lman22 Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 The breakup was hard and she said some pretty messed up things to me. I went no contact after a couple of weeks. I think she was surprised in my ability to maintain no contact whatsoever. Fast forward a couple months, I then received this message late the other night: "Hello, I hope you are well. I have had a lot of time to think lately and I finally feel the need to clear my conscience of any underlying guilt. The biggest regret I have in life is the way you and I parted. It's affected me in the worst ways imaginable. I want to apologise once and for all for everything that was said and done during the breakup. You did not deserve to be treated like that and I mean it when I say I am truly sorry. I am not asking for forgiveness, only to get everything off my chest so I can try and close this chapter of my life. I want to thank you for giving me the best years of my life. You were patient and so lovely to me, it's a shame I threw it all away for nothing. I wish you all the best for the future and only hope one day we can at least be friends. Take care x" I've done well to move on and kinda wish she hadn't sent that as it has opened more memories. Is this an attempt to come back to me, or literally just a guilt clearing message for her own benefit? Recently found out she has split with her rebound BF after me, so maybe that explains it. 1
Alamo657 Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 She wrote it as a catharsis for her own guilt, after this guy probably dumped her and realizing what it does to be discarded as a human being.
RoseHeart Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 It's a guilt clearing message. If this was sent after her little rebound it makes even more sense why she wants attention now. If she wants you back then she can make a decent effort by calling you or saying so. The fact that she is vague about it; tells me she's not looking to actually get back together but leaving it open ended on purpose so that you can give her attention when she should be the one trying to win you over. Don't fall for her antics.
Darkeyy Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 The breakup was hard and she said some pretty messed up things to me. I went no contact after a couple of weeks. I think she was surprised in my ability to maintain no contact whatsoever. Fast forward a couple months, I then received this message late the other night: "Hello, I hope you are well. I have had a lot of time to think lately and I finally feel the need to clear my conscience of any underlying guilt. The biggest regret I have in life is the way you and I parted. It's affected me in the worst ways imaginable. I want to apologise once and for all for everything that was said and done during the breakup. You did not deserve to be treated like that and I mean it when I say I am truly sorry. I am not asking for forgiveness, only to get everything off my chest so I can try and close this chapter of my life. I want to thank you for giving me the best years of my life. You were patient and so lovely to me, it's a shame I threw it all away for nothing. I wish you all the best for the future and only hope one day we can at least be friends. Take care x" I've done well to move on and kinda wish she hadn't sent that as it has opened more memories. Is this an attempt to come back to me, or literally just a guilt clearing message for her own benefit? Recently found out she has split with her rebound BF after me, so maybe that explains it. Got a similar text a few days ago. Not so direct on why she texted me. But same guilt/i'm sorry/blabla stuff. I think you need to believe what she's writing. There's still guilt and she wants it out of her system. She clearly said this in the text. The downside for you however.. is that she's opening old wounds and dragging you down again. She said she's trying to close this chapter of her life, believe her. Be happy you know the reason she texted you. Random breadcrumbs are the worst. Stay NC and continue your journey of healing. Try not to think about it too much (believe me, the sooner you let go of those thoughts the better) You can send her a polite Thank you if you want to be civil but remember: you don't owe her anything. Stay strong, delete and forget!
PegNosePete Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 Is this an attempt to come back to me I see no reason to read anything extra into the note, or to not take it at face value. I would simply reply "thanks for the note. I wish you well for the future too". No kiss.
Zahara Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 I read your last thread. She seems immature and selfish. Which makes this "apology" sound insincere and just for her benefit. I have a feeling rebound didn't work out and she's looking for ways to get attention. Maybe this is the 5% chance of reconciliation she was talking about when she pouted about you deleting her from FB just to keep you on the hook while she was out there with the new man. Stay NC. Move on from her. 1
smudge21 Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 The text was addressed to you but it was all about her. Nothing in there asks about you or even requests information; it's all just statements about her and her feelings. No reason whatsoever to respond to that. You said yourself, you were doing well, so carry on doing well. If you respond, it will only set you back (take that from someone who has responded in the past). The fact remains that if an ex wants us back, then they do whatever they can to get us back. Don't reply and see if anything else comes through, but in the meantime, live your life.
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