Swan89 Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 (edited) Met this girl from POF yesterday and when I saw her at our meet point, I walked over with a smile confidently to give her a hug but she stood up and said hi with a blank look on her face and continued to walk straight away so I didn't have a chance to hug her. She's clearly gained quite a bit of weight compared to her pictures, but I didn't really mind because I love curves and a bit of extra weight. The rest of the date, it was ok, we had drinks and talked about interests and career goals, etc. We had a few things in common too and she warmed up a bit. But towards the end of the date I found myself having to quickly think of questions to ask or things to say to fill some silences creeping in. I walked her back to the station, and we kissed for a bit. I'm not sure what to think or whether its worth trying for another date. Your thoughts? Edited June 24, 2016 by Swan89
bummer Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 No initial smile but still let you get some kissing in? Sounds like she was nervously avoidant, or really thirsty and focused on getting that first drink in her. It could mean she's not interested at all. It could also mean she knew you are soul mates and she was scared the eye contsct would reveal her secret and make you run away. She could have aspergers. I could too. Either way a second date to confirm any suspicions would be advisable. 1
Gaeta Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 She knew she was not like her picture so she was fearing your reaction. After the date she saw you liked her anyway so went ahead with the kissing. If you like her than ask her out again. 1
VeveCakes Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 Just sounds like she was really nervous! Be relaxed and take the lead for convos, it will help her feel comfortable around you and you will be amazed how quickly people can relax.
losangelena Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 Well, you ended the evening by making out ... so I'm not really sure what the problem is. 2
Author Swan89 Posted June 24, 2016 Author Posted June 24, 2016 The problem was the awkwardness and not being able to get her to be more assertive and confident, like her flirting was non existent.
Gaeta Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 The problem was the awkwardness and not being able to get her to be more assertive and confident, like her flirting was non existent. You need to look beyond that. It was a first meeting. Give her at least 2-3 dates. Not every body is comfortable meeting strangers from the Internet. 2
losangelena Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 The problem was the awkwardness and not being able to get her to be more assertive and confident, like her flirting was non existent. My ex was awkward as hell on our first couple of dates. It happens. Not everyone is outgoing and assertive and flirty right off the bat. Give her some time. She made out with you, so she obviously likes you somewhat.
Buddhist Posted June 25, 2016 Posted June 25, 2016 The problem was the awkwardness and not being able to get her to be more assertive and confident, like her flirting was non existent. So she has a different personality to your run of the mill airhead? And the problem is.....
4x4storm Posted June 25, 2016 Posted June 25, 2016 Haha I wouldn't worry to much a girl I met this week off Okupid gave me a blank stare and shook my hand No kissing but right after the date she said she liked me and wanted to meet again so you never know buddy.
Hermus Posted June 25, 2016 Posted June 25, 2016 You're overanalyzing things. She probably just was very nervous. If she really didn't like you I doubt she would have gone for the kiss.
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