LookAtThisPOst Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 I wasn't sure what category to post this in, but I'm guessing "In search of..." because this is involving women "searching" Mostly women around the age of 50 seeking the same age category. I've was talking to a female friend over 50 and she keeps running into men in real life that have big bellies. She keeps an eye on her figure even at her age, but she was noticing that how men over 50 have simply stopped caring how they look...while there's always pressure on women to stay thin, no matter what age. Anyone notice this double standard to be true in their experiences? Of course, obesity is epidemic in America these days, so perhaps its moot. lol
GoodOnPaper Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 People don't seem to give anyone any slack for the simple fact that life happens. I'm almost 50 and most men my age are in the primes of their careers and are family men with teenagers - whether actually married with the family or divorced with at least partial responsibility for the kids. That's a lot of stress - personally, I feel like I'm burning the candle at about 7 ends right now. Since I am not a personal trainer or full-time athlete, there are just too many other priorities that get in the way of working out enough to get and keep those rock-hard abs. If the real world is like LS, my sense is that the physical standards women have for 50-something men may be more demanding than what they had for the 20-something men 30 years ago - I've always joked that if I found myself single again, I'd have to spend a couple of years in the gym before I'd even attempt to socialize with potential dating partners. Of course now, maybe it's just that we're all more battle-worn and less likely to settle for something even a little less than what we consider ideal. 1
BlueIris Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 I wasn't sure what category to post this in, but I'm guessing "In search of..." because this is involving women "searching" Mostly women around the age of 50 seeking the same age category. I've was talking to a female friend over 50 and she keeps running into men in real life that have big bellies. She keeps an eye on her figure even at her age, but she was noticing that how men over 50 have simply stopped caring how they look...while there's always pressure on women to stay thin, no matter what age. Anyone notice this double standard to be true in their experiences? Of course, obesity is epidemic in America these days, so perhaps its moot. lol I think that the double standard starts much earlier than that, in terms of attention to physical appearance in general not just weight.
anika99 Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 (edited) Just because older people may have put on some weight it doesn't mean that they are lazy and aren't taking care of themselves. I had a fantastic body all through out my adult years, lean and muscular with a nice hard flat belly. All of a sudden that thing called menopause descended upon me and suddenly I have this little belly pooch that won't budge no matter what I do. I'm working harder and watching my diet more than I ever have before and yet I continue to age, I can't stop the clock. I look good for my age but I'm never going to have that perfect body again and I'm okay with that. It's not a character flaw or a sin to age. I'm lucky that I haven't had much weight gain so far but the fact of the matter is that weight management and belly fat get much harder to manage and control with age and it's nobody's fault. The metabolism slows down, there's a natural loss of muscle and bone, especially for women. Please don't be judgemental and assume that everyone over the age of 50 are carrying extra pounds because they simply aren't taking care and they just don't care. I take better care of myself now than I ever have before. Edited June 27, 2016 by anika99 4
carhill Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 I focus more on 'taking care' in general as an older man than I ever did when young. Why? Well, there aren't too many years left and I've seen enough people, loved ones, my age die badly that hey I'm going to put that off as long as possible. Obsessed, nah. Just prudent. What women find attractive doesn't factor into any aspect of 'taking care'. 2
SammySammy Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 I think the number of men over 50 in great shape is probably close to the number of women over 50 in great shape. I don't think there's a lot of objectivity on either side. Lots of flabby arms, hips and thighs criticizing flabby bellies. Lots of flabby bellies chasing 20 year old girls. It's the way of the world. We see other people's faults, but not our own. 3
Dark Horse Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 (edited) Both my parents are in their early 50s and in decent shape. Especially for someone their age. My mom's not skinny but she's definitely not fat, she looks good for her age. She does weight lifting and some running. And my dad likes to work out and run and he's not fat. And my grandma whos in her mid 70s is skinny as well, she likes to run and doesn't eat much. She just ran a half-marathon around two months ago. Edited June 27, 2016 by Dark Horse
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 27, 2016 Author Posted June 27, 2016 Just because older people may have put on some weight it doesn't mean that they are lazy and aren't taking care of themselves. I had a fantastic body all through out my adult years, lean and muscular with a nice hard flat belly. All of a sudden that thing called menopause descended upon me and suddenly I have this little belly pooch that won't budge no matter what I do. I'm working harder and watching my diet more than I ever have before and yet I continue to age, I can't stop the clock. I look good for my age but I'm never going to have that perfect body again and I'm okay with that. It's not a character flaw or a sin to age. I'm lucky that I haven't had much weight gain so far but the fact of the matter is that weight management and belly fat get much harder to manage and control with age and it's nobody's fault. The metabolism slows down, there's a natural loss of muscle and bone, especially for women. Please don't be judgemental and assume that everyone over the age of 50 are carrying extra pounds because they simply aren't taking care and they just don't care. I take better care of myself now than I ever have before. I wasn't being judgmental, I was just echoing my judgmental friends' sentiment on her. Just hearing from them what they think and relaying it here. 1
DreamP Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 Women have spent their whole lives trying to live up to an unrealistic standard of beauty, constantly trying to lose weight. Not so much for men. Plus, their testosterone levels alone often prevent them from getting too fat. But then middle age hits and women have already been working on "trying to lose that weight" whereas men never have. It's not that they get lazy at 50, it's just that nature takes it course and it suddenly becomes more apparent. 3
Dark Horse Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 There's a saying that says men age like wine and women age like milk. But I often see the opposite.
SammySammy Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 There's a saying that says men age like wine and women age like milk. But I often see the opposite. Probably somewhat true for both sexes. Some age like wine. Some age like milk. The difference is life choices ... mostly. 1
oldshirt Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 I'm 52 and compared to many 52 year old men, I am probably in the 80th percentile of health and fitness. That being said, I am far from ripped and buff. I am definately not fanatical or perfect on my diet and exercise, but I do live a clean and healthy lifestyle. Even though I eat right and do get some exercise, I have been steadily putting on some weight and it's not coming off unless I do become fanatical. My body has simply reached a point where it is no longer going to be buff and ripped while simply maintaining a healthy lifestyle and reasonable exercise. I am not fat or obese, but I do not have six pack abz and the waist of my jeans are getting tighter all the time. Ya not that I have let myself go at all. I still take care of myself and work on my appearance to be well groomed and appropriately dressed. My body has simply reached a point in my life cycle where I can't stay lean without dedicating my whole life to micromanaging every morsel that goes into my mouth and spending multiple hours a day at the gym and I am going to do neither. If some gal can't bring herself to get down with a man of her generation due to him not having chiseled abz, that's fine. I have the money and that is what 22 year old sugar babies and brothels are for.
oldshirt Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 It also needs to mentioned that men and women carry body fat differently. Women carry fat primarily in their hips, butt and thighs but it is also dispearsed throughout their whole body. Whereas men carry it primarily in the abdominal area. You can have a man and a woman standing side by side with both of them at 30% body fat and the man will have a pot belly and the woman will look moreless normal. I have a bit of a lower abdominal pooch and some luv handles. But my chest, shoulders, arms, butt and legs are all quite lean. It's all in my gut. A woman that is my stature, my general state of health and fitness, who has my percentage of bodyfat (approx 25) will look normal.
lolablue17 Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 I can speak about me and my wife. I'm 54, and i'm in great shape, I do gym, run, play basket ball and ski\snowboard a lot in the winter. I work out (almost) every day. My wife is 50. and works out 3 times a week, and in great shape too. The reason we do it is not just to look good, but mostly because it's healthy and fun.
thefooloftheyear Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 Im over 50 and probably in the top 5% of all guys you might see in any serious gym in Anywhere, USA... All I can say is this... Even with really good genes, its a MOUNTAIN of work...My diet is boring and regimented and I train very hard...My body aches like hell from all the hard work i put in...It was a breeze at 30 to be a beast, now its just a killer... I often wish I was a watch TV and eat pizza kind of guy...Those guys are far more relaxed and emotionally well balanced...Yes, I am telling you that its not for everyone and its not necessarily a positive thing for a relationship... Let me say this about some women.... Some of the women are positively delusional....They want rock hard guys with six packs and 22" arms...while most of those women look like a melted candle once they took off all the disguising undergarments, push up bra's etc.. Just be realistic..its as simple as that.. TFY 2
CarrieT Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 Just because older people may have put on some weight it doesn't mean that they are lazy and aren't taking care of themselves. ^ ^ THIS ^ ^ I have started swimming and I see a lot of people in their 50s, 60s, and 70s who have considerably more stamina and strength than I do. And MANY of the men have thicker mid-sections despite the fact that they exercise and take care of themselves. It is simply a product of age that our bodies change so hoping to find a middle-aged man without a heftier belly is difficult unless you date an endomorph. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 (edited) I'm 47 and as much as I would love to settle down with someone my own age, I have a hard time finding men in my age bracket attractive. I'm not talking about physical perfection (I don't mind the thinning hair or thicker middles) but rather the issue for me is that so many men I meet who are around my age not only look so much older then they really are but act it as well. I'm far from perfect and have many flaws but I do take a lot of pride in the way I look and especially having a youthful and playful spirit despite my age. I'm not saying men (or women) need to be obsessive about their physical appearance chasing after the fountain of youth but rather they should embrace their age bracket with a sense of pride, exuberance and gusto instead of complacency and defeat. It really doesn't take much to step up ones game. Just my two cents. Edited June 28, 2016 by Michelle ma Belle 1
Cablebandit Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 (edited) what is avg body fat % for a 50 year old? I'm 47 and heading towards 50 in a hurry random blog with some stats [] Edited June 28, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator link redacted ~6
Cablebandit Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 I'm 47 and as much as I would love to settle down with someone my own age, I have a hard time finding men in my age bracket attractive. I'm not talking about physical perfection (I don't mind the thinning hair or thicker middles) but rather the issue for me is that so many men I meet who are around my age not only look so much older then they really are but act it as well. I'm far from perfect and have many flaws but I do take a lot of pride in the way I look and especially having a youthful and playful spirit despite my age. I'm not saying men (or women) need to be obsessive about their physical appearance chasing after the fountain of youth but rather they should embrace their age bracket with a sense of pride, exuberance and gusto instead of complacency and defeat. It really doesn't take much to step up ones game. Just my two cents. You don't quit playing when you get old, you get old when you quit playing. 3
BikerAccnt Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 You don't quit playing when you get old, you get old when you quit playing. You could not have said a truer statement. What's funny, and I do realize LS is a somewhat unusual and insular community,so maybe all of us over 50's on here do work out a lot is all of the over 50's on dating sites who say the work out on a regular basis. What I wonder, is where the hell are they? It doesn't matter what day, or what time, I choose to go to they gym, or to the park for a run, but I seldom see more than one or two other people with gray hair there besides me! I go to a pretty big gym in this area, and seriously, often I am the oldest person in there at 55. Where are all of these workout fanatics I see on the dating sites? Female or male?
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 28, 2016 Author Posted June 28, 2016 I'm 47 and as much as I would love to settle down with someone my own age, I have a hard time finding men in my age bracket attractive. I'm not talking about physical perfection (I don't mind the thinning hair or thicker middles) but rather the issue for me is that so many men I meet who are around my age not only look so much older then they really are but act it as well. I'm far from perfect and have many flaws but I do take a lot of pride in the way I look and especially having a youthful and playful spirit despite my age. I'm not saying men (or women) need to be obsessive about their physical appearance chasing after the fountain of youth but rather they should embrace their age bracket with a sense of pride, exuberance and gusto instead of complacency and defeat. It really doesn't take much to step up ones game. Just my two cents. Michelle, I wonder if the 50-somethings are experiencing low Testosterone levels?j I've noticed men this age tend to kind of drag their feetin making efforts to date or going through the dating process with women to the point of frustrating the women that would like to take the romance to the next level. It seems as if some are lacking the energy to be diligent in dating. 1
GunslingerRoland Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 Unfortunately the way men's bodies work, we gain most of our weight on our stomachs. Women gain their weight on their butts/thighs first which is considered a plus by many (including myself). You can be in pretty good athletic shape and still have a bit of a belly, it hardly requires complete sloth to be 50 and have a belly.
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 28, 2016 Author Posted June 28, 2016 instead of complacency and defeat. . This could be a whole new post altogether. LOL, But I have noticed this with men over 50 or even mid 40s. They just seem to lack the energy anymore to do so. I was talking to a man, but he was in his late 30s, and he has a kid. Never married, but told me "marriage is a pain in the arse" and he's unattached now. Hasn't even been dating for a 1 1/2 since breaking up with his g/f and even THAT relationship was draining to him. Some women seem to take a lot out of a man if they come across a toxic personality Not you Michelle, I enjoy a wide, doe-eyed lovely like yourself. And by the time they get around to you, unfortunately, they are all world weary. lol 1
thefooloftheyear Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 (edited) Something that needs to be mentioned with regard to this thread.....and its very important to mention.... It's no secret that practically all blue collar/trade work is done by men...The average person that sits in a cubicle all day in a climate controlled building really has no idea how physically taxing some of these trade type jobs are to the human body...These folks work in all weather conditions, all types of lifting, bending, etc...Over the course of their work life, they usually have a litany of injuries and scars to show for their service in the field..Some relatively minor and some serious.. If you aren't really careful and fussy about how you take care of yourself, most of those guys are suffering from bad knees, hips, back, and a variety of other physical maladies...Even under the best conditions, its gonna take a toll.... So....maybe think about that and show a little compassion, if that guy is one of those types...They may not be all chipper and ready to set the world afire after 25/30 years of daily abuse...At that point, you really can't blame them... ...Its a tough life, and not enough awareness for these guys... TFY Edited June 29, 2016 by thefooloftheyear 3
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 29, 2016 Author Posted June 29, 2016 Something that needs to be mentioned with regard to this thread.....and its very important to mention.... It's no secret that practically all blue collar/trade work is done by men...The average person that sits in a cubicle all day in a climate controlled building really has no idea how physically taxing some of these trade type jobs are to the human body...These folks work in all weather conditions, all types of lifting, bending, etc...Over the course of their work life, they usually have a litany of injuries and scars to show for their service in the field..Some relatively minor and some serious.. If you aren't really careful and fussy about how you take care of yourself, most of those guys are suffering from bad knees, hips, back, and a variety of other physical maladies...Even under the best conditions, its gonna take a toll.... So....maybe think about that and show a little compassion, if that guy is one of those types...They may not be all chipper and ready to set the world afire after 25/30 years of daily abuse...At that point, you really can't blame them... ...Its a tough life, and not enough awareness for these guys... TFY Right, I know this one guy who was a roofer. His wife was an indoor worker. When her son started getting into high school age, she was starting to become more of a socialite, going downtown and meeting new people. Also, during the summer time, where social activities took place mostly outdoors, in the heat...he avoided it pretty much. He didn't do boating activities, pool parties, BBQs...all outdoor in the heat related stuff...nada...he was a roofer ALL day...so I can see his side. She had to commute about an hour from the country where they lived to meet these people. He never went with her, wasn't much of a social person. He was happy after 20 years of marriage, coming to the comfort of his own home. One day, the wife decided to divorce him and she moved away from the country into an apartment in the city. Not sure if that was the actual reason of them growing apart, but we were always puzzled why we never met the husband as she never brought him along.
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