WhirlwindGuy Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 Met a girl through OKC. She is substantially younger than me, but we have had some really nice conversations through text over the past couple of days. One phone call last night that went well. Conversation is effortless so far. She is 25, I am 38. I asked her out and she finally agreed on going out Thursday. I suggested a couple of places and she asked if she could pick something. I said of course. She just wrote back that she would like to get coffee and just stay in. She said she could use the peace and quiet and a quiet night just hanging out at my place sounds more fun... So...dating experts...im assuming I know what this means...but I'd like opinions. My spidey senses are going off, but I guess it could be fun...
mizunomead Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 Hmmm.....I would treat it just like any other first meet. Don't have any expectations one way or the other.
bummer Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 It means she likes coffee and peace and quiet. And likely some nsa healing.
Dis Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 This is just a thought.....I could be wrong... Seems like you have a history of picking the type of girl who moves fast...only for her to disappear soon after Seeing as she already wants to hang in at your place (on the first date) she might turn out to be another one of these types I hope for your sake I'm wrong If she does initiate sex....for the sake of not repeating a pattern...try to slow things down Ehhh....I dont know if this one sounds good I hope it works out for you hun
Author WhirlwindGuy Posted June 29, 2016 Author Posted June 29, 2016 This is just a thought.....I could be wrong... Seems like you have a history of picking the type of girl who moves fast...only for her to disappear soon after Seeing as she already wants to hang in at your place (on the first date) she might turn out to be another one of these types I hope for your sake I'm wrong If she does initiate sex....for the sake of not repeating a pattern...try to slow things down Ehhh....I dont know if this one sounds good I hope it works out for you hun Thank you for always being so encouraging and thoughtful. Ultimately it was a nightmare. I forgot how dramatic girls can be in their 20s...good lord... Im already worn out and we only hung out once... 1
Author WhirlwindGuy Posted June 29, 2016 Author Posted June 29, 2016 Conversation last night after she started getting really hot and heavy with me making out... Me: When are you available again if Thursday doesn't work for me? Her: that is the only day, sometimes things don't work out for a reason! Me: So dramatic! Her: Fine, we don't have to talk again then! that has been how conversations have been going since I told her I didn't want to have sex with her last night.
Author WhirlwindGuy Posted June 30, 2016 Author Posted June 30, 2016 She sounds charming. so after many text conversations like that yesterday I finally told her, "look I am not sure what your issue is, but you are making problems out of nothing and I find it quite aggravating. I don't even know you, yet we are arguing all day...Either please stop texting me, or get over it and relax. Either way I don't have time for this today, I am busy with work. Since then she has acted like she is madly in love with me, sending me provocative pictures, telling me she looks forward to seeing me again soon, calling me honey and sweetie, and just overall being really subservient and loving in her texts to me. Totally bizarre but kind of scary in a way...I need to figure out a way to break this off without her flipping out and burning down my apartment building. 2
mizunomead Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 I had a couple of dates with mid twenties women. That was basically my limited experience also.
Maggie888 Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 (edited) I need to figure out a way to break this off without her flipping out and burning down my apartment building. Who's being dramatic now? In all seriousness, you just text her, hey I dont think this is working but I wish you nothing but the best.. If she keeps texting then block her. Unless there is a party of you that likes this drama and silliness and games which I think maybe there is?? Nothing wrong with that at all, just own it. Edited June 30, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
mortensorchid Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 I drive for Lyft nights. One day I picked up a guy in a sketchy neighborhood who said he's never OLDing again. He said he came to this woman's front door and she answered it naked. He ran. I said "Good for you! If you went inside there were probably some guys waiting to jump and rob you." I asked how old he was, he was 53 and the woman was 22. I said "Guy, she doesn't want you, she wants your house! And WTF are you doing meeting a stranger at their house rather than a public place?" Maybe yours wasn't as extreme, but ... I'm just saying. 1
phineas Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 OP you are not going to date this women seriously. Ever. Nor will you seriously date any woman that age. The age gap is too great. She wanted to come to your house. What did you honestly think was going to happen? What you did was reject her. She now either thinks you are gay, will get even nastier and now tease you or try even harder to get you in order to repair her ego. Just enjoy the sex or stop dating 20 somethings. Why make things so difficult?
Dis Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 Thank you for always being so encouraging and thoughtful. Ultimately it was a nightmare. I forgot how dramatic girls can be in their 20s...good lord... Im already worn out and we only hung out once... Conversation last night after she started getting really hot and heavy with me making out... Me: When are you available again if Thursday doesn't work for me? Her: that is the only day, sometimes things don't work out for a reason! Me: So dramatic! Her: Fine, we don't have to talk again then! that has been how conversations have been going since I told her I didn't want to have sex with her last night. so after many text conversations like that yesterday I finally told her, "look I am not sure what your issue is, but you are making problems out of nothing and I find it quite aggravating. I don't even know you, yet we are arguing all day...Either please stop texting me, or get over it and relax. Either way I don't have time for this today, I am busy with work. Since then she has acted like she is madly in love with me, sending me provocative pictures, telling me she looks forward to seeing me again soon, calling me honey and sweetie, and just overall being really subservient and loving in her texts to me. Totally bizarre but kind of scary in a way...I need to figure out a way to break this off without her flipping out and burning down my apartment building. Ohh WWG! I'm sorry! Ya hun I think you know what to do... I think you need to listen to your gut = Let this one go I know your so tired from dating but geez this one isnt right for you at all I'd rather see you alone than with an immature girl like this...but what did you really expect seeing as shes so young Just another lesson learned hun...we have to learn many and date many more until we find the right one But at the end of the day...I'd block her and move on. She'll only take up space that you need to save for the right woman Having just had another ending myself I know its disheartening but look at it this way...its just another step in the right direction to finding the one Really though...cut contact now hun...onto the next! Oh! You've already made an improvemnt by not sleeping with her! Yay! Progress! 1
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