Author Lovesfool92 Posted June 23, 2016 Author Posted June 23, 2016 In most cases when people are faced with a life tragedy they seek the presence and comfort of those they love, they don't run away from them. I also think your boyfriend is slowly fading away from you. I don't believe this is related to his parents divorce. You posted the same question on June 10th, we are now 23rd and nothing is changing. He is not the one making decision on your relationship, you make the decision. If you are not happy with what your relationship has become then you make the decision to end it. I ended our relationship on Monday night. I posted as I felt perhaps I had been hasty or even selfish for expecting more when he's obviously going through a difficult time. He asked for my patience and explained he wouldn't be himself for a while and wouldn't give me the time of day I deserved when we discarded it previously. He told me he may have depression himself. I said I would be patient and understanding and at times I see and hear the guy that I'm in love with but for the most part I didn't hence why I ended. But in hindsight I feel perhaps I was being selfish asking for attention that he had already warned me about it being needy (I know I'm not needy expecting just some form of contact once a day) but I blame myself for being selfish when I know he's having a tough time. He shuts his feelings down and blocks everything and everyone out when he's having a **** day. I usually have to work on pulling the walls down and it's always been a success eventually and he's thankful for having me but the walls kept getting higher and stronger got me to break I felt like I was just running into a wall every time and saddened to be at the other side of it but then maybe that's just me and that's how he deals with problems.
tinkerbell16 Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 Okay here's a life lesson for you Mr Perfect does not exist. If you are dating him then you aren't dating the real guy pretending to be Mr Perfect. Men are as easily addicted to love as women. They get off on courting a woman and then quickly lose interest. They are typically Mr Perfect, because Mr Perfect is a game they play to quickly get a woman interested in them, and they typically get bored of her too. Yes that happens. They either get bored or they are being someone else's Mr Perfect. Guys who are cray about you and falling in love with you don't then break up with you in the same sentence. Nor even the same year typically. Mr Perfect knows the love language of women, he knows what makes their eye's resemble that of a deer and in all honesty they probably don't really mean to hurt you either. But he has to get rid of you and this is his nice way of doing it. He wants you to now bugger off with fond memories and wistful nostalgia remembering him as Mr Perfect. Well why not have one last roll in the hay? Since you're offering but now he's pissed off because you're not getting the message and playing the game he wants you to play. Which is tearfully wave him off and never contact him again. So he has to become who he really is. Mr Douche. That's because before his actions matched what he was saying. But now he just doesn't care about playing that game with you. He'll keep telling you what you want to hear while treating you with disregard until you get it, that you need to give up on him and leave. The man you started dating is an act. You can hang around all you like but I'll bet money you will never see him again. I'll also bet money he's dating someone else by this stage. So sad yet so very true.
Grapesofwrath Posted June 24, 2016 Posted June 24, 2016 Are you 100% certain that he is not married/living with a woman (not his mother)? It sounds plausible that he could have enjoyed the chase and the way you made him feel, but he is already involved with someone so it has to end before he is caught. I agree with other posters that a situation like parental divorce is one where a person usually leans on their SO. He is running from you--stiff-arming you, if you will--and it doesn't add up that this is because his parents are divorcing. I know it hurts so much to have the rug pulled out from under you like that. I'm sorry you are hurting. But this is why we date...to get to know people. You are finding out who he is: At best, someone who will abandon you when he has issues in his life, and at worst possibly a cheater who deceived you from the start.
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