thegoodhubbie Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by Woggle I don't blame all my problems on women. My wife was in the wrong but she is not the cause of all wrong in my life. Exactly. I am the cause of all the wrong in MY life
RecordProducer Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale women to me are a commodity, not unlike gasoline or electricity.
scratch Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by Outcast A million isn't that much, really. By the time you get yourself a house and furnish it and a decent vehicle the residual will provide a little income but not that much. When you have three or more million in the bank, then you can brag That's not the proper method of analysis. Houses and cars are paid for out of income. If you have a net worth of $1M, it can safely be considered equivalent to $50-60K of annual income. Back to the point, while I disagree that men are forced into a slavish way of life, I do feel that there is competitive pressure to provide for women. No person, male or female, posts here about how they are paid for. However, many more men seem to be providing for women than vice versa. What would a reasonable person make of that?
DacaInaru Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 when I tell a guy I'm not looking for a man to take care of me.. or my child as i've been doing it on my own.. the guys blow me off for being "To Independent"
loony Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale vast majority of women I've "screwed" have been college educated professionals. You and your college educated professionals. As if them having a degree makes them smart...
loony Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by scratch Back to the point, while I disagree that men are forced into a slavish way of life, I do feel that there is competitive pressure to provide for women. No person, male or female, posts here about how they are paid for. However, many more men seem to be providing for women than vice versa. What would a reasonable person make of that? This is too funny.
alphamale Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by loony You and your college educated professionals. As if them having a degree makes them smart... when dealing in matters of the heart most women whether educated or not will make decisions based upon "feelings" and "emotions". The only difference in "screwing" educated women is that they have more money, on avg, and can take me out on dates sometimes and have fairly intelligent converstations. But as to getting them into the sack....the process is the same whether she is trailer trash or a PhD candidate.
scratch Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by DacaInaru when I tell a guy I'm not looking for a man to take care of me.. or my child as i've been doing it on my own.. the guys blow me off for being "To Independent" Perhaps you can share more of the facts and circumstances of this exchange. At first blush, this seems to me a polite blowoff for another underlying reason.
Opium Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale when dealing in matters of the heart most women whether educated or not will make decisions based upon "feelings" and "emotions". The only difference in "screwing" educated women is that they have more money, on avg, and can take me out on dates sometimes and have fairly intelligent converstations. But as to getting them into the sack....the process is the same whether she is trailer trash or a PhD candidate. Both types of woman get horny, of course it's the same way to get them into the sack.
DacaInaru Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 But are you well hung? Isn't that what really matters?? Perhaps you can share more of the facts and circumstances of this exchange. At first blush, this seems to me a polite blowoff for another underlying reason. Ok.. well when a talk to a guy i'm on a date with he will usually ask what i'm looking for or he'll go into the I'm gonna take care of you bit.... and I tell them I'm past the Knight and Shining armor stage of my life.. I'm not looking for someone to take care of me financial, or to adopt my child as his own.. I'm looking for an equal partner someone to share my life with.. actually the last idiot i dated.. was the I'm going to take care of you man.. but he wanted to take care of me financially the catch was I had to live my life the way he wanted me to.. or as he put it.."It will be my way or the high way"
alphamale Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by DacaInaru .. I'm not looking for someone to take care of me financial, or to adopt my child as his own.. the above is perfect example of woman-speak DACAINARU....most intelligent men know that when any female makes the above stmt what she is really saying is that she IS looking for someone to take care of her financially and to adopt her child. Do you think we are dumb. A smart woman would say nothing in this situation and keep it neutral. It is the same theory of when someone says "oh, its not about the money...", you can rest assured it is about the money.
scratch Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by DacaInaru Ok.. well when a talk to a guy i'm on a date with he will usually ask what i'm looking for or he'll go into the I'm gonna take care of you bit.... and I tell them I'm past the Knight and Shining armor stage of my life.. I'm not looking for someone to take care of me financial, or to adopt my child as his own.. I'm looking for an equal partner someone to share my life with.. Then what? Their tone and body language changes, they ask you if you want to split the check, and then hustle out of there with an "I'll call you?" What indicates to you that they become turned off at that moment? Originally posted by DacaInaru actually the last idiot i dated.. was the I'm going to take care of you man.. but he wanted to take care of me financially the catch was I had to live my life the way he wanted me to.. or as he put it.."It will be my way or the high way" It doesn't surprise me that when a man professes a desire to take care of a woman financially, there is a catch.
DacaInaru Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Alpha I am one of those women that will be bluntly honest with my life.. I tell guys exactly like it is.. if they think i'm after them for money then thats on them.. but I'm not.. first off I have my own and while I may not be rich.. I'm doing as good as can be expected.. and my daughter doesn't need a daddy as she has one already.. who fortunately is a part of her life pays his support and does what he is supposed to do.. so..if I keep my trap shut on my thought i'll get some fool who thinks he can buy me.. he'll support me and I'll sit back and kiss his ass.. I think not..
DacaInaru Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Then what? Their tone and body language changes, they ask you if you want to split the check, and then hustle out of there with an "I'll call you?" What indicates to you that they become turned off at that moment? No they've actually told me I'm too independent for them.. but that could be cause most of the men I date are Latino and have this backwards way of thinking that a woman have to need them both emotionally and financially..
New_Wife Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Alpha, you crack me up the most on here. I can never quite discern if you're serious or trying to stir the pot. In any event - you say what you say - but why is there so much trauma now with men whose women make more money, in better positions, than them? You might be surprised to know that motherhood does not negate desire. Some single mothers are just looking to get laid good and proper, and don't want to deal with all the ego issues of the lower-tiered socio-economic male, but also don't want to have to try to start a whole Relationship with an equal. Seriously, guy, sometimes an apple is really just an apple.
alphamale Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by DacaInaru so..if I keep my trap shut on my thought i'll get some fool who thinks he can buy me.. he'll support me and I'll sit back and kiss his ass.. I think not.. well DACAINARU...if you are smart you'll say nothing. You are forgetting that men are hypersensitive about women wanting them for their wallets just like women are hypersensitive about men wanting them for sex. anything you say in this situation will most likely be misconstrued by the man. so just stay neutral and say NOTHING about this particular subject. when a female say's to me "i'm not looking for a daddy for my son", the 1st thing I think is that she is....otherwise why would she bring it up? same with the financial thing.... you cannot win in this situatioin so the best is to say nothing.
Bronzepen Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by DacaInaru No they've actually told me I'm too independent for them.. but that could be cause most of the men I date are Latino and have this backwards way of thinking that a woman have to need them both emotionally and financially.. If your generalisation of latino men is true, then you shouldn't date latino men. Date other ethnic men that won't support you and respect your independance.
DacaInaru Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 I think I just need to start dating men that are SOOOOOOOOOOO not what I usually date.. maybe i'll have luck then
Opium Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 if you are smart you'll say nothing <--------- Staying quite, saying nothing
Marshbear32 Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Learn to be happy without a woman-When you learn to be happy in your own it allows you to find the right instead of settling for the wrong relationships. Be happy without a woman and when you find the right one she will add to your happiness. If you don't you can still live a happy full life as a single man. I totally agree with this statement Woggle. It is so true and applies to both men and women.
alphamale Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear32 I totally agree with this statement Woggle. It is so true and applies to both men and women. I agree with this stmt to MB32. Main problem is that in reality and the real world many people cannot be fully happy or contented unless they have a romantic partner, even if it is the wrong partner. After all, homo sapiens are social creatures.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Alpha, when you can squirt a watermelon out your pee-hole you can work part-time too. But only if it cries and poops and keeps you up all night suckin on yer boob.
Merin Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale the above is perfect example of woman-speak DACAINARU....most intelligent men know that when any female makes the above stmt what she is really saying is that she IS looking for someone to take care of her financially and to adopt her child. Do you think we are dumb. A smart woman would say nothing in this situation and keep it neutral. It is the same theory of when someone says "oh, its not about the money...", you can rest assured it is about the money. That's a load of crap. I don't want and/or need a Daddy for my Wee Peeps, they have a Dad and if or when I've made that statement to the effect that I'm NOT looking for a Dad for my kids so they need NOT submit a resume' it was because the Guy in question had acted like an idiot when he learned I have 2 Little People and I'm a single Mom Good thing most Women don't act stupid when a potential Guy is a single Dad uh? My BF has 2 Kid's and I never assumed or wondered IF he was hoping I would be his Kids Mom... they have a Mom already... and my BF also knows I don't need or want him to be my Wee Peeps Dad, but hell yeah I expect him to be cool to my Kids the same as he expects that of me with his. Jeez, it's a jaded freakin world....
alphamale Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 Originally posted by Merin That's a load of crap. I don't want and/or need a Daddy for my Wee Peeps, they have a Dad and if or when I've made that statement to the effect that I'm NOT looking for a Dad for my kids but if you and him get married down the road he will in effect become a surrogate father to your two "wee peeps". He may provide emotional support and/or financial support for them and he'll be spending more time with them than thieir biological father will. THAT IS THE REALITY....
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