Should I call him again or is he just not interested?

[phyrespryte]

hey. i've been up since 5am so i'm a little (just a little) tired. all kinds of things going through my head so if i'm not focused in my response i'm verry sorry.

 

i think timmy was acting like a douche bag and it's hilarious that you put him in his place. seriously. don't whine if you can't make a better suggestion.

 

poor shonna sucks that guys are being all a-hole like. i don't understand guys. i really don't. and the game playing is real annoying.

 

but...man oh man does your job sound great! all those attractive guys... damn. it must be hard to keep focused!

 

at least that's how it'd be for me.

 

well i saw foreign guy today. i went to buy a cd and on my way back i passed a table that he and shaggy were working at. foreign guy didn't see me b/c he was really into his work, but i saw shaggy watching me.

so i went to the back room copied my files and walked past their table again. this time shaggy was gone and foreign guy was getting up to do something. We didn't make eye contact so I just kept walking, but I swear that I heard him say hey phy.. and then stop.

 

anyways later on i went to class and since i was early i decided to go back downstairs and get a soda. i passed by their table again. (yeah this table is really located well) so this time i don't look at all, but on the way back i do look. and i see him looking at me so i smile and he gives me this lame head nod thing...you know how guys always do. whole time our eyes are like locked. but he doesn't smile. just the dumb head nod.

 

so i'm thinking... did he get my email? is that why shaggy is all watching me?

 

i kind of think he didn't get my email.

so i'm thinking. which at this hour i really shouldn't be thinking. i should be sleeping...

i'm thinking that maybe i should send another email...one to his other email address. and be like oh i got it from a friend and say...

something like was wondering if you got my email or not since i haven't gotten a response yes or no. but i'd like to know either way. just to have some closure.

 

i'm thinking of sending it right now.

 

what do you think?

 

er um never mind. i just sent it. i'm an idiot.

 

but as i see it. there's really nothing to lose. if he says no. well then life goes on. i never see him as it is so it's not like things will be any different.

[phyrespryte]

So I got a response this time. Totally bizarro.

I'm like you know what? I give up. Anyways. SO my email..hey don't know if this your email, sent a letter to the other email wanted to know your response either way blah blah.

 

His response...

 

Yeah this is my mail..

 

I dont use the school one..

 

 

Best

 

Foreign Dude

 

blah. he better get a clue and check the school address. i don't have the strength to ask again.

[phyrespryte]

So...

 

I'm starting to view this thread as a thing to just get thoughts sorted out.

 

Anyways, I've finally gotten some sleep. I woke up this morning feeling a little more clearer. At first I was a little pissed that foreign guy didn't read my other email and wanted to respond with something sarcastic, but I decided to sleep in a little more (class isn't till 4).

 

So after that I woke up and decided to write another email as equally short and to the point as his:

 

Ok then...

Well haven't talked to you in awhile, was wondering if you'd like to get together for coffee or lunch sometime?

 

- phyre

 

There are all kinds of conflicting thoughts going through my head right now. Like maybe he did read my email and was trying to avoid answering. But since he responded in a little under 5 minutes I kind of doubt that. Maybe he'll be turned off by me being the pursuer. Or maybe he really just was a friendly guy?

 

Oh well. I do feel a little nervous about his response...even if it is a yes. I do hope there is a response though. The waiting is just pure torture.

[phyrespryte]

Well I just got a response...

 

Sure... Down for coffee...

 

Sometimes Sunday is cool for me ?

 

I want to throw up!

It's like now what? I mean... geez. Sunday really isn't any good for me. Ahhh! Well I'll figure things out. I think. I'd feel bad asking for Sunday off from work especially since I did that last week. But... honestly aside from Friday that's probably the easiest day to compromise.

 

 

I don't mind this kind of nervousness.

So that's it. I will not post again until something seriously major happens.

[justagirl1121]

yikes sounds like you've been busy......lots of guts for asking tho!!!! i like how you em'd him and he still didnt answ...maybe he should chk other email....sorry i am typing this one handed cause i am curling my hair...going out tonite w. shonna b/c guys suck & we need a pickmeup....n e way...i dont see y he cant do coffee or something...its not like a real official date thing u know.....doesnt seem like you r putting all kinds of pressure on this dude. if a guy asked me for coffee i'd b more likely to say yes than if it was dinner and flowers kind of stuff.....

 

i am kinda over scott but kinda not...i feel better in a way but sad in another way b/c i just didnt see it backfiring on me so badly. it'd be one thing if nothing happened...i dont think i'd feel hurt this way. being fruends and him appearing interested for so long i just would'nt have thought he'd do that. i thought i had picked a good one, but i guess my judgement really sucks.

 

i mean does it really have to be this hard for us? the only thing that helps me is that im not the only one and that like 80% of us out there have this problem. i like how we dont see any guys out there with these problems? It seems like their posts are all "does she like me?" but there aren't any where our stories are coming from guys with girls being bitchy.

 

what ever happened to elijah hmmm? he must think we're crazy and needy like the rest of them. Figures. No surprise there.

 

i signed up for these text alerts (too many and now i cant seem to get rid of them lol) since i have unlimited txt msg now, and one of the ones i get everyday are quotes. and half the time they are quotes putting men down. i think its funny. there arent any about how women suck. it must be a woman in chrg of these txts LOL

 

"men are not against you; they are merely for themselves" - gene fowler

 

"I base everything on the idea that all men are basiclly just seven years old" Joan Collins

 

 

i have pickmeups too:

 

If you were a laser gun, you'd be set on stunning.

I won first prize for my pick-up line. Would you like to hear it? 'Hi!'

Do you want to exchange gum?

I think I can die happy now, cause I've just seen a piece of heaven.

I think I love you but I can't be sure until I kiss you.

 

Some are better than others LOL. I got a fortune today tho that said "even children think you're hopeless" i was like omg, thanks!!!! damn

 

"three guys walk into a bar. the fourth one ducks."

"mamma said there would be days like this, but she never said there would be so many."

[justagirl1121]

whoops u posted while i was typing. yaaaaay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i'll cross my fingers nothing bad happens!!!!

[phyrespryte]

Ok I know I said I would wait before I posted again...

So he sent me that short email...

 

Man is he brief. And his writing is a bit confusing. Sometimes Sunday? So did he mean sometime or that Sundays are usually good for him? So I sent him another email back saying that Sunday is good as long as it's after 1. Well haven't heard from him since. I think that email was sent around 5:30ish.

 

Blah. I don't feel like sending another email. I really really really don't. maybe i will on saturday. i don't know. i hate playing the guy in this thing.

 

Anyways, hope you had a great time justagirl. Going out sounds like a good thing. And those jokes cracked me up. Especially the one about the 3 guys walking into a bar. I sat there for a good 10 minutes before I finally got it. For some reason jokes like that are my favorite.

 

Here's one of my favorites: A group of guys wanted to surprise their friend for his 30th birthday so they got him a room at a nice hotel and ordered a hooker for him... Well she goes up to the room and knocks on the door. He opens it and she tells him that she's there to give him super sex. The man scratches his head and says..."I'll take the soup".

 

Sorry about Scott. I don't think that your judgement was bad. He seemed like a nice guy, but really confused about what he wanted. And I think he's really inexperienced when it comes to these things which is why he's being an ass right now and not contacting you. But whatever he's not important.

 

I've seen quite a few posts from guys who were interested in a girl, but stuck in the friend zone... I guess that's their equivalent to our situation? I kind of think that's almost as bad. But, yeah I wonder what happened to Elijah. Maybe he's not online as much b/c he's met someone?

 

Anyways, hope you've had fun tonight!

[justagirl1121]

I wouldnt send him another email. I see what you mean by the S on sometimes. i would go with he means this sunday, in this case anyway, but i come across that problem where someone will say can instead of can't LOL....big difference! Anyway, you emailed him back and so u made it clear what you meant, i'd just wait for him to respond. Obviously if he means sunday he'll be checking before then to make sure.

 

Plus us girls become needy and crazy very quickly, so if you bombard him w/ too many emails it might make him think that. If anything, he didn't say no!!!!!!

 

So, I went to this club with Shonna. There are some WEIRD dudes out there. ALl the hot guys were with girls. SHonna was like "that old dude is lookin at you" i was likle god, lets not give him any ideas. Or she'd be like "god, i keep accidently giving that dude eye contact, he prob thinks i want him."

 

This one reallllly super tall black guy came up and wanted to dance with us and shonna was like no, which surprised me, but i guess she htought *I* wouldnt want to, but we did; he had a friend lol. so im dancing with him and he's like 'so what college do you go to" and im like "we're out of college" LOL...he's like oh so am i. he's trying to go to pitt to be a bball player or something.....so at the end of the song he and his friend were done and he kissed our hands! LOL. the dude was realllly tall lol. anyway then we were standing by this game machine called the "green tee" and this dude comes up to us and goes something like "why are you standing by the green tee. if i came over to play you'd be all over me." LMAO. i didnt think till later to be like 'do u come here often' b/c he was walking by and its not like i think he'd have a whole lot of time to come up with that, he was smooth. he's like 'have a nice night ladies'

 

some other icky bearded dude came over and asked if we had a pen or pencil. we did lol but we said no. anyway shonna is like 'i wonder if that's his way of hitting on us.' but he did find a pen and he didnt ask for our num (phew) so....i guess not!

 

so we left and i came home and went to bed and here i am on LS again and about to leave for work! TGIF!!!

 

Going to look at apts tomorrow, wish me luck that they're decent!!!!

[phyrespryte]

Thanks for putting it into perspective justagirl.

I am feeling a bit needy and crazy. I really need to chill. I actually went and had coffee today with match.com guy. So I feel a bit more relaxed. Well a bit hyper from the coffee. But definitely relaxed about the situation.

 

Sort of a practice meeting...

Well if he doesn't respond that's his fault. And maybe I'll write back after the weekend and try again. No need to get all spastic.

 

You guys met some shady people at that club! That whole pen or pencil line is too funny. I think that probably was his line. I think I'll have to try that one on someone. er um...maybe not. Didn't really work for him did it?

 

And that's so cute that they kissed your hands. Kind of dorky, but cute. Oh and I love tall guys. I don't know what it is, but it just makes me all shy.

 

Anyways, good luck with the apartment hunting! Oooh and watch out for mold and windows on doors! That stuff sucks. And don't forget to flush the toilet! Because you never know what is busted.

[sunshine2627]

Hi Girls! Hope everyone had a good weekend. Sorry, it's been awhile since I last posted. I've been keeping myself busy with work and volleyball. Things with me are going well. Two weeks ago I got my braces put on. It wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. Thursday is the big day where I get some of my teeth pulled. I am only getting the 4 that my orthodontist recommended and put off pulling the rest of my wisdom teeth, like my regular dentist suggested. I think she just wanted more money.

 

Friday night I had a date. Things went really well and the best part of it all, I wasn't really all that nervous. We went out to dinner, played indoor putt-putt and came back to my apartment and watched a movie. He's a really nice guy. We work for the same company but we don't ever see each other. I'm at headquarters and he's on the other side of town. I met him after my volleyball one night and started asking questions about him. It took him about a week to make a move but only because he thought I was someone else and there was a miscommunication down the line somewhere. So we'll see what happens next.

 

I finally created a myspace account. Just go to myspace.com/elskede and add me as a friend. : )

 

Well I need to get going. I have to work this afternoon. Talk to ya soon.

[justagirl1121]

man i nailed it, she DID meet someone!!

 

Hope it works out for ya!

 

Phry is hopefully having lunch with her Foreign dude...and I've been drolling over MacGyver dvds allday!

 

I went apt hunting yesterday with my BFF. God, that was terrible!!! THe first place was OK. It was nice enough. Rent was a bit high though....Second place was aweful! THe woman was way too pushy; going on and on how great this place was and howeveryone loved it here, and how it was a great management company, blah blah blah. but it looked like it was from the 70s still!!! Oh one of the best parts were when she showed us the closet for the W/D hookups and she went to close the bifold door and the top part came off the hinge and it took her a min to put it back on and she was like 'that happens but it clicks right back in' or how at the end she told us it was fed law or whatever for any place to tell people if there is ledbased paint in a building. that was passed in like 78 but the buildings were built in like 73. she said they didnt KNOW if there was, but tehre could be, but tehre's like 30 layers of paint on the walls so you'd literally have to dig down 30 lays and eat the paint to be affected. Another thing she said when she was showing us the "cozy balcony" (cozy=small) that we weren't allowed to have grills. If we asked, the fire marshalls would say no. however....they never inspect, so as long as we're careful, this lady (who only works 15 hrs aweek and refuses to go full time cause its too crazy here) says she doesnt care if we have a grill.

 

So that one is a total no. zip. not living there! plus it was waaaaay too pricy and we would also have to pay for the elec and gas.

 

yeah it aws a trip and a half. so we're banking all our eggs in one basket that the place we go see before i go to work tomorrow will work. its a townhouse and its a good price and includes all but elec and it is an all elec TH...its 2bed 1.5 bath 1 car garage/basement. and its less than the ****ty place we visited! my BFF's mom said she saw the place before nad it was nice, so....wish me luck!!!!

 

have a good night! behave yourselves! ;p

[phyrespryte]

Congrats on the date sunshine! I hope this guy is a keeper.

 

Justagirl that lead thing.... That woman was nuts. I especially liked how she was trying to fix the door and said that it just clicks back into place.

 

That's crazy. Well I hope the next place you see is lead free. Apartment shopping is such a pain.

 

So foreign guy... grrr.

He did not respond back to me until Sunday....8:00pm!!!! This is his lovely response:

 

Yo... Sorry not for getting back to you.. Had en EXTRA class today and the

sh*t needed some preparation.

 

I am down to rescheduled our coffee thing so let me know if you are up for

it and if so when.

 

 

Yo? Sh*t? Ugh...

Anyways I'm not as pissed as I was last night b/c he showed up to class tonight, which he NEVER does. And I have a feeling that he did b/c of me. I wasn't able to talk to him though b/c of course tonight I was working with a partner. But he did smile and say hi.

 

So I think I will email him back tomorrow. I think. I'm still pissed that it took him so freaking long to respond.

[phyrespryte]

So today... I was walking into school. I passed by Shaggy and Shaggy's girlfriend. They were all cuddly so I know for sure she's dating him. Anyways I saw them and thought hmm...where's foreign guy? And further along I saw him sitting on some steps in the sunlight all by himself. Poor thing he's all left out.

 

I was going to stop and say hi, but I chickened out and decided to sneak past him through the school doors. His back was turned so he wouldn't have seen me. But then all of a sudden Shaggy starts calling the foreign guy's name and so does Shaggy's girlfriend.

 

So I panicked and ran into the school. I seriously think his friends know what's up. That's the 2nd time something like that has happened. And why didn't he follow after me? I mean come on!!!! Why is he so freaking oblivious. And why can't he seem to freaking write an email back on freaking time.

 

Oh well. I guess I'm going to have to ask him again if I want something to happen. What a pain in the arse.

[phyrespryte]

So foreign guy blew me off again. This time instead of writing back the day of, he texted me last night at around 9:45 asking if I wanted to go out with him and his roommates. No explanation for not responding on time. No reason as to why he didn't respond to the TWO emails I had sent him, which he obviously got b/c he had my number...

 

Anyways, I was out celebrating a friend's birthday, but they knew what had been going on and they said it was ok if I left. And I probably would've gone, but I was still mad at him. It doesn't really matter because I95 in his direction was closed for the night so I couldn't have gone.

 

I think I need to talk to him in person. Or maybe I should call him. I don't know. All I know is that I want to confront him. Ask him what is his problem. I'm so sick of stressing.

[justagirl1121]

well men suck. they really do. they're all just a big bunch of stupid. i dont think they have emotions. i think that's OUR problem as girls. we can't do something with a guy and then go on with life without feeling quilt, attraction, or whatever. guys, they can do anything they want and not care at all. they can like a girl and not call her. foreign guy sounds exactly like the rest of them. that is no surprise.

 

i was talking to shonna for an hour tonite about how guys suck. she went out yet again with a guy and it seemed to go ok and they were all like 'you're very attractive, funny, etc....i'll call you tonite to see how your day went" and then boom, three days later she has nothing. so another one bites the dust.

 

well this lady bonnie i used to work with came back from her leave. it's really weird what's going on here.

 

she and scott used to talk some and she'd called scott a few times, because bonnie's father's really ill. but he never called her back (all the well he was still talking to me tho). anyway, this girl jen and scott used to date and they're like best friends now. bonnie was really close with jen and they talked all the time, but when jen moved back to harrisburg like 5-6 mo ago bonnie never heard from jen nad jen never called bonnie back. well now no one's heard from scott. and im kinda like it makes me feel just SLIGHTLY better that it's not JUST me...but it's probably that he knows the three of us and he knows we all talk, so he can't like not talk to me and talk to bonnie. he has to not talk to any of us. make sense?

 

but we're not sure what the hell his deal is.

 

apparently, he's back and forth between mechanicsburg pa (near harrisburg) and around where i live. (im not going to explain how i know this...but we have a certain source of info....) so i dont know if he's moved out there and is moving his stuff or what. cause its like at 9 pm he'll be in mech. then at 8am he'll be back in pittsburgh, then at like 5pm he's back in mechanicsburg.......its really bizarre. but both scott and jen are like MIA.

 

he doesnt really txt msg much and he doesnt really talk much on the phone as we see it. like he has calls but we get more calls than he does plus they're like 2 min long and stuff.

 

its just like so disappointing how many aholes there are out there and how to possibly meet a nice guy b/c i thought i really had made a good call and apparently i was wrong.

 

i dont think it's him specifically so much anymore as it was all that good expectation that had been coming and i LIKED him. those butterflies were there u know. so it was exciting and nice. i guess i was crazy and needy and scared him away. i guess i just want that feeling with someone and dont know where to find it.

 

i see 2 types of men. those who wont leave you alone (but you wish they would) and those who dont think u exist (but you wish they did)

 

I think i mentioned this brian dude i met when i was out in august with shonna. he's not real tall and that turns me off. im like 5'6-5'7 and he was probably like that same height. he was kinda dorky and just not my type. but we were dancing and he got my num and we txted a little and i went out once to see 40 yr old virgin with him etc. he never called or anything tho, would jsut txt me at like 11pm on a weeknight inviting me out etc. say "hi beautiful" "night sweetie" "hope you can meet me out" i started to try to just ignore him and it seemed to work but he started up again. he sent me a 'happy v day' txt but i didnt respnond back. last night i get a series of txts

 

B: r u out tonite?'

Me: im out with for my friends bday

B: we are at dave and busters if you want to come to my house in mt washington if u r bored

Me: i am heading to the south side now

B: I meant later haha

Me: sorry, i have to take my friends home after

B: okay maybe some other time then

 

okay now, we went to the Improv to see Pauly Shore. then we were goin to go to dave and busters, but no one wnated to b/c of the cover charge, which is why we went to s. side. ok now i am sooooooooooo glad we didnt go to D&B!! only shonna knows about brian so that would have been realllllly awkward!!!!!

 

anyway, i said he never called right? Well perfect timing. i was in my car leaving south side when the phone rang i was like ohhh shhhh..crap...for some reason at the time it just seemed like it would be better if i answered it and didnt ignore it. i dont know why, but it seemed like ignoring it just would be bad. so i answered and talked to him like 4 min. nothing really. just what i was doing and stuff. he didnt invite me over or anything. i said i was driving my friends home (lie). he said he was just calling to say hi (probably drunk dialed). so yeah.....

 

i dont GET IT. i mean its been like 6 mo. he's seen me 2x. and the first time was in a dark dance club with drunk people. and people look much better when your'e drunk u know. so what could he possibly be so interested in???

 

so then there's timmy who is the sweetest kid ever..but i am not in any way interested in him that way. but he's still just such a sweet heart. he gave nikki her christmas present way back but this is the first ive seen the boys since nov. he gave me a big ole stuffed teddy bear i was like (jaw drop) and a picture frame thingy. how cute is that?

 

GOD.

 

i feel so stuck. like part of me moves on. part of me keeps bouncing back. esp when i see my friend with her bf and i think of how much i really liked and felt comfortable with douchebag. i hate that i didnt see it backfiring quite like this. and i dont like not knowing what the whole deal with them all is.

 

and i dont understand why i cant find anyone. i think i must be really boring and ugly and whatever...but then why would like timmy get me that stuff or message me all the time as does jon and dave. and these girls at work now they invited me to meet them out for lunch the other day and this girl amanda (we all sit there in training and email each other, haha) is like 'you're really funny. you sit there all serious but you have a real fun sense of humor" etc. so im like ok they think im pretty cool!!!! what do i only attract women or something!! COME ON!!!! UGH!!

 

why's life so sucky?

[justagirl1121]

hey where is everyone at? meeting men?

 

nothing new for me on this end...not in that department....

 

i was soooooooooooooooooo sick with some stomach virus on wed that i had to call off work, and then i got a verbal warning for it and i dont get paid for it because i'm still in training So the next paycheck is gonna suck grrrrr!!!!!

 

today is friday tho thank god. i still dont feel real great. i was doing okay until i had some toast. i dont think that was a good idea, tho its pretty much the first time i've eaten anything other than a couple pretzel's since wednesday. that word looks like its spelled completely wrong to me....anyway....i got my new v cast music phone it so awesome! now that i have unlimited txt messaging, i txt on my mobile instant messanger. im up to like 2000 txts a mo lol...that's very bad!!

 

ugh...well i should probably get ready for work as i have just a little over an hour before i have to leave.

[phyrespryte]

Hey justagirl! Sucks about the stomach virus. Hope you feel better. Seems like this week is just full of weird things happening. I had an emergency visit to the dentist on Wednesday and had a wisdom tooth pulled. Well cracked and removed b/c the tooth was so busted that if they pulled it, it would've shattered.

I swear I'm not making this up. It was so gross.

 

Why did they send you a warning at work? I mean it's not like you could help it. Geez. They're pretty strict over there. Well hopefully you can pick up some extra hours? I just got my paycheck and it was the saddest thing I've ever seen. But then I've only worked like 8 hours the past two weeks.

 

So with Scott....him and his lady friend seemed to have disappeared? That's really weird. I wonder what's up with that? I don't think that you scared him away. I think he just decided to I guess move. And "disappearing" is his wimpy way of avoiding having to deal with things. Like he seems like a very non-confrontational person and probably didn't want to hurt you or make you angry? Which I still think is dumb.

 

Because at least if he was straight with you...well guys could still be friends. Shoot. If things ever changed in the future you guys could even try the relationship thing. But no. Guys are dumb. It's just like Mr. Excrush. I can't talk to him anymore. I've lost all respect for him. And since Spring Break is coming up I'm a little worried that I might have to work with him more often. Cause I'll probably snap at him.

 

Oh well.

 

So what's wrong with Timmy? He sounds very sweet. I can't believe he got you a teddy bear. That's so cute! A bit much, but maybe he's really into you?

 

Sooooooo.....

 

I think lately I might've been a little crazy b/c of PMS. Now that I look at the foreign guy situation...

 

I'm not too pleased with it, but I still think that it's still worth a shot. I mean he did ask me out Saturday night and he could've just been a jerk and ignored me. Plus my friend...she had to work with Shaggy on a project and she said Shaggy was the exact same way with emails. He'd either not email her, or email her a couple of hours before they were meeting, or he'd send her an email at like 1am. (shaggy and foreign are from the same country) So I think that it might be a cultural thing?

 

And...this is so dorky. But I saw him Tuesday. I was in class and he was passing by the door. We made eye contact and this is what happened:

 

It was too funny, he smiled first and I smiled back. Then he smiled bigger then I smiled bigger. It was so dorky that it was cute. Also he like kind of stumbled...well not really. Like you could see that he was trying to stop walking, but wasn't sure if he should. And I of course like a big dork decided to wave.

 

So I'm still hopeful about things. I'll probably try to ask him out after next week. It's final week so things are a bit crazy and I don't have any time right now.

 

But yeah there has to be hope.

[phyrespryte]

Oh...and I was doing some research on "foreign" men. Trying to see what the deal is with the rude email behavior. And I found this site that said that "foreign" men don't usually initiate stuff.

see here

 

Interesting stuff. I loved the one comparing "foreign" men to John Wayne. This sort of explains his weird behavior. Things almost start to make sense.

 

But I'm still bothered by the email thing and think I should say something about it. But I'll just wait to see what happens.

[justagirl1121]

hey,

 

i read a couple of those articles. Quite entertaining. Too bad I don't know any nice foreign dudes who I could say "this is why they won't talk to me"

 

So, he asked you out for saturday then? AND??????????

 

So, at work there's 2 guys named bobby. one is a trainer and the other is in my new hire class. the trainer is pretty hot. he's a little too short though...but im not real into him other than that he's nice to look at the other bobby tho i've kinda taken a little bit of a liking to....he's kinda funny....but i dont know if its just im trying to take my mind off other things....but i dont want to get interested in someone who im going to be working side by side with you know....or maybe i shouldnt let that bother me..i dont know...people here are very gossipy and in your business u know...and im pretty private in that department with people i know. anyway, i guess i dont really want to get involved in anything until i move out (which isnt working out too well) but at the same time....i was feeling kind of depressed yesterday. my friend was all talking about how her dude from baltimore got her a vermont teddy for v day and all this stuff and its like grrrr. she like still thinks scott will work out and that bothers me because its like ummm y r u doing that to me?

 

anyway im feeling kind of depressed not having like any guys to talk to that i like "want" to talk to. my other guy friends are just that....guy friends...i like them well enough but some of them not to be mean are just kinda eh....and it seems like a lot of time and energy to try to build another relationship you know...

 

well tell me how things are goig with foreign dude and if he's gotten any brain cells to figure out what's goin on! btw how old is he?

[phyrespryte]

Well foreign guy is 23 and he asked me out last Saturday night. I would've said yes except it felt all wrong.

- he didn't apologize for never responding

- he asked me at around 9:45pm (I was already out)

- and it was to go out with his roommates (all guys that I don't know)

- I live an hour away and I95 was closed for construction that night and I had no clue how to get back home using backroads.

 

So I guess I'll have to see what happens. It's so confusing. A couple of my friends are like just move on, he's a waste of time. But my gut tells me that he's not a normal guy. You know? That I need to be a little more forward with him and put more effort because maybe he is shy when it comes to the opposite sex.

 

When I think about it...I was the first one to talk to him. He never said anything to me until after I said hi. After that he just kind of went with it and would talk about everything. And when he invited me to that party he was pretty awkward about it. So I guess I'll have to take more initiative. Maybe I'll text him this weekend just to say hi. I'm definitely not ready to call him yet.

 

And I totally forgot this, when I first met him, he used to stutter a lot. The last couple of times I got to talk to him he didn't stutter at all.

 

Anyways, enough of him. Need to focus this week. It's final week and I want to kick ass.

 

 

I'm sorry that you were feeling down justagirl. I don't blame you for not wanting to talk to the guy at work. Gossip is bad and it never seems to die. And if you work real close to him chances are people will probably be saying things even though you haven't done anything.

 

Sorry that there aren't any guys that you want to talk to right now. Maybe it's just a phase? Like maybe right now you're not really over Scott yet so you're not ready to seriously be interested in other guys? Like I think if everything bombs with foreign guy there really isn't anyone I want to look at. After this I'm just focusing on school and getting out of this city.

 

I can't explain it. It's like not taking a promotion at work b/c you know that you don't want to be working there for much longer. Like right now you've got more big things you want to get sorted out?

 

Anyways, did you ever find an apartment? I hope that's working out. And I'm sure that you'll eventually meet a guy. You always have guys drooling all over you when you're not expecting it.

[justagirl1121]

boys are stupid. i guess you just have to take it as it comes. i guess someone does have to take the initiative. i guess it's not over yet. he did ask you out. i would say that's a good thing, but givin guys and how they're different, i don't know for sure.

 

that brian guy i said who txted me 2 weekends ago....he txted me 2 x this week, earlier and then again tonite, same msg, asking if i was going to the parade on saturday. i didn't respond back. he's starting to kinda get on my nerves. only weird dudes are interested in me. i dont want to be picky but they are just NOT who i can find myself attracted to at all. but then ithink, someone i DO like prob thinks the same about me....

 

the one guy at work i said i kinda like...i'm not sure where it came from...i think he's funny. and cute. 2 girls brooke and nicole who i guess i'm friends with (i guess we're like the 3 stooges now) called him "The Face" b/c he has a lot of facial expressions. i think they're cute. i was like oh that fits since he's a big A Team fan haha. he doesn't know he has this nick name i guess....the 4 of us usually hang out on our break or eat together. its not like he takes an interest in me but he does listen when im talkin....i guess i just dont know how to take it any further. not like to date but to i guess try to become better friends...like the kind of friends where he'll come to talk to ME without me having to go to him.....

 

tomorrow's last day of training, then i start a new schedules t-sat 10-7...i guess that'll be a bit better. tomorrow's food day

 

apt thing is not going real great. i have another place i found in the rental book, im trying to find online right now but it keeps giving me a 'cannot display page' thing on like every link in the search engine.

 

i need something slightly closer to work. 30 mi each way is just too far. my friend has like an hr to work (drive to park and ride and 40 min on the T). so when im like thats 30 mi for me, she's like 'well i have to be on the t for 40 min' like 30 mi each way should not be a big deal, but i think it is! that's far to drive to work if u dont have to! i dont see why we cant move the same distance north of the city as she is south...

 

its almost like it should all be easy for her and not for me or else she wont go with it. im doing all the work anyway so im just gonna kinda keep lookin and make hte decisions. and when if ind a place *I* like i'll tell her and she can visit too.

[justagirl1121]

OK GIRLFRIEND!!!! SCOTT is a f--------- ass----. (yeah the news has really pissed me off. So, I was talking to Shonna. She and Varsie were in Vegas for the week. There is this girl sara that was in scott and i's temp class back in 2004. she got hired on to the job. i thought he liked her. i think they hung out a few times....then she came back up to the floor after training and it didnt look like they talked at all. and after he and i had been done working, i'd asked him a few times if he'd talked to anyone else nad he said just me and amy. i dont see any reason why he would lie about talking to sara u know? anyway, so as he and i became better friends i didnt really think about it. however, sara is with this guy josh who works in the same dept. he has a serious girlfriend, she has a 2 yr old kid. not a real catch on either part right? well varsie on tues gets a txt from sara that mom has the kid, she's goin out. and varsie asks who with and she goes 'scott a.....u know, the temp?"

 

i guess shonna was like totally in shock b/c it was the LAST thing she expected. b/c he wasnt talkn to me, her or bonnie or anything! i thought maybe he really did move! but apparently he is still here in town. anyway, sara txt varsie back wed night and said something like he told her his car broke down and he couldnt make it so they ended up not hanging out.

 

so i want to know waht the deal with that is. shonna is like that really makes me think of him even less now. UGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHH. it's like just when im like going thru a good i dont care about him spell this comes up and kinda upsets me b/c i just dont UNDERSTAND. if he was like i'm not interested. thent hat'd be one thing. but i dont know if he was interested in me. i want to see he was b/c he wouldnt spend a year talking to me and stuff right? if he just wanted to get some, u'd think he'd have come out with it sooner and would actually try to GET something from me other than a kiss. he has his own place, he had plenty of opportunities to invite me over u know? so i geuess that's where i am really confused.

 

ANYWAY. BIG FAT DOUCHE BAG.

 

oh! and that brian dude txted me AGAIN, just a duplicate of the prev message about the parade, and then last night i got a call at 1:40 am! i didn't answ tho. shonna says at this point i need to just be blunt and ask him not to contact me anymore. so i guess that's what i'll do if he contacts me again.

[phyrespryte]

WOW!!!!!!!!

 

What an a**h***! I'm sorry. Gosh that just really sucks. Like what the heck? Do you think they've been seeing each other for awhile? Ah whatever. It doesn't matter. He's a looooser, with a capital L.

 

Anyways as I see it, he'll probably blow this Sara girl off too. He's probably not looking for a relationship there either. I mean she's got a kid!! If he couldn't handle being with you...how in the world is he going to handle a family?

 

And yeah you need to tell that Brian guy to leave you alone. He doesn't seem to understand that no response means no. And calling at 1:40? Who does that? Well I mean it's ok with friends like if you're out and trying to meet up, but come on...

 

Creepy.

[phyrespryte]

Well I think enough has happened in foreign guy land for me to post. Plus final week is over and I only have two major projects to finish. And they're almost done anways.

 

Well last Thursday while I was waiting outside my class for my one on one with my teacher...I saw foreign guy. He was walking by and he was like about 10ft away from me. He stops says hi, talks about how he can't wait till this week is over. And that he can't wait for Tuesday and something about going out for beer. I think he would've came over and talked some more, but he was with some guy and the guy really wanted to get going.

 

So I guess that was his way of inviting me out? I don't know.

 

Well today I'm early to work and I'm in a funny mood so I text the foreign guy and ask him if he's got any plans for tonight. He says that he's real busy with school work that he needs to get done before tuesday and asks what I'm up to. So I say:

 

I'm at work right now,but if you want to take a break from your work later let of know.

 

Yes I wrote "of" instead of "me" and I put a lame smiley. I'm such a dork.

But he wrote back anyways! He said: Will do...

 

And for some bizarre reason I'm happy with that. I don't freaking know why. Perhaps tomorrow it'll piss me off cause I'm weird like that. I mean I assumed he wouldn't respond and he hasn't contacted me since. But I know he's busy so I guess that's why I'm not flipping out.

 

Oh well. I hope I wasn't being annoying. But if it were me and I was annoyed I wouldn't have responded. Or I would've responded something real nasty. Whatever.

 

And I do hope that he does contact me eventually. Like I hope that when he was talking about Tuesday night he wanted me to be a part of that too.

 

But whatever. If it doesn't happen I think I'll survive. Or at least I won't be all bummed/angry for too long.

[confusedgeek]

Sorry Justagirl, I guess my advice on Scott did not pan out.

At least, you got to find out what kind of person he is.

 

I've been trying to keep track of threads I post to.

It seems like a rough ride so far. I wish you luck in finding your special guy.

 

- ConfusedGeek