juniorrocha Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 I'm feeling this extreme urge to contact my ex. Not because I want her back or to question her decision to break up, but because she decided to come back 3 days ago only to break up again and that's hurting really bad. I feel like sending her an e-mail just venting, putting everything out of my chest, and telling how cruel she was with me. I have absolutely no desire on being her friend, boyfriend, anything. I just feel like running away from her and never look back. But I still feel like she should know how bad she threated me, how much she's hurted me. Something tells me it isn't wise but I can't believe I put up with everything during 2 years and never made her realize how it messed me up. Idk, I just feel very lost atm
KBarletta Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 Generally speaking, I think it can be useful to write these kinds of things out to organize our thoughts, express our feelings, vent, get things out of our system, etc. But also, I think it's usually best once you write them to keep them to yourself and not send them. That is just my $0.02. I can definitely relate to the desire to vent to your ex about all the ways that they hurt you. And you want them to hurt just as much. And it can be therapeutic to get those feelings out, but it's usually not a good idea to send them. Maybe write it all down, then hold onto it for a few days before you decide what to do. You'll likely think better of it. 1
SixxChick Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 I just feel like running away from her and never look back. There's your answer right there. 1
privategal Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 (edited) Go ahead and tell her. Then block. Just make sure you get it all out what you need to say..for you...but please wait 24-48 hours and re-read it before sending. If you do not block her, she will argue back, get defensive, it can get ugly and she may blame you or also put you down or list your faults making you feel worse. If you need to give her your thoughts, for your healing...do so then disappear. Make sure you wont regret it. Then you will be caught in a cycle of regret so really be sure. Edited June 24, 2016 by privategal
Author juniorrocha Posted June 24, 2016 Author Posted June 24, 2016 Yeah, that's right. Just gotta stay strong and get over this again. It sucks but it's not the end of the world. I won't send it, I actually wrote it but I don't think it's worth to send it. I'll be fine. Might as well find something to occupy my mind now. 1
Author juniorrocha Posted June 24, 2016 Author Posted June 24, 2016 Go ahead and tell her. Then block. Just make sure you get it all out what you need to say..for you...but please wait 24-48 hours and re-read it before sending. If you do not block her, she will argue back, get defensive, it can get ugly and she may blame you or also put you down or list your faults making you feel worse. If you need to give her your thoughts, for your healing...do so then disappear. Make sure you wont regret it. Then you will be caught in a cycle of regret so really be sure. I decided it's best not to send it. I am really pissed off, but it will just do harm. When we broke up again this week, things ended up positively at least. There were no fights, no arguments, just talking. She said she wasn't feeling it would work, she cried a lot, then I cried too, and I suppose it's best to accept it and move on. She was the one to give it up, I suppose afterall the circumstances doesn't matter. All I can do is accept it and get going with my life. I know in time things will be fine. What sucks is to wait for this feeling to go away. 2
Trinity_84 Posted June 25, 2016 Posted June 25, 2016 Go ahead and tell her. If you do not block her, she will argue back, get defensive, it can get ugly and she may blame you or also put you down or list your faults making you feel worse. Or even worse, she could not reply at all!!! Indifference hurts A LOT worse than a sh***y reply, IMO... 3
tomatome Posted June 26, 2016 Posted June 26, 2016 It's not wise and serves no purpose really; in the end it will probably make you feel worse and you may come to regret it. Why don't you write something down and post it here? We can commiserate with you and help get you through.
Author juniorrocha Posted June 26, 2016 Author Posted June 26, 2016 Hey guys, I ended up deleting what I wrote, because I don't really want to go down that route of anger and being pissed off. She decided to leave, it was her decision, I told her we could work it out, or at least try, but she wouldn't listen. I'll respect it and stay away, for my own good. There's really nothing I can do. Venting or calling her names won't get me anywhere; in fact, like many of you said, it might make things worse. I'm feeling a lot better now, had a few things during this weekend which made me get my mind off of her. Thanks for the support. 2
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