geronimo Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 Hey guys, so I have been talking to this girl for a while. She is from one of my labs in school and me being the wuss I am I waited till after the labs finished to add her on fb. Long story short, I added her on fb, listened to my stupid friends' advice (I have been out of "the game" forever cuz was in a 5 year RS) and moved too quickly and scared her to the point where when I asked her out she said she isn't interested in dating atm... i know, thats my queue to move on (also it wasn't as blunt as i wrote it). So i let it go, but it kept bothering me that maybe if I didn't listen to my friends and did what felt right and was "myself" she may actually be interested because initially when I was doing that we would send eachother paragraphs of things and would msg back and forth. Anyways one day I saw something that reminded me of a convo we had and her, so I msged her about it and we have been talking ever since, it took me a while but I got her number and we're now currently texting. I just feel like she is probably being a bit reserved even though she is still responsive and messages back often and carries out the conversation. But i also feel like I'm boring her because I dont know what to say or do.... pathetic i know . So I'm here for advice, plz help me out, what should the game plan be (I obviously want to ask her out in the near future again but I want her to be comfortable before I do it...again.) and what should I do/say to make the convo interesting/flirty and fun? Much appreciated!
bummer Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 For you, don't play a game. Act yourself. If you stay friend zone, be cool with that. Talk about cool stuff from your paragraphs. You know what your shared interests are. Develop them more. Ask her out again if she starts initiating conversations. Is she asking you questions too? If it fails, you may sacrifice the friendship entirely. A wise proverb goes "a cat as a friend brings more pussy than a cat on the street." Translation? If you feel this situation out correctly and she's not interested, if you keep her as a friend, she can introduce you to her friends who may be interested. Better than losing her entirely, Ya know?
Redhead14 Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 Hey guys, so I have been talking to this girl for a while. She is from one of my labs in school and me being the wuss I am I waited till after the labs finished to add her on fb. Long story short, I added her on fb, listened to my stupid friends' advice (I have been out of "the game" forever cuz was in a 5 year RS) and moved too quickly and scared her to the point where when I asked her out she said she isn't interested in dating atm... i know, thats my queue to move on (also it wasn't as blunt as i wrote it). So i let it go, but it kept bothering me that maybe if I didn't listen to my friends and did what felt right and was "myself" she may actually be interested because initially when I was doing that we would send eachother paragraphs of things and would msg back and forth. Anyways one day I saw something that reminded me of a convo we had and her, so I msged her about it and we have been talking ever since, it took me a while but I got her number and we're now currently texting. I just feel like she is probably being a bit reserved even though she is still responsive and messages back often and carries out the conversation. But i also feel like I'm boring her because I dont know what to say or do.... pathetic i know . So I'm here for advice, plz help me out, what should the game plan be (I obviously want to ask her out in the near future again but I want her to be comfortable before I do it...again.) and what should I do/say to make the convo interesting/flirty and fun? Much appreciated! what should the game plan -- This is not a game and there should be no plan for things that need to be allowed to happen naturally. I want her to be comfortable before I do it...again -- why are you assuming she's uncomfortable now? She will be more uncomfortable if you wait too long because while you're waiting, she may be on pins and needles wondering if you are going to ask her. Get out of her head. And, I don't think you are waiting for her to be comfortable, you are waiting because YOU aren't comfortable. Relax, be yourself. Talk about something funny/fun from your childhood and let her share something from hers. Keep it light. 2
kendahke Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 So I'm here for advice, plz help me out, what should the game plan be No games. Be genuine.
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