darkmoon Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 (edited) Since I got my cat she has done nothing but supervise me, so i stopped her visting me, told her straight, and was prepared to let the friendship go.She has her own cats. ok We have mutual friends and are having a meal in a restaurant, she will be there. I know she feels a bit hard done by, but she never took the hint/s I gave telling about what the vet said, eight times in response to her eight questons. One after the other. In fact there was another battle of wills over something else too, in our mere six month friendship, and sarcasm one time her to me, so I was already losing interest in her. I know she thinks I should want to get close, but I do not, I feel unwell at the thought of her, she will query me at the dinner, which is to celebrate somebody's birthday, I would not re-open an argument myself. The eight hints and my subsequent rejection of her visiting me was on my birthday actually, three months ago, which she spolied; she even interrupted and contradicted me telling a story about my cat, on my birthday. I playfully said don't spoil my story, and she just laughed a lot, meh. I passd the interview to be cat owner at the cat's home, I love my pet. And she loves me, she seeks me out. She has got everything, tree, tunnel, treats, catnip etc. only cat owners would know Only this one friend is the controller. We are all over fifty, she is what she is, and likes it. My first thought is to be polite enjoy the food, but I doubt whether she will just go with the flow, sheesh... Any thoughts? My plan is to be evasive and vague if she challenges me, which she will Edited June 27, 2016 by darkmoon
MsJayne Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 I'm not sure I got the full gist, but she sounds arrogant and socially inept. Sad thing about people like that is that you pretty much have to tackle them head on and get into a verbal brawl before they take the hint that you aren't interested in their know-it-all opinions, etc. The best I can suggest is that if she approaches you at your friends birthday gathering that you shut her down by saying, "This is a birthday celebration, lets not spoil it by boring people with that stuff." Say it firmly with a hard eye. If she doesn't take the hint then you have every right to just freeze her, change the subject to something light and inclusive of other people, turn away from her, even talk over her. If she is a know-it-all I would bet money you're not the only person who she annoys. 1
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