juniorrocha Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 About 5 days ago I broke up with my ex for good. Before that, we had a month of NC, which led me to meet new girls, then my ex came back just to break up again. One of them became really important in a short time, I'll call her Sophia. We saw each other like 4 times prior the "last break up". Coincidentally, an hour after the break up, Sophia messaged me asking how I've been, after days of not talking. I opened my heart to her, and she suggested we should meet the following day so I could vent; turned out we talked for over 4 hours about different subjects which was nice. We saw each other for the next 2 days too, which were amazing as we have a lot in common. And since the break up, we've been in touch with each other daily, sometimes spending over 5 hours chatting etc. The last time we saw each other I went to her place, which is really near, and she made me a nice massage, we had sex, we were cuddling, everything felt wonderful. She's so nice that on friday I told her I was having the urge to call my ex, and she said "whenever you feel like calling your ex, call me instead, anytime, even if it's late". What's worrying me is: she's getting reaaaally close. I'm not sure anymore whether she's involved or not. I like her a lot, she's nice and so beautiful, the last thing I would do is hurt her, but I don't have any feelings for pursuing a relationship whatsoever. In fact, I'm afraid she's been friendzoned already. I've known her for a month now. How should I talk to her about this situation?
ExpatInItaly Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 You need to be very clear with her that this only sex for you. Tell her, kindly but firmly, that this will not develop into a relationship. I think it's probably better if you stop seeing her. If you sense she's getting close and developing feelings and you know you're still in love with your ex and don't feel the same way about her, she will get hurt if you continue. 1
Author juniorrocha Posted June 26, 2016 Author Posted June 26, 2016 You need to be very clear with her that this only sex for you. Tell her, kindly but firmly, that this will not develop into a relationship. I think it's probably better if you stop seeing her. If you sense she's getting close and developing feelings and you know you're still in love with your ex and don't feel the same way about her, she will get hurt if you continue. The problem is that I'm not even sure whether she's developing feelings or not. I really enjoy spending time with her, talking to her, she's a nice girl. As long as she's not looking forward a relationship as well, I'm sure we can become even greater friends. Perhaps it's too soon to talk to her about it? Since we only started getting closer 5 days ago, even though we've known each other for a month now.
Author juniorrocha Posted June 27, 2016 Author Posted June 27, 2016 We met today and I'm pretty confident she isn't feeling anything other than FWB. I feel relieved. Didn't have to ask, but I told her I've been seeing other girls to see her reaction and nothing changed after that. In fact, we're going out to a club next weekend together and we agreed to meet new people there. Both of us got very excited with the idea. hahaha 1
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