joeLove Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 I have been living in this midsize city in the USA for about 16 years. I have dated and been engaged, but never married. Recently I became single again and for some reason, every girl I have tried to date either know one of my ex-s and some of the conversation just end up being odd. 3 months ago, I went to visit a friend who lives in another city(Bigger). We went to a networking event and I had a blast. There were plenty of single ladies in the age range I'm looking, and although I didn't connect with one in particular, I just had the feeling that if I lived there, I would find my match. I have been thinking about moving there, but there are a few things: 1. I own a home where I live now. It wouldn't be easy to sell it and move. 2. I have tried finding a job in the new city, but the pay is far far below what I currently make and the cost of living is much higher. Financially and career wise, it would be a step back. I cannot work remotely full time. When I joined, I agreed to work from the office. 3. The bigger city is nice, but I don't see myself living there long term. Traffic is horrible, prices are too high, crime is also high ... etc. I have been thinking about renting an apartment in the new city, fly there for 3 days per week (about 1.5 hours flight each way). This would give me a chance to meet new people, get a social life there and hopefully date. I know it cost money, but I can afford it. Anyone ever been in similar situation? How did you handle it? Please tell me about your experience living/working in one city, while dating in another.
joseb Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 I know that any time I am away from my normal routine, I find meeting people and chatting up women soooo much easier. I think most of it is mental, and if you actually lived there, you would fall into a routine after a while. This is why there are so many holiday romances!
Author joeLove Posted June 22, 2016 Author Posted June 22, 2016 In my case, I really feel that I need a change of scenery. I know that any time I am away from my normal routine, I find meeting people and chatting up women soooo much easier. I think most of it is mental, and if you actually lived there, you would fall into a routine after a while. This is why there are so many holiday romances!
Popsicle Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 I know what you mean. I definitely need a change of scenery and plan to move to a bigger city in a couple of years.
Author joeLove Posted June 22, 2016 Author Posted June 22, 2016 Any reason why you are not moving now? How is dating in your city? I know what you mean. I definitely need a change of scenery and plan to move to a bigger city in a couple of years.
Versacehottie Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 I think it's a great idea! Try to do a short term lease or short term furnished--whichever works for all your variables. I think a shake up, whether on purpose or if it happens due to work or other reasons, is a good idea. Good luck!:bunny:
redbaron007 Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 I'm kinda in the same boat....I'm about 1h outside SF and the only single ladies around seem to be 18-20 yo students at the local community college. I think I will be taking up a job in SF. I cannot move to SF since I have a son who lives w/ my ex in the country, and also SF rents are the highest in the US (even higher than Manhattan where I've lived in the past). So I'll have to take the bus which is not a big deal since it is comfortable and has free WiFi. I also try and hangout in SF on weekends.
SammySammy Posted June 22, 2016 Posted June 22, 2016 No. Seven and a half million people in my city's metropolitan area. Can't imagine ever getting bored or tired. But, I had no problems in a small town of 100,000 people. I think dating is what you make of it. Not dependent upon the number of people in a city.
Author joeLove Posted June 23, 2016 Author Posted June 23, 2016 Good comment. Sometimes, I just feel like know everyone in this town. No. Seven and a half million people in my city's metropolitan area. Can't imagine ever getting bored or tired. But, I had no problems in a small town of 100,000 people. I think dating is what you make of it. Not dependent upon the number of people in a city.
Author joeLove Posted June 23, 2016 Author Posted June 23, 2016 Thanks for the comment. I think I'm getting really motivated to pull the plug and make the move. I think it's a great idea! Try to do a short term lease or short term furnished--whichever works for all your variables. I think a shake up, whether on purpose or if it happens due to work or other reasons, is a good idea. Good luck!:bunny: 1
Popsicle Posted June 23, 2016 Posted June 23, 2016 Any reason why you are not moving now? How is dating in your city? I've got a teen in school here. Dating here is not that great, IMO, but I do have a BF.
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