Joseph z Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 Been NC since Saturday. Hasn't been too hard. I removed her number from my phone so I wouldn't be tempted. I found one of her wallets in my car with a bunch of cash in it. Also have some of her stuff at my house too. I need to return it to her but don't want to break the NC. What do I do?
Zahara Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 Pack it all up in a box and have a friend deliver it or mail it. 3
Otter2569 Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 You could drop it off at her place but it may get stolen. Mail the wallet and stuff if its not too much $. Continue NC! 1
basil67 Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 To me, NC is mostly about avoiding unnecessary conversations and avoiding gaining insight into their life without you. If I were you, I'd send a factual message along the lines of "hey, I found your wallet and other stuff here. What do you want me to do with it?" If meeting face to face is required, just do it politely but with a minimum of conversation. 1
tomatome Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 Registered post not an option? No need for any kind of message inside.
PegNosePete Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 (edited) There's no prizes for longest running NC. Necessity is more important. Box up ALL her stuff. Drop her an email saying that you have some of her stuff including a wallet with cash, and when is a convenient time for her to come collect it (or if it's not far away and there's not too much) when you can drop it off. Just say that. No waffle. When you have arranged a date, don't go in or invite her in for a cup of tea or a chat or whatever. Just pass the boxes through the open door, say goodbye, and leave. Edited June 22, 2016 by PegNosePete 1
Author Joseph z Posted June 22, 2016 Author Posted June 22, 2016 I think mailing it is the best way to go. I think seeing her would make it a lot harder as I do still have feelings for her. It would most likely cause pain for both of us. I do have an urge to write a note and tell her I'm sorry that it didn't work out and stuff. Is that a bad idea?
whatnot Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 (edited) I do have an urge to write a note and tell her I'm sorry that it didn't work out and stuff. Is that a bad idea? If the goal is a permanent break up...The note isn't helpful. Edited June 22, 2016 by whatnot 1
Zahara Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 If you're striving to minimize any sort of contact, omit the note. It's a break-up. There is no need to reiterate the obvious.
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