frus69 Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 Just to give another update I made sure my coworker understood I wasn't interested in sex. It didn't go to well. It was actually really awkward. I was walking by his office and he told me to come in and close the door. I did and I just mouth vomit that I didn't want to have sex with him, I love my bf, and I'm a Virgin didn't plan on losing it. He looked at me like I was crazy and asked me if I was lying about being a Virgin. I told him absolutely not and he literally got up from his office chair and sat at the chair next to me and rubbed my leg. It wasn't an assuring leg rub like he respected my choice to be a virgin but it is was very creepy. His touch lingered and went to my inner thigh. I felt very uncomfortable even though I'm attracted to him, it's not attractive to be touched like that. I'm not saying he molested me but he made me feel very uncomfortable. And what made it worst is he didn't say anything while he was doing it he just stared at me like he was in a trance. I told him to stop and then he snapped and told me I shouldn't have flirted with him and that I could get myself in trouble. I didn't feel like arguing so I just left his office. So that's where I am. The first couple of months working with him is going to be awkward but eventually he'll get over it or find someone else. . Gross. How does he get away with sexual harassment like this? How is it possible? No one ever sued him? 5
sc0316 Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 OP: You should report him to HR. I'm sure he has harrassed other young women. 5
RecentChange Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 Yep, totally not acceptable in a work place, especially being as he is your superior. Do a HUGE FAVOR for all of the young women who will come after you and REPORT THIS GUY! You shouldn't have to accept this behavior, and neither should anyone else. This guy should be looking for a new job. 3
Blanco Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 You should still break up with your boyfriend. 21 is far too young to have to be running around in circles to mold yourself into something your partner wants you to be. 1
Author KaiLEE Posted June 28, 2016 Author Posted June 28, 2016 I work in HR, so I will be reporting this. But, I know its not going to do much, but at least I have a record. It's going to be difficult because he can say that I wanted it because we were close, so he can argue that, but its still on company grounds. I will figure it out with my supervisor. This is just another fire I have to put out
VeveCakes Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 Eww what a creep. You aren't attracted to your bf so why are you dating? Be friends, find someone your age who you are attracted to.
smackie9 Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 He's a narcissistic a hole. How dare he blame you for his inappropriate behavior. Gross! Warn the other ladies in the office. 1
Jabron1 Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 You need to let your boyfriend go. You have been depriving him of sex for two years whilst fantasizing about shagging another man. Not really fair on the boy, is it?
bubbaganoosh Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 You better learn fast between a older man and a dirty old man. Big difference. 2
Author KaiLEE Posted June 28, 2016 Author Posted June 28, 2016 You need to let your boyfriend go. You have been depriving him of sex for two years whilst fantasizing about shagging another man. Not really fair on the boy, is it? I'm not going to let him go. He's a good and sweet man that is very rare. And he's a virgin too so im not depriving him of something he has never experience. I know it's not fair, but that's how I felt, and I'm working on making it right. 1
Poutrew Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 I'm not going to let him go. He's a good and sweet man that is very rare. And he's a virgin too so im not depriving him of something he has never experience. I know it's not fair, but that's how I felt, and I'm working on making it right. But that's how you make it right. Tell him "I love you, but I am fantasizing about older men putting their mature dic*s inside me. I just felt you ought to know, boyfriend. However, I don't think I am being cruel to you because you are a virgin and so how can you miss something you've never had, and will never get from me for the reasons I have outlined above." Then you step back and let him make the decision about how important vagina denied is in his life. Of course, if you do what I said, you will be alone the next night... but them's the breaks, kid. Play it any other way, and you're just leading him on and using him. I will also tell you that if I were your boyfriend, after I found out what game you are playing I would demand we march right into the bedroom and have sex. Think it's farfetched that I'd ever find out? What do you think will happen when HR moves to let your OM go (fire him) and he fights the decision by telling all the details you aren't telling? BF is young, not stooopid...
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