Atticus9292012 Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 Okay I met this guy on tinder recently. He works at a bar. I came in while he was working a couple weekends ago with a couple friends after messaging back and forth for awhile. He came over and talked to me when he had some time. He then met up with my friends and I after he got off work. I'd say we hit it off pretty well. I ended up going home with him and y'know as it goes with tinder, kinda thought I'd wake up, go home, and that'd be it. Well, we went to breakfast and spent the morning together. It was nice. He told me he really liked me and wanted to see me again more than once. I have pretty much talked to him every day since that....BUT He keeps talking about seeing me, but there is no follow through. He never attempts to make plans with me on his off days, its always after work. Granted he has had one day off and had to work some the other day he was supposed to be off. I am not available during the week until late because I am a single parent. My best time is on weekends and he obviously works weekends. He said last week we'd definitely get together this past weekend. The weekend came and went, nothing. Lots of talk, but nothing. He sent me a text Sunday apologizing and saying he stayed till close every night and it just didn't work out. He also told me that he has had to work a lot of overtime, but they hired some people and this should change. He was off work yesterday. He texted me in the afternoon about being tired and cleaning his house. He said he wanted to see me tonight after he gets off work. I guess I could have suggested last night, but he kept saying how exhausted he was so I assumed it was a bad night for him. My imagination can get pretty active at times. I have wondered if maybe he is already with someone(s). To be honest, I have had numerous bad online dating experiences to the point, I have pretty much sworn it off. I have caught several married men/ men in serious relationships basically just trying to step out on their SO on tinder, etc. I might jump to that conclusion a little too readily that someone is doing that, but when it has happened before you notice things or pay attention to things that seem off. He also confided in me about his divorce. He caught his ex-wife cheating with his friend. It just seems odd he would go on and on about what his ex did, if he is doing that to someone else(s). I just feel like if he were serious about seeing me....it would have happened by now. Am I off base? Overly paranoid? Is anything ever really THIS busy? 1
hippychick3 Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 Sorry to say, OP, but he's not interested enough. A guy who is very interested would make plans to see you again as soon as possible. There would be no excuses. You're a placeholder for him unfortunately. I wouldn't waste any more time chatting or texting him as he will only want to see you again if he wants sex. It's just never a good idea to have sex with strangers (which is what he was at that point). I would move on. 3
Larryville Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 Actually two current newer threads where this article can apply. This one and “Guy texts, but no meet up?” Similar issues in countless threads, we have all experienced “time robbers” someone had a better term but I’m forgetting what it was, but very frustrating. Title: "Have YOU been 'benched'? Dating trend sees singletons put would-be suitors on the sidelines to keep their options open" 'Benching' dating trend sees singletons put would-be suitors on the sidelines to keep their options open | Daily Mail Online 1
Author Atticus9292012 Posted June 28, 2016 Author Posted June 28, 2016 Pretty much after last weekend came and went, and still hadn't seen him, I have kinda thought he was full of it.....but was kinda hoping I was wrong. Oh well, plenty of fish in the sea as they say. 1
Satu Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 You had sex with a stranger, and don't know what he's thinking. Thats how it goes with strangers. We don't know what they think, because they are strangers. Take care.
Tahirthegreat Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 He got the sex and is ready to move on. Forget about this one. 1
katiegrl Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 He keeps talking about seeing me, but there is no follow through. To answer your question, yes, he's full of it....
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