mortensorchid Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 About a year and a half / two years ago, I had a thing for a coworker. I felt and continue to feel foolish about it, I admit. For information, see this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/503316-phase-3-a Well, I sent him a text asking "Want to hang out?" He texted back "I am not interested in you romantically." I straitened up my lapels, adjusted my cuffs, then texted back "Well love makes you fat, doesn't it?" I erased his number and the thread of texting, no contact since. But I spy on him on Facebook. We know enough people in common, I have this sense that someday I am going to see him again. I've moved on, I have been with others since, but I spy on him. Why? I'm insecure I guess. I haven't sent him a friend request, he's not my friend. Someone who does that is not someone you want as a friend. Why do I continue to do so? Any ideas other than what I already posted?
No_Go Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 1) You have difficulties processing rejection 2) You're a bit codependent 3) Deep inside you still hope for a miracle to happen It is a human thing... I aadmit I've done the same. One of the guys that rejected me badly in the past after loooong platonic affair ... I've followed him for ... 5 years or so? ... I just feel like we have unfinished business ... We talk for work occasionally and I'm always stricked by the unmatched intensity of the interaction. Although it is technically case closed - he's on wife N 2 and baby N 2, and me on BF N 3 since we parted ways About a year and a half / two years ago, I had a thing for a coworker. I felt and continue to feel foolish about it, I admit. For information, see this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/503316-phase-3-a Well, I sent him a text asking "Want to hang out?" He texted back "I am not interested in you romantically." I straitened up my lapels, adjusted my cuffs, then texted back "Well love makes you fat, doesn't it?" I erased his number and the thread of texting, no contact since. But I spy on him on Facebook. We know enough people in common, I have this sense that someday I am going to see him again. I've moved on, I have been with others since, but I spy on him. Why? I'm insecure I guess. I haven't sent him a friend request, he's not my friend. Someone who does that is not someone you want as a friend. Why do I continue to do so? Any ideas other than what I already posted?
todreaminblue Posted June 21, 2016 Posted June 21, 2016 I would say the unfinished business thing too....feelings not expressed.....and ignored by you......i wish you well...deb
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