jharp05 Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 I have been dating this woman I met online for about a month or so - about 5 dates - about 3 weeks in, I asked her where were we at as in the relationship. She told me she didn't know what she was looking for and that we could keep in touch and hang out as friends. Well, disappointed as I was, we didn't really communicate for a couple of weeks. She texted me and wanted to cook supper for me at her place. I thought this was a good sign. Well, its been a few dates more and we still haven't had sex - not even making out. Is it something I should bring up or let her make the move? On her profile she states that she's not looking for a hookup or fwb - so if I make a move or even talk about it Im worried that she'll reject me for being like every other man trying to hook up with her on the site (she gets a lot of attention) I know that makes me look like I have low self esteem, but I am only trying to respect what she states in her profile. If I do nothing, will she just think I'm too timid and move on?
SammySammy Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 At what point sex? When you both want to do it. That's the point where you do anything in a relationship - hold hands, hug, kiss, ... marry. If either of you doesn't want to do anything, then don't do it. With that said, the masculine energy should be decisive. Not hesitant. Should take the initiative to move things to the point where both of you want to do ... whatever.
Author jharp05 Posted June 27, 2016 Author Posted June 27, 2016 its nothing I'm going to force on her - its a damed if you do damed if you situation. If I assert my masculine sensibility to her Ill just look line another douce who is after 1 thing, and thats not me or what I'm really after. If I do nothing and wait for her to make the first move then its perceived that Im timid, not interested or what ever. It exhausting to spend time, money and effort courting someone when all you end up with as another friend for worst yet a pen pal.
SwordofFlame Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 My advice is to multi-date. Or to make a move on your timeline and if she rejects you, then move on. Relationships that move too slow also don't work.
smackie9 Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 You are totally friend zoned....get out now and date others. 4
basil67 Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 She wants to hang out and be friends. Her cooking supper for you was nothing more than a friendly gesture. No sex from this one. Get back out there and start meeting other women. 1
SwordofFlame Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 Just read your other thread. She just needs a friend. That's all. She's not sexually attracted to you. 2
Shanex Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 You're not getting sex from her and I don't think she will change her mind about telling you that you hang out as friends... she needs a pal. A real life pal, but a pal nonetheless.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 She told you she wanted to hang out as friends. All of her actions thus far support that - she sees you as a friend. Not a romantic partner.
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