Author YourNotAlone Posted June 28, 2016 Author Posted June 28, 2016 Bummer- crickets? I was thinking more about putting her in a cage with 2 wild lions and running away type of act you have some mercy.
juniorrocha Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 The little I know about your ex, your best revenge is getting successful with your life. I bet she was thinking you're weak and is spending your entire days dying little by little inside your room while thinking of her. When my ex came back before leaving again, which took a month, I worked very hard on myself. The first thing she said when she saw me was: "you look great, I love your hair, and your body has a nicer shape now too". She looked exactly the same. I got new projects to work on, new interesting things in my life going, and she was still the same. I could see that she was impressed; she really thought I was going to rot in my room. lol 1
Densel Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 Densel- I've been in NC for 2 days now. But she's telling everybody she still loves me and other bread crumb information which is not necessarily persuading me into believing that load of crap but sometimes I think to myself what we could've been if she wasn't a player and took my love seriously She also started crying on the phone because she's always carrying the purse I bought for her on Valentine's Day telling me she wants to see me and she wants to apologise to my face, I told her there is no need for that she responds saying " oh relax its not like we're going to have sex I'll bring my boyfriend if you want" like she's trying so hard to piss me off. I want to get revenge but then I wouldn't be any different from her She is not taking you seriously. The crying, apologising and then comes the "i'll bring my boyfriend if you want" You know why she is not taking you seriously? Because u are not showing that you meant business when you refused to go NC on her. She knows you are weak and cant do NC. She will always take advantage of your weakness and then you will go crazy analysing her words/actions. 1
54JA Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 How do you know what she is telling everyone about you? Please do not accept any new information about her from anyone. It's part of NC. If anyone tries to tell you what she's been up to/what she's said about you, you can politely tell them you are not interested because you are trying to move on. If you are worried that this will make you look "weak" or whatever, then tell them that you are not interested any news about her because her behavior disgusts you. As others have pointed out, she sounds extremely immature and self-centered. That she brings up her "boyfriend" every chance she gets is cruel and disgusting. It's not funny at all.
Author YourNotAlone Posted June 28, 2016 Author Posted June 28, 2016 45JA- my friends of friends are friends with her, so I basically have little birds feeding me news I know it sucks that I can't respond when I want to, but it's for the best she called me before asking how I'm doing? I said fine thanks then she told me she's on a date with her new boyfriend and will call me whenever why does she think she owns me? And treats me like **** because I'm simply a kind & a caring individual I try to be as mean as possible but I can't it just doesn't run in genetics, I feel like **** and feel dead in the inside I haven't been sleeping properly and hardly eat anything. It hurts because she's found someone else, I wouldn't be as hurt if she was still single she cheated on me and I feel some decency towards her I don't exactly know why it's just how I feel. 1
stillafool Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 (edited) 45JA- my friends of friends are friends with her, so I basically have little birds feeding me news I know it sucks that I can't respond when I want to, but it's for the best she called me before asking how I'm doing? I said fine thanks then she told me she's on a date with her new boyfriend and will call me whenever why does she think she owns me? And treats me like **** because I'm simply a kind & a caring individual I try to be as mean as possible but I can't it just doesn't run in genetics, I feel like **** and feel dead in the inside I haven't been sleeping properly and hardly eat anything. It hurts because she's found someone else, I wouldn't be as hurt if she was still single she cheated on me and I feel some decency towards her I don't exactly know why it's just how I feel. She thinks she owns you because you don't show respect for yourself. Why did you contact her when everyone here told you not to? She has absolutely NO RESPECT WHATSOVER FOR YOU!!!!! Women cannot love men they don't respect. Show her that you are a strong man by blocking her and not looking back. She is not going to leave him and come back to you. Do yourself a favor and tell your friends to stop reporting to you about her. It doesn't help you move forward. Edited June 28, 2016 by stillafool
Author YourNotAlone Posted June 28, 2016 Author Posted June 28, 2016 Stillafool- I've already moved on I was in NC for 6 weeks which has changed the way I feel about her probably out of %5/100 I still care about her but I know I wouldn't go back to her even if she comes crawling back I just want to hurt her and leave so she can feel the pain she caused me
PegNosePete Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 my friends of friends are friends with her, so I basically have little birds feeding me news Your friends of friends, are friends with her? That's what, 3 degrees of separation? Seriously I am more closely connected to Kevin Bacon. Tell these "little birds" that you don't give a good gorram about her and you don't want to hear another thing about her. That is what NC means. For someone who is allegedly in NC, you seem to be having a lot of contact - both indirect and direct! I think you need to re-read the NC guide and how to do it properly. 1
privategal Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 You will continue to feel dead on the inside until you get your self together and realize we are trying to help you. You are basing your whole self esteem on one girl as if you are trash without her. A good nice girl has class and respects you enough after betraying you to not rub it in your face, continue to contact you and not let you heal. Your summer could be awesome cause you could be swimming, road trips, concerts, running or gym, having new adventures, but instead your stuck and looking weak. What would she even come back to? The same old you. Your same old life. IF she was keeping tabs on you wouldnt you want her someday to say wow! Look what I missed out on, hes doing great and having a great life and happy. Dont get me wrong you gotta do those things for yourself with NO CARE for her. None. Its the way to move on. Listen...it didnt work out. Shes a lying cheating manipulating JERK. YOU didnt lose her...SHE LOST YOU. Now dont go back, look back, block her, ghost her from now on and start enjoying your life again. You made your self look weak. Wont it be awesome when little miss ego is writing/calling and says omg...hes ignoring me? He wont speak to me? I cant believe he isnt texting or calling...hes over me? Dude...you NEED to be over her, shes a slime ball. 1
Sunnymae Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 The thing about No Contact is that it hurts so bad!!!that you get an overwhelming feeling to reach out. But the thing about when you contact, you'll either feel so much worse especially in the beginning or if she happens to say something that makes you think that maybe she'll come back is that after a couple of days/ weeks you'll realize she's not serious and you'll still be hurting!! Let the scab heal, sort of speak. You need to forget about this person, her character is flawed. You should concern yourself with your education, new beginnings, etc please don't take her back. Do strict NC concentrate on your new endeavors, and after around 5 months you'll look back and think wow! I'm glad she's out of my life.
Author YourNotAlone Posted June 28, 2016 Author Posted June 28, 2016 Alright, I've blocked her off everything I realised she was trying to hurt me by rubbing her new relationship in my face my longest NC was 6 weeks it was so bloody hard I was dying everyday now I realised everything is over for good she has a new dude she's moved on its my shot now.
BC1980 Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 Stillafool- I've already moved on I was in NC for 6 weeks which has changed the way I feel about her probably out of %5/100 I still care about her but I know I wouldn't go back to her even if she comes crawling back I just want to hurt her and leave so she can feel the pain she caused me If you feel that way, you haven't moved on. You are still emotional about her, and you are getting something from her. When you have moved on, you won't care how she feels or hurting her. 1
bummer Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 I realised she was trying to hurt me by rubbing her new relationship in my face However the meat of your relationship went, I sense she was always a bit mean towards you. For her to be getting pleasure from twisting her knife further and stabbing repeatedly shows a callous heart, lack of empathy, or worse a vindictive mean streak. Crickets, bro. Lions are expensive. 1
lolablue17 Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 I really don't get you... you say that you're loving caring guy, yet you want revenge, you say you've moved on, but every move you make proves otherwise. Do you want revenge? You have it under your nose. STOP TALKING TO HER. Tell her for the last time that you've lost interest, and ask her not to contact you any more. Or just ghost her. This is the best revenge. Never answer. It's simple as that. 1
Sunnymae Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 I really don't get you... you say that you're loving caring guy, yet you want revenge, you say you've moved on, but every move you make proves otherwise. Do you want revenge? You have it under your nose. STOP TALKING TO HER. Tell her for the last time that you've lost interest, and ask her not to contact you any more. Or just ghost her. This is the best revenge. Never answer. It's simple as that. TBH it's just not simple in the beginning, it's a struggle.
privategal Posted June 29, 2016 Posted June 29, 2016 Its gonna be hard for about 8 weeks. Maybe this time wont be as hard as you have practice. When it hurts the most is when your actually healing and growing the most. Id rather be in SO much pain then give a cheating disrespectful ex a second of my time. She wont show it but it will sting her when she sees your truly gone. It will burst her bubble to see she lost your attention. But.. You cant care or think of that. Congrats you are now free of her drama and your gonna be fine...give it time. Rearrange your room, make your personal space a place you like to be in. Go a few places and push yourself a little away from your comfort zone. Get a new job, get some new things in your life so you can look back and say I cant believe I did that. If you have a cousin, friend, grandma, Aunt...maybe you can confide in them that you struggle sometimes and might need to talk it out sometimes. You will be fine Give it time...make some changes and one more thing...its helpful to temporarily deactivate FB. You can open back up and its all the same later. Right now...check out of the electronic world...go live hon! 1
Author YourNotAlone Posted July 1, 2016 Author Posted July 1, 2016 I'm honestly lost she keeps calling me on private number telling me she had stuffed up and there is no guy out there like me how I helped her fight her depression/alcohol addiction if it wasn't for me she was a depressed woman, she said she kept looking at the presents I bought for her and she keeps crying she also offered to meet up with me again which I declined what is she trying to do. & she's still dating this other dude
Zahara Posted July 1, 2016 Posted July 1, 2016 (edited) I'm honestly lost she keeps calling me on private number telling me she had stuffed up and there is no guy out there like me how I helped her fight her depression/alcohol addiction if it wasn't for me she was a depressed woman, she said she kept looking at the presents I bought for her and she keeps crying she also offered to meet up with me again which I declined what is she trying to do. & she's still dating this other dude It's likely not working out with the other guy so she's hoping her puppet will take her back. She's using you as a fallback. Nothing confusing about this. She cheated. Not working out. Running back to you. You're just the safe and soft landing when things aren't going well. The monkey that won't let go of a branch until it's grabbed another. This is your ex. You really need to get yourself together. Stop communicating with her. Find your balls and keep moving forward. You're moving to the States in a week. Focus on packing. Reconnecting with old friends one last time. Block all this negativity from your life and focus forward. Not sure what else to keep telling you as it seems you keep wanting to stay engaged with a woman that treated you like garbage. Edited July 1, 2016 by Zahara 1
Author YourNotAlone Posted July 5, 2016 Author Posted July 5, 2016 My ex girlfriend cheated on me 2 months ago with this other dude, they just broke up a few days, the day they broke up she called me on private number I picked up she started crying and saying she stuffed up and told me they ended things, I didn't even talk just simply hung up. Now i literally have 49 missed Calls from No Caller ID 100% her, yesterday she came to my house knocking on my door uninvited I saw her through the camera and didn't bother opening she was out in the rain for about an hour crying I didn't care anyway. I really don't want to get a restraining order on her because I don't have time for that crap right now, and my flight is post poned for another 2 months I just want to relax my mind and not hear from her ever again. What should I do?
Lorenza Posted July 5, 2016 Posted July 5, 2016 Tell her you'll call the police next time she comes over. Otherwise don't reward her with any kind of contact, ignore ignore ignore. She has to get a grip.
Recommended Posts