Author Sunnymae Posted July 4, 2016 Author Posted July 4, 2016 (edited) The guy I went out with from church has been calling. The problem is that I'm so depressed about my ex. Breaking up with me that I can't even think about being intimate with someone else. I know that he'll probably want to get intimate, but I'm just not mentally ready. I don't want to be rude, but I don't want to lead him on either. How do I tell him that I'm not ready to start anything new yet. That I thought I could, or that I should at least try, but I'm just not ready. What can I say to him. I feel like I can't just ignore him that would be rude. Any suggestions on how I should handle this situation would be appreciated. Well here's the latest up date after sending him the above text about not being ready. Since then, he contacted me and told me he was going through a breakup as well, and if I just wanted to get together and talk, that would be fine. So we agreed to walk on the beach. We drove up to the beach and watched the sunrise, then we laid on the sand, and the morning sky was full of amazing cloud formations. He pointed out a cloud that looked like an X-ray of a spinal cord. He's a chiropractor, so I guess that's why he noticed that and I saw a hummingbird, and some other things. Then we went in the water, and saw one lonesome Jelly fish. We kissed, and made out a bit. Then we went to a little cafe close by and talked, laughed and talked about everything. He talked about the time he lived in Spain and how wonderful the food and the culture is. We talked about how inhumanly farm animals are treated, we both eat mostly organic, his favorite hang out is Whole Foods and so is mine lol. We were both on the same page. He was very romantic, he kissed me sensually several times while talking. I told him about my situation. About my Recent breakup , and how after what happened I was not getting emotionally involved with anyone. We both agreed we did not like the R" word ( relationship) it was like the song "What's love got to do with it, what's love but a second hand emotion" it's an old song. He felt the same, He is just getting over a breakup as well. I said, I just want someone to cuddle with, kiss and be intimate with. We were both on the same page. Although, he did say one thing that the old me would of not been to happy about, but I appreciated the full disclosure, nonetheless. He said he wanted to see one other person, and I said that's fine as long as you use protection. I replied: as of now, I just want to see one person you but if that changes I'll let you know. He asked me to come over but since I had been up so early, we both agreed to just meet on Wednesday. Right now, as it stands, we are mutually attracted to each other. He's tall, funny, cute. He has piercing blue eyes, and he is so nice and attentive, he makes me feel special. He always sends me text though out the day. So as of right now he is what I need. I basically told him I am probably using you to get over my ex. And we literally shook hands. Strange I know. We have a mutual understanding. We're here for each other, or using each other. I don't know. Edited July 4, 2016 by Sunnymae
Recommended Posts