kinder Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 What do I do if a guy that is engaged but not happy in his relationship wants to be with me. Mutual firneds say we would be great together if the situation he was in was different. I know before I actually met him that he hasn't been happy for over a year just doesn't know how to tell her. I think he is trying to see if there is anything better or something works out with someone else then he will leave but if not he is going to stay. He keeps calling me and I don't want to be rude but I have told him a few times that he isn't going to be sleeping with me and that we really can't be anything until he makes up his mind. what do I do? Shoudl I ask him if he has any single friends he could introduce me to?
westernxer Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 Tell him to stop being a pussy. If he wants out, he needs to be a man and tell her so, not experiment behind her back. Would you want this to happen to you?
Author kinder Posted June 27, 2005 Author Posted June 27, 2005 No I wouldn't. I am not that type of girl and feel very uncomfortable about the situation. It is not right.
ConfusedInOC Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Tell him to stop being a pussy. If he wants out, he needs to be a man and tell her so, not experiment behind her back. Would you want this to happen to you? Agreed. Wishy washy men = wimps.
westernxer Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by kinder No I wouldn't. I am not that type of girl and feel very uncomfortable about the situation. It is not right. No, it isn't, although it happens. He's also doing a disservice to you by sneaking around... no guarantee he'll stay with you, either. Watch out.
crazy_grl Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer He's also doing a disservice to you by sneaking around... no guarantee he'll stay with you, either. Watch out. Exactly. And no, don't ask him if he has any single friends. Just tell him to go away, because you don't date men who are involved with other women.
Author kinder Posted June 27, 2005 Author Posted June 27, 2005 Anyone else have any opinions???????????????????
westernxer Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by kinder Anyone else have any opinions??????????????????? What kind of opinions are you looking for? You want him, don't you.
Author kinder Posted June 27, 2005 Author Posted June 27, 2005 I do but I think I know better. I shouldn't get myself in between two people. I just wanted to know what other people would do in this situation
westernxer Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 I think you have your answer... doesn't mean you have to listen. Okay, I change my mind. Go and f*ck his brains out.
Author kinder Posted June 27, 2005 Author Posted June 27, 2005 I respect the other girl and I want more then just sex. It would be great but I think about after the fact before I do things. Your male and I'm female.
westernxer Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by kinder I respect the other girl and I want more then just sex. It would be great but I think about after the fact before I do things. Your male and I'm female. Which is why you need to hear a male perspective. You may want more, but he may not, unless more = more sex. He's probably an irresistible sly devil... his type usually are.
Author kinder Posted June 27, 2005 Author Posted June 27, 2005 The hell with him then. I think I will tell him to go F*** himself (in different words of course) because I will not be his excitment every once in awhile. Thank you
crazy_grl Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by kinder The hell with him then. I think I will tell him to go F*** himself (in different words of course) because I will not be his excitment every once in awhile. Thank you You don't need to be that extreme, because you really don't know his motives. It is possible that he's not just looking for a side f***. Though it's extremely possible that he is. Just tell him you don't date men who are engaged and if he ever decides to become single, he should give you a call. Basically, you're telling him to f*** off, but with more class. And if he was genuine, he might actually leave his fiance to pursue you.
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