Is it true that gay men are picky?

[Revolver]

If I had a dollar for everytime I've heard the saying

 

"You know you're good looking if gay guys say you are, they are very picky about looks".

 

It's something I've heard my entire life but is there any truth to this?

 

I remember one night I found myself in a gay bar(don't ask long story). I was hit on more times in about 45 mins than I have been my entire adult life and I'm a 5 on my best day. How is this possible if gay men are "picky"? It didn't make sense to me

[preraph]

I think whoever told you that was misunderstanding. The gay guys I used to know, and I doubt you can even generalize at all now, because that was decades past, were usually very well groomed, I will say that.

[dichotomy]

I would not say picky either.

 

I have had looks and interest from a number of gay men - especially when I was at my best shape. I suspect

 

1) They have different and wider tastes in men then women. Men in general do for women as well.

2) They are more forward then many women.

 

 

Never been in a Gay bar, but also suspect its a meat market of forward comments and expressed interest.

 

Not interested - but a compliment or come on is always nice to hear.

[Gloria25]

My last FWB said a gay guy complemented his buttocks...and yeah guy was right;)

 

Now, how that conversation came about, I didn't bother to ask...

[SammySammy]

I'm just going to say this ....

 

I've never wondered if a gay guy found me attractive. Never crossed my mind.

 

Never thought other men may be concerned about that. Until I read this thread.

 

I really don't care if women in general find me attractive. If the woman I'm with finds me attractive, that's good enough for me. Don't really care about what the rest think.

 

I guess I'm just in my own little world.

[Shanex]

2) They are more forward then many women.

 

This here.

 

I was approached and hit on a number of times by gays, never in agressive ways, and I'm pretty sure as you put it OP that if I was hanging out in gays bars it wouldn't take long to have someone interested.

 

I read elsewhere from someone that gays are much more faithful and monogamous than heterosexual and I completely disagree. It's not a story as this guy read here and there but I've known enough gays to realise they are often on the swinger side. It's part of being open-minded.

 

Like an older acquaintance of mine, strictly gay, who's married to another man he loves yet has sexcapades with other men for the sole purpose of sex

[loverboy69]

I can tell you that most gay men are attracted to masculinity similar to the way a straight guy is attracted to femininity. You can have a plain face or average body but if you ooze masculinity he'll think you're hot.

 

You can be an average looking straight guy but walk into a gay bar and the femme or submissive gay guys will be all over you like flies.

 

But the above is simply in reference to sexual attraction. When it comes to physical attraction yes we're very good at picking apart who's hot and who's not.

 

I'm a presales engineer by trade. I talk to good looking straight guys all the time. I'm a very subtle flirt but I always leave then all smiles and grins. I'm sure they go home and tell their girlfriends or wives how some gay guy was totally hitting on them earlier that day. . I dont do this with men I find physically unattractive.

[bummer]

What if all these straight guys getting hit on incessantly in gay bars is the everyday reality for average to hot girls in and out of bars? I mean it's almost a taste of our own medicine for guys. Since the gay guys are more forward, like all guys, you're just seeing what guys do normally, but with attraction towards you.

 

Imagine being hit on all day everyday from any girl on the street... tiring? Or just being oggled. Or having your butt slapped once in awhile. I know I'd be all about it for about two weeks, maybe less.