lillian001 Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 I don't usually post on such sites, but am at a loss, and need opinions. So I went out with this guy, via tinder, which I don't normally use, but he seemed nice enough. We met up for coffee, and it went really well I thought. Things in common, good conversation, lasted about an hour. After we left, within 30 minutes he texted me saying it was really nice meeting me, and that I'm way more attractive than my photos show. He said to let him know if I wanted to hang out again, to which I replied that I'm free weekday evenings (the date was on a Sunday) and to just let me know. So he said he would, I said sounds good, and that was that. after that sort of text (which he didn't have to send) I've heard nothing for a week since. If he didn't really want to see me again, why not just leave it at, "nice to meet you." I haven't texted him because I do believe if a guy wants to see you again, he will ask, always the rule. i'm usually good at reading the clues, but this is just so off. any thoughts?? should i consider the guy gone?
ExpatInItaly Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 It's possible someone else is occupying his time. If he's on Tinder, presumably he's talking to a couple girls at once. I wouldn't stress about it. He knows where you are if he wants to meet. In the meantime, don't hesitate to accept more dates!
morrowrd Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 I would take things with a grain of salt, the way of online dating is easy come easy go. You are probably just one of the several dates he's had this week, and his lack of immediate communication after that first text is anyone's guess regarding his reasons. (everyone is different) You have your "rules" - regarding communicating back, he has his. He could have interpreted your feedback the same way you're interpreting his lack of further communication. He might be waiting for something else from you other than what you've provided, he might have decided that weeknights don't work for him, or the date itself might have been forgetable and he's moved on to new encounters. 1
leogirl876 Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 Guys that say that kind of thing, in my mind, I'm like next. When a guy is like "let me know..." it's very wishy washy and I think it's almost like the "I'll call you..." when they really won't. I wouldn't call him. From my experience, they guy's I've met off Tinder were douche bags!!!
Toodaloo Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 If he can't be bothered its because he isn't bothered. The attitude you should take is "who cares what a stranger thinks" not "oh my days he doesn't fancy me the world is ending"... The guy could be a total jerk for all you know. He isn't interested, its not going to lead anywhere so just move on.
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