Is it time to move on?

[Sunnylover21]

Since the start of the year I have been having an unofficial on off relationship with a guy from my main friendship group.

 

It started off with dating, turned into the occasional hook up, friends with benefits and finally into something not quite dating but definitely more than sex - something we both agree on.

 

I told him how I feel a few weeks ago and that I wanted to spend some more time together to see where things go. He wasn't against the idea, but seems to think this means I want a relationship straight away and he's not up for that. He just said he didn't know.

 

This weekend we were away with friends and ended up sharing a room, but not having sex. He finally admitted that he does have feelings for me and that things aren't black and white with us anymore and we're in this grey area.

 

We agreed we needed to stop (but have done this several times and never been successful) and I just do not know what to do. He's said its not me at all, but there's stuff holding him back and he's trying hard not to make us a thing. We just keep being drawn to each other though.

 

I still have to see him all the time, and I just don't know what to do.

 

One of the main issues was he felt at times it didn't feel that natural because of all the expectations on us, and I kind of agree. Do I just act bright and breezy and hope that by showing it isn't awkward and we can have that natural friendship between us he might be more open?

 

Do I just give up?

Edited June 26, 2016 by Sunnylover21
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[smackie9]

I think he's lying. He is telling you want you want to hear so he can keep what he has with you. I wouldn't buy it that he has developed real feelings for you. When they start doing a song and dance, all it is is a smoke screen to string you along.

 

The reality of it is, he isn't interested in being serious with you period. If you want a relationship with him or even anyone else you need to move on.

[DJOkawari]

I'm not 100% sure about the lying (let's say 50% sure ) but I agree with the remainder of what smackie said. He has had a lot of time to be in a relationship with you, the fact that you aren't in one yet is the only proof you need.

 

Unless he makes a really large (emphasis on really) effort towards you, I wouldn't consider him again.

[mortensorchid]

I think he's playing his options. He's telling you that he wants to keep things as they are with you and yet be open to someone else potentially coming into the picture too. Is this what you want? If so, good for you, but it doesn't sound like it.