home and so I missed out on meeting her. Flash forward to when I was photographing her for the article, we were talking about a few things and she was kind of into me. She kept touching me non stop and smiling. At the end of the night she came up to me for a picture of us. I'd come out of my shell long enough to be my old self again, grabbed her by the waist, and took one of the most fun pictures I had in while. I digress.

 

And the list continues to grow.

 

Unfortunately, she left a second time when she deemed I was no longer interesting again, but the point is to always keep busy. Set a list of what you want to do, start doing the easier ones to build your confidence, and then pull the trigger on some of the more exciting ones. You won't be sorry. The best part, you'll meet a lot of people that are more interesting than your ex. Case and point, that singer. You'll meet a lot of people that will make you feel better than your ex. You just gotta move and keep moving.

 

Cheers