jms Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 I broke up with my G/F about 5 weeks ago. She has been out of town doing a tevevision internship this whole time. Before the breakup, I had purchased a plane ticket to go see her. After much debate, I decided to use the ticket still to go visit her and my sister (who she is living with for 2 months.) While out there we had a great time with one another, and decided to give things another shot. Its been two weeks now, and we've been talking pretty much every day. There is one problem... Tonight she asked me If, while we were broken up, I had been with anybody else. I honestly haven't, and I told her that. She then asked, "well did you even KISS anybody?" I told her no. The truth is though, that I had kissed one girl durring the 3 weeks we were broken up. It was a full-on kiss, tounge and everything, but thats as far as it went - and I didn't even feel comfortable with it (I didn't speak with the girl after the fact). I don't know what to do. I feel awful about this whole thing. I have another ticket to go see her over the July 4th holiday (she bought this one.) and I feel like if I go back on what I said (about not having kissed anyone) it could ruin all the progress we have made. And I'm so excited to go out and see her, I don't want to ruin things... I don't even understand why she asked the question. I wouldn't even want to know about anything that happened with her while she has been gone and we were broken up... ugh what a mess.
Becki Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 well this is my opinion, and i think some people are going to disagree with me. but i wouldn't tell her. You said you didn't really feel comfortable with it and whatever, but if you told your girl this, no doubt she wouldn't believe you anyway. Like you said, you wouldn't want to know if she had done anything with anyone else, because it could effect how you are now getting things back on track. If it was anything more serious I would encourage you to have told her, but this isnt the case!
miss-gonewest Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 Girls ask these questions, because we can... usually we don't really want to know the answer, and the correct answer is usually always "no, I didn't do anything". Given it was a kiss and you will never see the girl again, I wouldn't say anything. Given you feel bad about it and you know that what you did was wrong, I think you've punished yourself enough. No need to let her do it to you as well. I don't advocate cheating (and to me a kiss is probably enough to consitute cheating in my mind) but as long as you've learnt your lesson and will never do it again, then that's good enough for me. Good luck & enjoy your trip to see her. {By the way - why did you break up in the first place?}
Author jms Posted June 27, 2005 Author Posted June 27, 2005 My first post to the loveshack forums (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t64680/) will give you the story behind why I had originally broken up with her. As far as saying I'll never see this girl again - I can't say for certain that I won't. I'm in college, and a fraternity. The girl I kissed may come around to big events and stuff (not that I would do anything with her). Also, I suppose there is a slight possibility that one of my fraternity brothers could say something stupid somewhere down the line, I mean I kissed this girl at our fraternity house, but I'm not even sure why that sort of thing would even come up. It is comforting to hear that I'm not alone in thinking that there is no relevance to this question other than to potentially ruin us working things out. But since I'm not 100% certain that she would NEVER find out on her own (I'd say I'm about 90%), what do I say to her in that other 10% of time where somehow she does catch wind of what happened? Thank you for your responses.
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