I just dont know how to think.

[justmellow]

So heres the story. Met a girl in collegel. fell in love. Had a nice relationship, got really close , fell in love, and it ended a few months after. was difficult we couldnt see each other very often and she just wanted different things. So it ended and that was it. She was really mad at me for reasons and we stopped talking after the break up. Things ended last year around july and august. we stopped talking when she started school september.

 

We talked now and then but nothing really. Recently she started to message me thats like 2 weeks ago., just reminiscing really about how we were and how we use to talk and our school days. Nothing about us again or anything. She says she'll check me sometime and all of that but i dont know what she really means by it.

 

We talked nice and friendly for about a week, then we talked over the phone a night, long convo just a normal convo, we havent talked since we both decided not to talk so much.

 

I was over her in somewhere but not really over her over her. She hasnt said anything about getting back together and i dont know if she will say anything. I was thinking of giving it some time, a month maybe and if she didnt say anything i'll just tell her how i felt and maybe if he chance ever came for us to try again, i would like to.

 

I dont know how o think. Its my first relationship and i never had anything with anybody after her. So i dont know what to do guys really need your help.

 

Im 22 btw. and i was thinking about giving it a month or more to see if she will say anything or if she'll come by to see me or anything. If nothing happens before she starts back school in september then I'll say what i have to.

 

So is it the right move? What should i do or say. I would like to get back with her if i can. But if it cant happen i will take my time and move on.

Edited June 29, 2016 by justmellow
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[Grapesofwrath]

Why do you feel you have to set up a timeline or wait for her to do something? If you can get in touch with her, then reach out. Start a conversation. It's okay to tell her that you remember her fondly and would consider seeing her again if she's open to it. It's okay to express your feelings. Expressing your feelings is powerful. Denying that you have feelings is not a sign of strength. It's a sign of weakness, IMO.

[bubbaganoosh]

In my opinion your hurting yourself. There was a reason for the break up and your in line to get hurt again so if it's me I leave it alone and look for someone else

[justmellow]

Why do you feel you have to set up a timeline or wait for her to do something? If you can get in touch with her, then reach out. Start a conversation. It's okay to tell her that you remember her fondly and would consider seeing her again if she's open to it. It's okay to express your feelings. Expressing your feelings is powerful. Denying that you have feelings is not a sign of strength. It's a sign of weakness, IMO.

 

Well we have been talking for the past week. Just decided to hold it up. I just don't want to rush anything. I would like to try again. But I just font wanna spring that on her as yet you know. Maybe give it some time. I'm just really confused with alll of this. These mixed emotions. Still feeling caught up with her and us. Ik she thinks about me alot. And i think of her as well.

[justmellow]

In my opinion your hurting yourself. There was a reason for the break up and your in line to get hurt again so if it's me I leave it alone and look for someone else

 

I know. But I just still feel the urge to try. We were best friends and really close. She's been talking to guys and I've been talking to girls as well. It being almost a year later i dont know where eaither of us are. We just talked normal nothinf too much. She says things that get me wobdering. Like how she wish she could go back to those times we had and thibgs like that. I dont know if shes hinting me or anything. So i came here for advice lol

[justmellow]

I'm sure I do still have some feelings for her. We talk on and off and haveok convos. I've been running thru what I wanna say to her a 1000 times in my head.

 

Im afraid of what might hapn if i say it, but not so afraid. Id like to tell her but ik its best to wait. Past experience with her taught me that .

 

Idk what I'm asking for here. Maybe a little talk. Just my feelings and thoughts everywhere.

 

 

This is hard