Vado Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 Me and my friends, it all happends to us, she suddenly starts to talk about previous boyfriends she had. It might be during the second, third or fourth date, and we're all like 'i don't like to hear that, not yet, please stop' without saying it. One of the reasons is probably because you don't want to be her maletherapist/friendzoned guy. And that's what might happen if you don't respond well. Any advice or experiences on this topic about the best way how to deal with it?
kendahke Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 (edited) Me and my friends, it all happends to us, she suddenly starts to talk about previous boyfriends she had. It might be during the second, third or fourth date, and we're all like 'i don't like to hear that, not yet, please stop' without saying it. One of the reasons is probably because you don't want to be her maletherapist/friendzoned guy. And that's what might happen if you don't respond well. Any advice or experiences on this topic about the best way how to deal with it? Yeah--tell her "i don't like to hear that, not yet, please stop. I'm not interested in being your therapist or your girlfriend". You think that letting this chick do this means you're going to gain traction when the fact is, she's turning you into her girlfriend when she talks about her exes to you. Unless you open the door first, don't get into a discussion about her past love life. There is a time and place for that and it isn't within the first 4 dates. Nothing is a bigger turn off to me than to listen to a new man go on about how he was done so wrong by exes. I had that experience a few years ago and I was like "I don't believe he's telling me this". I had to tell him to stop talking about it because it was just turning me totally off. Don't nobody want to hear that mess. Edited June 21, 2016 by kendahke
BaileyB Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 I totally agree... Men do this too and I hate it. Things should be easy and fun for the first few dates... There should be no discussion of past breakups/grievances. It's a major turn off - obviously for both sexes. 1
Author Vado Posted June 21, 2016 Author Posted June 21, 2016 yeah, you're right, men do this too. Difference is that men mostly see her as a cure, while women probably like to know how popular you are for other women in the past.
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