jharp05 Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 I have been seeing this girl I met online for a couple of months - probably 5 dates so far. She seems to trust me and thats great. She is planning to have Lasik surgery on her eyes later this month and mentioned to me about needing someone to take care of her for a couple of days since she will be basically blind temporary from the surgery. I didn't really say anything at this point but she has no other family in the area and her friends tend to work different shifts than her. Should I offer to take care of her? Will that show me being responsible to move the relationship along or will it seem too weird at this stage. We haven't had sex yet so it hasn't gotten to the point where she has stayed overnight. 1
Satu Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 It would be very kind and considerate of you to offer her your help. I can think of no reason not to. Us humans have to help each other out sometimes. Take care. 1
phineas Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 couple of months, 5 dates, no sex and now hinting she needs someone to take care of her after her surgery? She isn't your GF nor is she really a friend. I personally would feel awkward about offering to do this. Also, don't they do one eye at a time for this surgery? Lazing both eyes at once I thought was a big no-no. Everyone I knew who did it yrs ago only got one eye at a time. 3
Author jharp05 Posted June 27, 2016 Author Posted June 27, 2016 not sure about the 1 eye at a time - but I will have her look into that. like i said, no family near by and friends work odd shifts. she hasn't asked me at all, but has mentioned that she will need someone to help her for a couple of days during her recovery. i did't know if I should even offer being that were so new.
katiegrl Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 (edited) I don't get why she needs anyone to *take care of her* for a couple of days. Let alone a guy she had five dates with. Her eyes will be blurry but she is not gonna be blind, geez. She will still be able to get around, prepare simple meals, etc. It is not like she will be bedridden.. She will need rest after she gets home from the procedure...and she won't be able to drive for a few days. Stay out of the sun. That is about the extent of it. She will need someone to drive her home after the surgery and you could offer to do that. I am wondering what she would have done had she not started dating you? Five dates in two months? That is like one date every 1.5 weeks. So you are barely even dating. So her *hinting* that she would like you to "take care of her" (which is precisely what she was doing) seems really odd. I would not offer. It is too soon for that. I am still wondering what she expects. You (or someone) to spend 24/7 with her for two days? I know people who were at work the next day! Their eyes were a bit blurry but again they weren't blind. She will be fine. She managed fine before she met you, and if she did not think she could manage on her own, with help from friends after they get off work, she should not have scheduled the surgery in the first place. Edited June 27, 2016 by katiegrl
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