stargazer26 Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 So I broke the first cardinal rule of breakups and hooked up with my ex a few nights ago. It was a comfort to be back in his arms for one night but now this hurts like hell! Why was I such an idiot?! I know it's inevitable that we're going our separate ways but I've missed him so incredibly much the past few weeks... And when we got together to hang out for the first time in a couple of months, suddenly the tears started flowing uncontrollably and I couldn't stop crying. He was comforting me and then it just happened... I know it was a bad idea and I know I only have myself to blame. The heartache is painful enough to make me realize this probably wasn't the best choice. But please, if anyone has had similar experiences and could share them I'd be grateful to hear about them. I want to tell him I think this will only hurt us if it continues. He doesn't live in the area but he does visit friends here every now and then. We've had limited contact since the breakup and I've debated a period of NC lately, as many of you on here have recommended it to me and I'm sure with very good reason, but so far have been too chicken/stubborn to initiate it. I feel wretched...how could I let myself fall into this trap?
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 It was a moment of weakness, and we all have them. You'll be fine. Don't count the days of NC, just take them one day at a time - every day is the first day of something new. You haven't fallen into a trap. You stumbled, got up and now you are ready to move on.
CallaLilly Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 Oh yessssss - the hookup with the ex. Funny how men suddenly want to make love when we're all emotional and bawling our eyes out - they just slide right in there and suck us back into bed for old time sake. I went to my ex with divorce papers - same thing happened. I felt worse the next day - regretted it tremendously. Live and learn and move on - you're only human.
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