Mjm1014 Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 (edited) Met a girl a few weeks ago through my cousin (she hooked me up)...before we met she was texting me a decent amount (she would initiate half the time). First date-she invited me out to a bar with her friends. Great conversation, she seemed really into me. Her friends left and it was just us and we chatted awhile..overall she seemed into me and we made plans to hang the following week. After the first date though, she hardly would text unlike before we met. Second date-went to an amusement park for the day. She seemed to have a blast, was constantly asking me questions and seemed genuinely interested. I feel like we had some really good chemistry. She apparently told her parents all about me. Held hands, made out (she always had a big smile on her face and didn't seem to want to stop kissing). I had a great vibe from her. So while everything seemed great, I asked her if she would like to do something the following night when she got off work since I'm going out of town for a few days. She said she would let me know if she got off work in time. The night ended with a kiss that she initiated. Yesterday rolled around, no word from her other than a thank you text and that she had fun. I responded to it, but she never got back to my next text. She didn't even have the decency to text me to tell me she couldn't hang out last night either. So other than the thank you text, she hasn't talked to me at all which seems unlike her. Should I bother calling her up soon to ask for a 3rd date? Since I'm going out of town I was going to see if she wanted to get together next week...either way I feel like these are some bad signs... Edited June 27, 2016 by Mjm1014
smackie9 Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 Like I always say, date those who treat you the way you want to be treated. If she isn't initiating much communication between dates, and flaked on hanging out, she ain't that into you. Usually it's a sign she is busy with someone else. 2
Shanex Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 You got off really well before even meeting and it seems that her interest has subsided, sorry this is not your case yet but she might as well be onto someone else. Move on if she doesn't put much effort anymore to meet or text.
Author Mjm1014 Posted June 30, 2016 Author Posted June 30, 2016 Met a girl through my cousin..went on two dates. -Pre-date: girl texted me a decent amount, if she didn't hear from me, she would text to see what I'm up to. Overall seemed very excited. -Date one: Good date-nothing really to add other than her texting subsided after for the next week, but during the date, she seemed very interested. -Date two: Went to an amusement park. She seemed like she was having a blast with me, tons of questions, held hands, made out...she couldn't get enough of me-kissing wise. I asked her at the end of the date if she was free one of the nights during the week-and she said she would let me know if she got off work early enough to hang out but stressed she would at least let me know. -Doesn't let me know the day we planned to possibly do something. I was personally upset she couldn't take 2 seconds in the day to let me know. -Called her 3 days later to make additional plans/see how she was doing since I didn't hear from her since date two. Voicemail. -About 5 days later (today), she texts me out of the blue saying she's sorry she just got my voicemail from a few days ago because her week has been all so crazy (not like shes running the country so whatever). I said, "no prob" and asked if she was interested in doing something soon...she says "unfortunately I wont be able to for a few weeks, but told me she would be free starting in two weeks. Here's where I'm confused...I wrote this girl off a day or two ago since she's been so flakey. She's texting me less since our first date, no word from her all week including her ignoring my voicemail for a few days..when I finally decide I'm over it she contacts me today but she can't make any time for at least 2-3 weeks....whats her deal? Why even bother to contact me? How to handle? Basically I was like "ya okay" and left it at that. I'm not going to chase at all. ------- side note: my cousin pre-warned me shes an extremely busy girl before we even started dating. Talked to my cousin today and said she thinks she's prob just really busy...idk...couldn't contact me in 5-6 day, zero texting, and ignore me? idk...I know she isn't THAT interested but what would be the MOTIVE to contact me? Do you think she just feels bad?
bubbaganoosh Posted June 30, 2016 Posted June 30, 2016 Well you were warned that she's busy so now it's up to you. You want to wait for her to fit you in her daily planner or do you want a girl whose available? If her job has her running around all the time then be prepared. You can't expect her to cut back her hours.
Author Mjm1014 Posted June 30, 2016 Author Posted June 30, 2016 (edited) No I get what you're saying, but I may be the busiest person you'll ever meet...with my job in the airlines, I'm only home a few days a month, working 14-16 hours a day but if I'm interested in someone id at least acknowledged that they contact me and wouldn't wait a week to respond if I cared...if you have time to poop you have time to text. Idk I guess I don't understand why she waited all week to contact me. I was really into her and was hoping she would, now I'm really confused.. Edited June 30, 2016 by Mjm1014
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