Funkytown Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 I joined tinder about a month ago and talked to and then met up twice with a guy on there who got on with and like. He has now however disappeared from my matches and messages, this happened after my account seemed to go a bit weird and I logged out and in, however it could also be because he decided he wasn't so keen and unmatched me. ( I think I got a bit overexcited and got a bit too sedning lots of messages) The second time we met I went to his house (nothing dodgy just chilled pizza night in) which I will literally be passing by in a couple of days as in on route to a friends house. Is it too stalkery to turn up and say hey not sure what happened cus I'm new to tinder, thought I'd try on off chance while passing? As there is currently no other way to contact him or vice versa to know what happened?
Zahara Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 Good grief. Do not show up at his house. Absolutely not. He may be off a Tinder because he's met someone. Or he's blocked you. It was two dates. Move on. Nothing to figure out. 5
Ocino Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 (edited) lol don't show up at his house. Bad idea. However I would think you'd be able to gauge how he feels about you since you've actually spent time at his place, or be able to tell if the unmatching was a technical error or a voluntary decision on his part. However if you really, really like him and you truly aren't sure, maybe you could type up a note and leave it in his mailbox, or mail it to him, and include your phone number and tell him you'd like to know for sure. Either way you need to move on and assume it's not going to work until you hear back. Do not dwell on it. Edited June 27, 2016 by Ocino
leogirl876 Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 I've never had good experiences from men I've met on Tinder! All but one have all been douchebags!
Dis Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 Oh geez...pls dont show up at his house hun! You had 2 dates...thats it...and now you two are passing ships in the night....thats the way dating is sometimes Forget about him and move onto the next hun
ExpatInItaly Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 Yes, that's more than a little stalker-ish. Do not go to his house! And with due respect to fellow posters, please do not leave a letter in his mailbox for him either. He's vanished for a reason. He either had a change of heart or met someone else. Just let this one go. 1
stillafool Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 If he wanted you he would have found a way so please don't show up at his house. He will think you are crazy especially since you previously had bombarded him with texting. That is probably why he went ghost.
4x4storm Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 Could be so many things you have no idea! I had a girl once block me 30 minutes before our date. 6 months later she unblocks me and I find out on that day we were supposed to go out she became exclusive with someone. Also last night I matched with a girl we exchanged numbers and set up a date. This afternoon while typing a message to her she unfriends me why? I have absolutely no idea. It could be so many things you just don't know.
Cherryz Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 You sound very needy and into "his face". Dont go to his house. Dont even drive by in his neighborhood!!!! He have the right to drop you. Move on! Beside next time dont meet at home that early already. Give people space and time to get to know you and to react. Being all the time in their face and acting needy scare people away and its annoying. He is not into you anymore, so move on!
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