Isittolatenow Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 Today I'm 15 days NC. In 2 days I will have beat my record of the longest time gone without speaking to him in almost 5 years to the day. Yesterday I had an amazing day, yesterday I felt happy, I actually laughed more yesterday than I have in the 3 months since we split. I took my kids to an amusement park, I actually felt like me again. Yes, I missed my ex, yes, I still thought of him, but I was happy. I'm clinging onto that as I know when I have bad days I will need that memory. When I got back last night and the kids were in bed, I logged onto Twitter. As I have follow requests on there, I noticed my ex had requested to follow me. Ignored it, I never use Twitter anyway, so he's not going to know I've seen it. Logged onto candy crush, he's requested a life from me! No chance!!!! I then uploaded pictures from the day with my kids onto Facebook, he's blocked, so no chance of him seeing them. Put the iPad down, get myself a drink, come back to a notification saying that someone has liked one of the pictures. Click on it and it's someone with an identical name to my ex!!! Had to click onto his profile to make sure it wasn't my ex. Obviously wasn't, but it made me feel sick for the rest of the night. I've never seen this person on Facebook before, so why after a great day did that have to happen! Especially after the candy crush request and the Twitter follow request. This week I'm aiming to get another week of NC under my belt and maybe brave enough to re download what's app. It was where we messaged - constantly. Took the stress out of it by deleting the app completely. The silence is deafening, but I'll get there. Surprising how little people get in touch when I need them.
smudge21 Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 Wants to see if you're still willing to chew on his breadcrumbs. Ex's do that little thing of reaching out but so subtle like that they can always retract it at a later date. So many of us would run to those crumbs, believing that the ex wants us back, but feel good that you didn't and carry on that NC road. For me, if an ex wanted back, they would have to repair all the damage they've done in the first place. Breadcrumbs aren't repairing anything. Walking over hot coals and begging is a good start, but to be honest, once they've gone, it's best left that way. Stay strong and focus on you and your kids. 1
bummer Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 Just some friendly advice but for your protection and your kids I recommend highly you make posts and pictures from you NOT public. Meaning visible only to your friends. Do you need WhatsApp for other people? Seems like no if you deleted it. I would not download it but if you do block him immediately in the settings. Avoidance trumps resistance.
Author Isittolatenow Posted June 27, 2016 Author Posted June 27, 2016 It was a picture of my brother in law, but I do appreciate the tip, it made me go back and double check my privacy I've told everyone that I've come off what's app. It took a lot of not checking at first, which is why I deleted it. There's 100,000 messages on there between us, some I'm not sure I would delete ever. So I thought it was safest to just at delete the app. One day I'm sure I'll be brave enough to download it again, now isn't that time.
Author Isittolatenow Posted June 29, 2016 Author Posted June 29, 2016 Well as the title says, im day 17. This was my downfall last time, so I'm trying really hard for it not to be this time. I'm going to switch my phone off so I'm not tempted! 1
bummer Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 Avoidance beats resistance! Hope you did something fun for the day and made NC work.
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