Angeleyez2583 Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 Ok I'll try to make this quick. I've hung out with this guy for 5 days in the past week. Tuesday night we hung out at my apartment. He took me out on a date thursday night (dinner, 3 bars) and asked me to be his GF later that night. I said yes, but we were wasted. So of course we ended up having sex. Friday night we met up again and hung out (once again he stayed at my place and we ended up having sex). and even clarified he was serious about what he said the night before, and Saturday we went out on his boat. He was cuddly and crap (his friend was even there). He was not afraid to kiss me in front of his friend or anything, or any of his other friends for that matter. Note: he has spent over 300/400 dollars on me and my friends this past weekend and last weekend. I just feel like if he was using me, he would have left that one morning without a word and without even calling. He doesn't act strange with me around his friends at all. You know the whole how some guys won't even touch the girl around their friends. Well he does with me. He holds my hand around them and everything. The last time I talked to him was last night (I went out w/ some friends) and he told me he'd call me tomorrow (which is today). He hasn't called. I am going WAY out on a limb by thinking he's a good guy. I have the book he's just not that into you, and it says that if they don't call when they say they will, they're just not that into you. I don't trust guys... if he's playing games, please let me know. Is he busy, did he use me or what? I DON'T WANNA GET HURT AGAIN
Author Angeleyez2583 Posted June 27, 2005 Author Posted June 27, 2005 I guess my question to the guys is why don't guys call when they say they will
nicetomeetu Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 umm, well personally, I would give it a little more time. If he doesn't call by tomorrow with some explanation why he was too busy to call, then I may question his integrity. But it is possible he is just busy. The whole thing does sound kinda crummy to me though. I mean, I don't think its good to ever take a guy seriously when he is talking to you if he is drunk. (not that I haven't before) But this honestly doesn't sound like an ideal way to meet a great guy. Not to me, anyway. Have you only known him for this week?
nicetomeetu Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 OH warning: guys will spend large amounts of money if they can look cool and have a chance of sex with you after. Especially if they are drinking while spending it.
kanga Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 That book is evil -- He's Just Not That Into You. Don't buy into it. Why he hasn't called -- it could be any number of reasons. Just give it a little more time.
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by Angeleyez2583 The last time I talked to him was last night (I went out w/ some friends) and he told me he'd call me tomorrow (which is today). He hasn't called. I have the book he's just not that into you, and it says that if they don't call when they say they will, they're just not that into you. I don't trust guys... if he's playing games, please let me know. Errrr, you're jumping to conclusions way too soon. Give him more time. We guys have a different sense of timing to girls - from what you say I think he's way into you but just got a little delayed in calling. Alternatively, he may be reading books himself - about not being too keen at the beginning of a relationship
elijahBailey Posted June 27, 2005 Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by nicetomeetu OH warning: guys will spend large amounts of money if they can look cool and have a chance of sex with you after. Especially if they are drinking while spending it. yup, some guys do... but, hmm.... things seem to be happening too fast. I dunno, but I have a strange feeling about the whole thing. It's just my guess; but I do hope things will turn out well. good luck.
Author Angeleyez2583 Posted June 27, 2005 Author Posted June 27, 2005 Yeah, def. have a weird vibe there. I always think way too much into things sometimes, and this may be the case. I am just trying to take things one step at a time and don't want to fall too hard too fast. So you guys think that he'll call? If not, I'm pawning his watch he left at my place (lol).
DeaconFrost Posted June 28, 2005 Posted June 28, 2005 What if he was in a situation where he didn't want to get dragged into a phone conversation? You women always like to chat on hours end. Seriously, he could have been out where he didn't want to deny the people he was with his prescence or, knowing this, he didn't want to short you out on some quality phone time. Things come up. Stop being so defensive and give him some time to explain it to you. Besides, women don't call too. Stop using that damn book as your coach. Books like that are meant to make you aware of matters, not to be an end all be all for decision making. If he left his watch and he told you that he wants you to be his girlfriend then I'd say he actualy means it. It takes a lot of balls for a guy to muster up those kinds of words (drunk or not). Settle down and let things flow!
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 28, 2005 Posted June 28, 2005 Originally posted by DeaconFrost Things come up. Stop being so defensive and give him some time to explain it to you. Word Stop using that damn book as your coach. Books like that are meant to make you aware of matters, not to be an end all be all for decision making. Word again. If he left his watch and he told you that he wants you to be his girlfriend then I'd say he actualy means it. 3 for 3... Settle down and let things flow! Exactly.
ziggue Posted June 28, 2005 Posted June 28, 2005 If I were you I would wait around for a week for his call. If he doesn't call during that time then move on.
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 Originally posted by nicetomeetu So what evver happened???? Did he call??? Yes, we're positively agog with excitement
Author Angeleyez2583 Posted July 5, 2005 Author Posted July 5, 2005 Lol.. yes he called... I guess we are bf and gf now... and I love how we're taking things slowly.. it's a nice pace for a change.. thanks for all the advice guys! We went to a baseball game today and stuff, so cute :-)
DeaconFrost Posted July 5, 2005 Posted July 5, 2005 You see! Damn female hormones have a funny knack of screwing you up, huh? You have just officially learned a lesson. Go forth and speak the truth young apprentice
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 5, 2005 Posted July 5, 2005 Originally posted by DeaconFrost Damn female hormones have a funny knack of screwing you up, huh? And male hormones don't? Glad it worked out for you Angeleyez. Taking it slowly and easily is definitely the best way, so I'd respect him for this.
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 5, 2005 Posted July 5, 2005 Whoops. Duplicate posting. I blame the computer
DeaconFrost Posted July 5, 2005 Posted July 5, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo And male hormones don't? Touche...except ours make us do things like piss on stuff and kick random objects
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 5, 2005 Posted July 5, 2005 Originally posted by DeaconFrost Touche...except ours make us do things like piss on stuff and kick random objects
sunshinebabe Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Interesting enough I am going through the same situation at the moment (well maybe a little worse). I've been dating this guy who is a bit older than I am for over a month now. Because of our jobs we don't get to see eachother very often and he travels a lot. Last week he was out of the country for five days and rang me evey night while he was there, he got back here five nights ago and I haven't heard from him since. I am thinking that he might just be very busy with all that he has to catch up on, but then another part of me is saying that I should just move on. It's very confusing as everything was ok up to five days ago, he's not one of those person that is always on time. He always late actually and that has a lot to do with the fact that he works freelance and can't control his schedule sometimes, depending on the client (ok do I sound like someone making excuses?!?). My point is that, no matter how busy he is, he could have at least picked up the phone to ring once -regardless of bad he is at time managing. What do you think???
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Originally posted by sunshinebabe no matter how busy he is, he could have at least picked up the phone to ring once -regardless of bad he is at time managing. What do you think??? True and it may be a bad sign. But it may not. The phone works both ways Pick it up and find out!
sunshinebabe Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Thanks I think it is a bad sign and I just need to try and forget about him and move on. The weird thing is that it's ok if I don't speak to him, but a part of me just want to see my phone ring (even if I don't get to pick it up) but just seeing that he rang would mean that I wasn't wasting my time caring for someone who isn't worth it. I actually rang his phone yesterday and it went to voice mail so i didn't bother leaving a message because I thought if he saw me rang her would call back. Guys are so funny, he was more into this whole thing than I was and was always the one initiating things, so I guess that meant I was on his time. The only thing is I don't want to assume and then after I've made up my mind to move on he rings with some grand reason and I'm just moved on.............
RecordProducer Posted July 11, 2005 Posted July 11, 2005 Sunshinebabe, are you sure he is alive and okay? I would call him anyway. If he doesn't want you anymore, what do you have to lose? Don't you think it would be a good lesson for you to see what he has to say?
Author Angeleyez2583 Posted July 12, 2005 Author Posted July 12, 2005 Yeah we're doing good... I've gotten used to his pattern of the calling.. i'll call him, he calls me and so forth... from the beggining he's agreed on no games.... He's busy w/ his job and school, and I'm busy with school.. but what I've discovered from my experience with this people do not fall into stereotypes... everyone is dif... that is all I mean we talk at least once a day which is nice, but I'm just used to everything and the whole pattern thing... and it's nice cuz we don't see eachother everyday, so taking things slow has been awesome
sunshinebabe Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 Yeah I called his phone again today and left a message because it was out of range and went straight to voice mail, I just tried ringing again now and it just went straight to voice mail. So I figure that I could just wait to hear what he has to say when he gets in touch because a million things could have happened. It's not normal for someone to call you every day then just all of a sudden nothing, so he might be out of town and his phone is out of battery which means he can't get my number (since if my phone was dead that would be the case as all my contacts are in my phone) so that's what I am telling myself. Then again a part of me feel as if I'm making excuses on his behalf and I don't want to do that, I guess that's one reason I'm trying to jump to a quick conclusion here. I'm not the most patient person and that's been a good thing and also a fault so this time I'm going to try and be patient and at least give him the benefit of the doubt until I hear from him, then we'll see what he has to stay :-))
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