Author bananaman Posted June 27, 2016 Author Posted June 27, 2016 And you gave someone a note saying you would respect their decision and that you weren't owed anything, and then you had to come here to debate not respecting her decision as if you were owed something. Did you even read your note? I jumped the gun a little bit, my mistake. You can think I'm an idiot who hastily misread a sentence if that will make you feel better about all this. Congratulations. I don't why it would make a difference -- it's kind of ineffectual to ask for opinions on how something might go after you do it rather than just to ask for pragmatic advice before you do it, don't you think? Regardless, my first post still applies and hopefully might give you an idea of how not to do it again. And my following post is still valid. Sorry I jumped the gun. I took your response a little too personally and I was probably just lashing out at you because of my obvious failure in this whole thing. I'll learn from it (i.e. not do it ever again for obvious reasons) and try to work on being better socially. In retrospect, your advice has been helpful so thanks. 1
Liam1 Posted June 27, 2016 Posted June 27, 2016 (edited) Sorry I jumped the gun. I took your response a little too personally and I was probably just lashing out at you because of my obvious failure in this whole thing. I'll learn from it (i.e. not do it ever again for obvious reasons) and try to work on being better socially. In retrospect, your advice has been helpful so thanks. Banana Man: I disagree that going back will be an issue. If she is the type of person who feels annoyed in any way with the note, then she is not a very nice and you do not need to know her. Also, if you go their to order a meal and you just say "hi" without asking for a date and that makes her uncomfortable then she has no social skills and you are better off finding out and realizing she is not a very nice person. I have sisters, I guarantee you that, if she is person with a kind heart and worth knowing, she was flattered by your note. She may not want to date you, but she was flattered by your note. If people listen to the naysayers they rarely get anywhere in life because they miss all sort of opportunities that may have panned out except for the naysayers. Do not worry about feeling like a fool, if this lady is rude to you, she is the fool. If you just smile at her and are polite in order to gauge her response to her you will simply be giving her a chance to respond to you without seeming as if she is chasing you. If she is rude to you for any of your actions she is not a nice person and you will lose interest in her. Who needs to know someone who is so rude, insensitive and uppity. You never know, maybe she is shy. In the future, ask for a date in person, not by note. Also, do not leave a closed end note by saying if she does not respond she owes you nothing, yadda yadda. Edited June 27, 2016 by Liam1
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