paige_k Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 My ex and I were together for two and a half years. He ended up cheating on me and keeping it a secret then dumping me. then he strung me along for months saying we would get back together so he could get Sex from me. after admitting he had only been using me for Sex, he also admitted he had another girlfriend he had been cheating on with me. after this, he blocked me on social media and told me to get out of his life. the other day, his mom messaged me on Facebook asking how I was doing. I soon after realized he had unblocked me. I messaged him saying I had talked to his mom and thought it might be nice to catch up with him too. no response. what do I do? should I text him again? why did he unblock me if he had no intentions of communication?
kidm Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 WOW, where is your self-respect and dignity? He cheated on you, used you for sex, told you he had a girlfriend and you were actually the side piece there for awhile, blocked you, told you to get on with your life, etc. etc. YET here you are still trying to get him to talk to you. I am seriously baffled. How old are you? Maybe he unblocked you because he has moved on and didn't think he would ever hear from you again but alas, you're back trying to get a scumbag to talk to you. Please do not text him again. I hate to put it bluntly but it's pathetic. Sorry. Please try and move on. Yikes. You deserve better! 3
Author paige_k Posted June 23, 2016 Author Posted June 23, 2016 thanks for the advice. I don't know why I thought it would be a good idea to message him. his mom asked me to get lunch, what should I say to her?
Zahara Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 Good grief. The man treated you like pure garbage and you thought it would be nice to catch up? Instead of worrying about why he didn't respond and if you should text him again, best to work on your self-respect and your sense of self value. Forget about his mother. Block both and move on. Work on yourself. 1
PegNosePete Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 Goodness, why on earth would it be "nice to catch up" with someone who treated you like dirt? Have some self respect and BLOCK HIM!!! Tell his mom no, you'd rather not have lunch with someone whose son cheated on you and treated you like dirt. Or just say a flat no, it's up to you really. 1
Author paige_k Posted June 23, 2016 Author Posted June 23, 2016 Does it not look too dramatic if I block them? like I am angry or revengeful? also, did I make a fool of myself by reaching out to him or do you think he didn't really care?
Zahara Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 Does it not look too dramatic if I block them? like I am angry or revengeful? also, did I make a fool of myself by reaching out to him or do you think he didn't really care? You have a right to be angry. This guy treated you like garbage. And who cares what they think about you? You're worried about how an a**hole perceives your need to block him? That's how little you value yourself? Rather than be concerned about your need to protect yourself and move on from unhealthy and toxic people? Dramatic? Are you absolutely clueless as to what this guy did to you? It was worse than despicable. He's probably loving the attention. He's likely established in his head that you're someone that's easily manipulated and has little self-respect for herself. 2
ChocolateRain Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 Does it not look too dramatic if I block them? like I am angry or revengeful? also, did I make a fool of myself by reaching out to him or do you think he didn't really care? Sorry Paige ...can you carefully read your Opening Post again please ?
PegNosePete Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 Does it not look too dramatic if I block them? Why on earth do you care how it LOOKS to a cheating liar???
smudge21 Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 You're worth more than this. Value yourself higher and others will do the same. Do not chase after someone like this and do not worry about how they think of you. Care about yourself and spend time with people who appreciate your worth, rather than de-value it. Crikey it makes me sad and angry to think there's good people on here being treated like dirt by horrible people - why can't the good ones meet other good ones, and then all the bad people can treat each other like dirt to their black hearts content. 1
ChickiePops Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 Does it not look too dramatic if I block them? like I am angry or revengeful? also, did I make a fool of myself by reaching out to him or do you think he didn't really care? No, but it does look sad if you keep messaging him without a response. Seriously, block and block now.
BikerAccnt Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 Ignoring the fact that in this instance, and the way he treated you, you should block him and never contact him, I'll attempt to answer your first question. It doesn't matter why he unblocked you. Period. My ex-gf has unblocked me also. I only know because I notice her occasionally commenting on mutual friends posts. I have not looked at her profile, I won't look at her profile. I "think" but don't "know", that she unblocked me because she's no long as upset about our breakup as she was initially. We have moved on, after all she comes up as a match for me on the same dating site i am on :/ However, that is only speculation and, it really doesn't matter. I am not blocking her because she never did anything really -evil- like cheat on me. If I see the occasional comment by her, it won't kill me. You can't figure out why they did or didn't unblock you. And in the end, it doesn't matter. 1
Emilia Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 Does it not look too dramatic if I block them? like I am angry or revengeful? also, did I make a fool of myself by reaching out to him or do you think he didn't really care? Why would it even cross your mind what it looks like? Who cares?
stillafool Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 My ex and I were together for two and a half years. He ended up cheating on me and keeping it a secret then dumping me. then he strung me along for months saying we would get back together so he could get Sex from me. after admitting he had only been using me for Sex, he also admitted he had another girlfriend he had been cheating on with me. after this, he blocked me on social media and told me to get out of his life. the other day, his mom messaged me on Facebook asking how I was doing. I soon after realized he had unblocked me. I messaged him saying I had talked to his mom and thought it might be nice to catch up with him too. no response. what do I do? should I text him again? why did he unblock me if he had no intentions of communication? Stop chasing after him! He has told you he doesn't want you except for sex. Why would you still want him when he thinks so little of you? You should have been the one to block him and never look back. You shouldn't be privy to what he is doing with his sorry life.
stillafool Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 thanks for the advice. I don't know why I thought it would be a good idea to message him. his mom asked me to get lunch, what should I say to her? Tell her you have nothing against her but you are trying to move on with your life and having lunch with her would unfortunately set you back. Do not go.
Author paige_k Posted June 27, 2016 Author Posted June 27, 2016 He blocked me in January and said to get out of his life because he was in love with someone else. A few days ago I realized he had unblocked me. What does this mean?
Author paige_k Posted June 27, 2016 Author Posted June 27, 2016 What are some reasons an ex might unblock you three months after telling you "get out of my life. Im in love with someone else. im blocking you"?
PegNosePete Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 It means you are paying too much attention to his actions. Block him, then you don't have to obsess about his every move. 3
Zahara Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 (edited) This guy cheated on you. Openly admitted he was only using you for sex. Dumped you like garbage. You even texted him after that wanting to catch up?! You're focusing on why he unblocked you? Monitoring his steps? Best you work on your self-esteem. PS: He probably unblocked you to see if he can use you again. Maybe things aren't working out with the new girl. And since you're so readily available for him, it's an easy opportunity. Edited June 27, 2016 by Zahara 3
stillafool Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 He may have unblocked to see if you are going to chase after him again. Don't do it and stop spying on him to try to see anything.
bummer Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 New phone, updated the app, got bored, wondered if you were still squirming at the end of the hook.... Doesn't matter. How do you know anyways? Block him. I don't know your story but i imagine it ended poorly. Grieve and try NC from your angle.
Blanco Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 He probably wants to see how many threads he can get you to start on here about him unblocking you. 1
preraph Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 Sounds like his mom probably shamed him for treating you bad or maybe got on your FB by asking him how to on his and he ended up having to unblock to tell her. I don't know why she's hanging on, but he is a jerk and you need to block him. He is not a nice person. What on earth made you want to be nice and not hurt his feelings after he was so awful to you. You need to reach a place you don't care what he thinks. You need to tell his mom he was horrible to you and you don't like to be reminded.
Densel Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 Please run away from him! You are not a toy, do not allow yourself to be treated like one. Tell his mum, thanks but no thanks.
Lorenza Posted June 28, 2016 Posted June 28, 2016 Oh god... Really hope that all these answers reached you, OP. Makes me furious thinking about the satisfaction that scumbag got when he saw you messaged him after all he's done to you. Such an ego boost you gave him.
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