What should I have done?

[LSnewbie]

Started texting a guy back this Winter who has the same medical problems as me. It started off as friends but a couple months in he started telling me how much he liked me and we started heavily flirting in texts, we were seriously considering a relationship (at least that's what I thought). He had already met me in person.

 

We met again, I guess something went wrong because he started acting weird a day later, the flirting stopped, texts got less (we were talking every night), I seemed to be annoying him, he said he was tired and stressed and I believed him. I just wanted to be there for him.

 

Fast forward a month and a half later, after not hearing from him for two weeks he told me he didn't want a LDR. No explanation, nothing. Just that they weren't fun and he didn't want to do it. I figured we could still be friends, that's what I wanted from the start anyway.

 

I didn't hear from him for two more weeks. And the more I started thinking about it the more I felt led on, he said all these sweet things and then just crushed me. Then I started thinking about the month and a half I wasted waiting on him and worrying about him. He knew all along that he didn't want a relationship anymore but he never told me.

 

I got mad thinking about it over the weekend and texted him and asked him if he was over talking to me and he said he wasn't, but the thought of him leading me on just pissed me off and I told him what I thought. He apologized and said he did it because he didn't want to hurt me but he just kinda acted like I was mad for nothing and that made me madder.

 

I'm pretty much over him, I don't think I want to be friends at this point. Am I right to be upset? Should I have gone off on him in a text? One minute I feel like it was the right thing to do and the next I feel like a jerk.

 

What should I do/should have done?

[MsJayne]

My guess is that your intensity scared him away. Texting someone and meeting up a couple of times is not a relationship, nor is it even a suggestion of a relationship. Possibly he realised that you were reading way too much into a light-hearted flirt and he backed off accordingly. If he told you he was crazy about you and wanted a relationship, then met up and slept with you, you'd have something to be annoyed about, but a few flirty texts hardly warrant rushing out to have a stone carving of the two of you entwined in an embrace.

[preraph]

Honestly, he may have never wanted a real relationship and after meeting you a couple times, may have figured out he'd never get away with just having sex with you and knew he wasn't up for any relationship reciprocity, so he backed out. I'm sorry. I really don't know what else it could be unless he decided he wasn't enough into you for a relationship. Probably he just really isn't looking for a real relationship. Dump him and move on.