lolgirls Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 Hey everyone, I dated my ex for about 2 years and a half. We are both in our early 20s. It was generally a great relationship, although we fought here and there. She fell out of love with me in the last few months, and due to our excessive fighting, she broke up with me. I took the breakup reasonably well, and only begged for a second chance after a week. After she shot me down, I went NC to heal and it has been just over two months since the breakup. When she decided not to give us another chance, I went home and deleted her from all social media (except one) and took all of our pics down so I could start the healing process. Obviously I was devastated and still am sad after 2 months of NC. She rebounded a week after (despite telling everyone she won't date anyone for months)... a downgrade in most people's opinion. I didn't delete her on Twitter because I never use it anyway. Anyway, I logged on a few months later and she has changed her DP to a picture of her and her rebound (but not on any other social media) in an attempt to make me jealous (lol...). Our relationship was really wonderful at times and we often talked about marriage and kids. It didn't end for any serious reason, just some arguments about trivial stuff towards the end. In conclusion, I've been coping pretty well. Got a job, got in an even better shape than I already was, picked up some new hobbies. My question to you all is, why is she doing this? I honestly feel bad for her rebound (my best friend knows him) because I feel like he is being used so hard. I have heard that she is still sad, although she pretends to be having a good time. I would love to hear your opinions, as it is my first serious break up. Thanks
LD1990 Posted June 25, 2016 Posted June 25, 2016 My question to you all is, why is she doing this? Because she wants to make things Twitter-official? Because she wants to drive you insane? Who can really answer that question, besides her? More importantly, why does it matter? The best thing to do is unfollow her on Twitter and do real NC, meaning you don't have people telling you that they think she's sad. Don't waste time contemplating the actions of an ex, or "feeling sorry" for her new boyfriend. Worry less about her life and more about moving on with your own.
juniorrocha Posted June 25, 2016 Posted June 25, 2016 1) You can't tell for sure she changed her picture just to make you jealous. That's something you're putting in your mind to believe she's still into you. 2) If she fell out of love, then the guy she's with now may not be a rebound. Rebounds happen when you're still in love with your ex and you get into a serious relationship with someone else. If she didn't feel anything for you anymore and was just dragging the relationship around, then maybe he's not a rebound. 3) Considering the way you're talking here, I'm pretty sure you're still wanting a second chance and probably wondering if she thinks about it too. Imo, if you're doing well, what's the point of even trying? Relationships ends for a reason, and when one of you fall out of love, then most likely there's nothing to be done to make it work again. If you're not thinking about a second chance, then there's no reason you should care about what she's doing with her life now. Just keep NC and forget about the picture.
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